You keep bringing this up, I have yet to actually see it.
Maybe its guys that have too many options? The OP is good at BJJ, good at his job, good at picking up women (for 1 date), he should be fine by my book but he’s miserable. From the info he’s given us, he needs a goal but is reluctant to try it. A lot of the ideas he’s been given he’s shot down, he doesn’t really want to improve right now.
The guys you’re talking about being happier I think it’s because they have more of a drive to survive than the OP, they have to work for what they get…Apparently this guys has it all.
Way out of place for YOU. This is my opinion based on what I have observed, modern feminism, as I described it is causing havoc in certain areas of society. This is my opinion, you don’t have to be a dick about it, but you chose to, and you chose to throw in the “you hate women” bullshit.
Oh, and BTW, there has been a series of interesting back and forth between people on twitter and elsewhere about 'you’re a transphob" for not being attracted to a transwoman. You think this is outside the realm of possibility? oh really? no, they didn’t rally up and get Martina Navratilova (an outspoken lesbian feminist) booted because she wasn’t radical enough. Wake up Portland boy your peeps are batshit.
It’s your opinion - it’s not fact. And facts don’t care about your feelings. You getting worked up over your “opinion” is akin to a hyperprogressive triggered about you accidentally using wrong pronoun.
You can’t even name what “certain areas” of society modern feminism is causing “havoc” in, otherwise you already would have. I’m all ears tho.
I don’t really care for what people on twitter say. A lot of these “activist” pages are just hyperprogressive trolls and/or bots stirring the pot. If you use social media as your case for the real world, you’re gonna be disappointed, which interestingly enough, social media was one of your bullet points.
You still haven’t met any real life trans people who have accused you of transphobia.
OP is doing just fine. He just needed a platform to vent a lil bit. You just found this as an opportunity to relay your incel agenda.
I have a soft spot for GB for some reason … but he’ll have to sufficiently define that fuzzy term “modern feminism” to be able to provide any type of meaningful analysis.
But I don’t think that’s the aim really … pretty sure it’s just to rant and make a thread about something other than it’s original intent.
And here you are, getting reeled in like a fish on a hook … why does his opinion bother you to the point of continued engagement? This conversation isn’t going to go anywhere…
Ah, you’re right. This is all bullshit for me to just come in here and hate on weeeemen.
So, tell me is Christan Hoff Sommers considered a crazy person in Portland? Surely, this well known Phd, writer, lecturer, feminist on Bill Maher can’t be rational. Why are they even talking about this? geee wizzz
Yeah, it has. To try to re-rail, I offer my “not having a bad day” plaque on my office wall. My grandfather’s gift to everyone here is to encourage you to print this off and stick it in your desk (or wherever).
If you think you are having a bad day or at a dead end, look at it. If you can’t say you are having a worse day, stop the negative thinking and do something about your situation. This would totally tickle my grandfather.
I can relate a little. My grandma, her siblings, and my great grandparents had to move from Western Poland to Cuba for the same exact reason. My grandma met my granddad in Cuba, where he was born, and where they had my mom. Then in the 50s they had to make the pain-in-the-ass trip here.
There is a lesson in this, but the OP seems depressed, a condition that can happen anywhere, first world or not.
Both my grandpas are also badasses
My maternal grandpa was too poor to afford secondary school but he showed up anyways and took the name of a girl who died and couldn’t show up. He excelled and became an esteemed physics teacher
My paternal grandpa also overcame crippling poverty and became a philosophy professor who published 12books and countless papers. More impressively, he survived colon cancer and a stroke that paralyzed his left side-yet, he still writes and walks almost 5k a day
On a related note, my grandads PhD advisor-95yrs old- published a paper last month
As inspiring as these stories are, I agree with @BrickHead. They aren’t necessarily going to be helpful to someone suffering from clinical depression.
What WOULD be helpful is a trip to his primary care physician and a referral to a therapist.
But I will say to @greenboy that my grandparents would laugh at his hard luck stories of uppity social media divas and soul sucking office jobs.
I don’t dispute that ours is an aspirational and materialistic culture, but as far as people I’m actually exposed to go, you particularly exemplify this mindset. Be the change you wish to see, Gandhi.
Yes and no. If the various grandparents at issue had clinical depression, they’d each go to the doctor and defeat it just like they defeated the Nazis (or cancer or whatever is keeping them down).*
There’s a certain amount of gumption required to defeat anything
I obviously don’t know if the OP has depression, but it sounds more like he’s been dealt or played a series of crappy hands (including wasting a chunk of his life in a bad relationship and a job he hates).
But, to quote the immortal bard Kenny Rogers, every hands a winner and every hands a loser, but you have to play the cards you’re dealt.
