[quote]Grneyes wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
[quote]Grneyes wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Grneyes wrote:
I would have to say in the first three questions there are ways to tell when you conceived. Granted, if it’s within a few days…that would be up to the woman and her husband to decide, if they want to take that chance. If the baby ends up being the rapist’s they can always give it up for adoption, but personally I would err on the side of caution and abort and hope my husband would understand. We can always get pregnant again. As for the fifth question, I would do everything in my power to make my child’s life as full as I possibly could for as long as it lived. A risk to the mother’s life is if the continued pregnancy and birth would put her life in any kind of danger. I’m not talking about pregnancy induced diabetes (I cannot remember the term for this right now, I’m sorry), but serious medical issues. [/quote]
Okay, well I guess what I am trying to get at with the first three questions, is how does the value of that human being change based on who the father is?
You can always get pregnant again? I hope I have mistaken what you said, but are you saying that child is a means to an end? If it is not what the child you want (the end), you can just abort and get pregnant again and conceive another child (the means)?
‘Any kind of danger’ seems a tad arbitrary. Let me see if I can understand you better.
Like what ailment would the mother need to be in risk of to induce abortion? Is a small risk good enough or does it have to be a good chance of it happening? If there is a high risk (or even a small risk), what if it is easily preventable?
NB: I don’t mean to be cold about this subject, I condemn rape and the rapist without reserve. No woman deserves to have something forced on her like that and not only is she being forced to let go of her innocence, she was forced to give up her freedom in some ways.[/quote]
My thinking is why should I have to go through a pregnancy resulting from a rape? Why do I need to be put through that? Wasn’t getting raped enough? Now I have to give birth to that kid? No thank you. I apologize that I am not thinking of the possible human life and I’m being selfish, but I think that making me go through with an unwanted pregnancy makes the rape that much more horrible and damaging.
No, what I’m saying is that I would hope my husband would understand WHY I would need to abort that baby and understand that we can always get pregnant again and for sure conceive a child in love and not have a baby possibly tainted by rape. If there is a way to do a paternity test in utero, an abortion in such a case would not be considered.
Okay, the only thing I can think of is my best friend from college. She has endometriosis and actually needed to take fertility drugs to get pregnant. Her first pregnancy almost killed her. She had the world’s worst pregnancy and her labor was unreal. Her doctors said she should NEVER get pregnant again or her life would seriously be in danger. Now, they also thought there was an extremely remote chance that the first pregnancy “rebooted” her reproductive system but they didn’t know. I even suggested I would be a surrogate if she decided to have another kid. Just this year she had her second daughter and her pregnancy was textbook and easy. Now, if it had gone the way the doctors thought it would, and if her life was in danger, if she started hemorrhaging uncontrollably or something equally horrific, I would say an abortion would be okay in that case. Or at least inducing a miscarriage. [/quote]
A rape is indeed a horrifying thing and I can’t speak to being raped since is has never happened to me, or you for that matter. But it still ignores the main and only question that matters. When does human life begin?
Now, if I were a politician, I would negotiate down to the rape and incest thing because it accounts for very, very few abortions. I would negotiate that down to get rid of the millions for the sake of the less than 100.
Every life is sacred, but I understand that numbers matter too. If I could get rid of most forsaking the few, I would do it.[/quote]
I have never been concerned about when life begins and it’s role in the abortion debate. I am pro-choice and think that when all is said and done it is the woman’s ultimate choice. I definitely do NOT think that she should make the decision without first telling the father and discussing it with him. I know someone this happened to a long time ago and it still bothers him today. Would that baby have been a boy or a girl? What kind of dad would he have been? What kind of life would he have today if that baby had been allowed to be born? [/quote]
I agree that the father should have a voice in the decision. It’s true that the decision affects the mother the most in the short term, due to being pregnant and delivering the baby. But the child is as much the father’s as it is hers, and he should have equal say. If he does want it and she doesn’t, let him have full custody and responsibility once the baby is born.