Find someone else. Someone younger, thinner, and hotter.
This is super cringey…
[quote]Apoklyps wrote:
Man, if a “lengthy” relationship is 1 year and 3 months, what’s a short relationship?
I’m going to make an educated guess and say that there’s an incredibly good probability that she was the one who dumped you. Dude, it wasn’t that long of a relationship. More to the point, it’s been 9 fucking months since and she still hasn’t reconsidered. Why would she start now, especially since she’s banging some fresh meat.
Pursuing her for 9 months following the break-up is the epitome of neediness. The only way you’ll ever see her lady bits again is as a possible revenge fuck when her new beau pisses her off. I’d say you should cut your losses and preserve your dignity, but I think the dignity ship sailed a long time ago.
Sorry bud, but you need some tough love right now.[/quote]
Not sure where you deduced the info but We were together for a lot longer then a year. We’ve been broken up for a year and under a half, and she met this guy 9 months ago, started dating a little after that.
Anyways I did not tell her.
Haven’t actually talked to her since before I made this thread so I guess at this point it’s time to take Maximus’ advice and look somewhere else.
Still think every girl…or guy for that matter has the right to know if someone is cheating on them…but whatever
I really do care about her, it’s too bad it went the way it did. I always felt like if just one or 2 things were different it would have been perfect…hell I still think that, but apparently I’m just young dumb and naïve.
Edit: Anyone care to advise me in how to get back in the game, and even possibly get the ex drenched in regret, with a hint of wonder to what if?
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
[quote]Apoklyps wrote:
Man, if a “lengthy” relationship is 1 year and 3 months, what’s a short relationship?
I’m going to make an educated guess and say that there’s an incredibly good probability that she was the one who dumped you. Dude, it wasn’t that long of a relationship. More to the point, it’s been 9 fucking months since and she still hasn’t reconsidered. Why would she start now, especially since she’s banging some fresh meat.
Pursuing her for 9 months following the break-up is the epitome of neediness. The only way you’ll ever see her lady bits again is as a possible revenge fuck when her new beau pisses her off. I’d say you should cut your losses and preserve your dignity, but I think the dignity ship sailed a long time ago.
Sorry bud, but you need some tough love right now.[/quote]
Not sure where you deduced the info but We were together for a lot longer then a year. We’ve been broken up for a year and under a half, and she met this guy 9 months ago, started dating a little after that.
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A lot of people seemed to mis-read your “We broke up 1 year and 3 months ago” as “We dated for 1 year and 3 months” because they were careless in reading your OP. This is the third or fourth person who made this mistake, but I think your meaning was clear, it just wasn’t written in a way that people were expecting.
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
Anyways I did not tell her.
Haven’t actually talked to her since before I made this thread so I guess at this point it’s time to take Maximus’ advice and look somewhere else.
Still think every girl…or guy for that matter has the right to know if someone is cheating on them…but whatever
I really do care about her, it’s too bad it went the way it did. I always felt like if just one or 2 things were different it would have been perfect…hell I still think that, but apparently I’m just young dumb and naÃ?¯ve.
Edit: Anyone care to advise me in how to get back in the game, and even possibly get the ex drenched in regret, with a hint of wonder to what if?[/quote]
I think the first step is to let the ex go and begin focusing on yourself. Which is to say don’t let her be your motivation either as a goal or as someone you’re looking to cause regret.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
Anyways I did not tell her.
Haven’t actually talked to her since before I made this thread so I guess at this point it’s time to take Maximus’ advice and look somewhere else.
Still think every girl…or guy for that matter has the right to know if someone is cheating on them…but whatever
I really do care about her, it’s too bad it went the way it did. I always felt like if just one or 2 things were different it would have been perfect…hell I still think that, but apparently I’m just young dumb and naÃ??Ã?¯ve.
Edit: Anyone care to advise me in how to get back in the game, and even possibly get the ex drenched in regret, with a hint of wonder to what if?[/quote]
I think the first step is to let the ex go and begin focusing on yourself. Which is to say don’t let her be your motivation either as a goal or as someone you’re looking to cause regret.
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Yeah I know. Just kinda lost at the moment
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
Anyways I did not tell her.
Haven’t actually talked to her since before I made this thread so I guess at this point it’s time to take Maximus’ advice and look somewhere else.
Still think every girl…or guy for that matter has the right to know if someone is cheating on them…but whatever
I really do care about her, it’s too bad it went the way it did. I always felt like if just one or 2 things were different it would have been perfect…hell I still think that, but apparently I’m just young dumb and naÃ??Ã?¯ve.
Edit: Anyone care to advise me in how to get back in the game, and even possibly get the ex drenched in regret, with a hint of wonder to what if?[/quote]
I think the first step is to let the ex go and begin focusing on yourself. Which is to say don’t let her be your motivation either as a goal or as someone you’re looking to cause regret.
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Agree with this.
This is time to focus on yourself. Be greedy with your own personal goals and wants. If someone does not make you first choice, then bounce. Don’t be a side person, a back up, or a fall back. I would flip this as, “oh you want to look around for someone else?..uh ok.”
I was in a similar position as the OP years ago, now as I look back, the original chick I pined over was not worthy of washing my sweaty gym clothes.
I think it really is true that once you focus on your own needs dating and relationships become much easier and better. As long as you focus on others you’re building on shaky ground. Focus on your own bottom lines and stuff clarifies.
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
Anyways I did not tell her.
Haven’t actually talked to her since before I made this thread so I guess at this point it’s time to take Maximus’ advice and look somewhere else.
Still think every girl…or guy for that matter has the right to know if someone is cheating on them…but whatever
I really do care about her, it’s too bad it went the way it did. I always felt like if just one or 2 things were different it would have been perfect…hell I still think that, but apparently I’m just young dumb and naÃ??Ã?¯ve.
Edit: Anyone care to advise me in how to get back in the game, and even possibly get the ex drenched in regret, with a hint of wonder to what if?[/quote]
Improve yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. You will be able to let go of your feelings for your ex and become a better person in the process. That way, your next relationship will be stronger and you will have more to bring to the table.
EDIT: I guess I just said what everyone else did.