[quote]SteinJorgen wrote:
I can somewhat relate to your story, but I will not go into details. But here is what i’m thinking when i read your story.
Simplify it. You are overthinking it. You are probably very intelligent combined with some mental health issues, amd maybe some lacking social skills. It is what it is. Now, how can you create a good life for you?
-Dont get stressed about your cortisol-levels, that only makes it worse. Dont stress about training, shit takes time. I have a gym at home, in the storage room in the appartmentbuildings basement. It is a truly small room. I have a chins-bar, some pushup-handles, a barbell and some weights. I made a bench out of sandbags, wich i lay on and use more sandbags to put the barbell on when “benching”.
Do exercises as bent over row, chins, pullups, towel pullups, pushupvariatons, deadlifts, squats, militarypresses, carry sandbags up stairs and so on. It is what it is, and its sufficent. Dont strive to have the perfect diet, that you can do when you`re older and have money. Eat nuts, fry frozen vegetables, drink milk, eggs, some decent bread with cheese on it or whatever. Get your protein and your fats. You are young, and it will work fine.
Train five times a week, even if it is only some squats with sandbags. This will help you from your mental issues. Remember to take days off training, after some weeks. To let body recover. Find meaning in your training, and it will help you. And it takes time, dont stress it. Try to increase weights every time you do a exercise, keep a log.
-You are young, it will be allright. Dont think, just do.
-Dont get depressed about girls, i got my first girlfriend at the age of 22. She is now my wife.
-I also didnt get jobs, but to be honest. I was depressed, somewhat lonely and i had no confidence. Of course no-one would want to hire me. So i just decided enough is enough. Cut my hair, shaved, got out of my room, decided that i wanted better posture, to be more confident and to get a job. A few weeks later i got two job offers. I believed in myself, so also did the employers. Think about it. Strive to be positive. Life is good, even if you dont know it yet.
-So, about the you mental health. For me, as you probably have understood by now, it works to simplify things. I have times when my head starts to race in every direction, and i get this feeling that life isnt ambitious enough or whatever. And i snap myself out of it. Because ambition is good, but to let it destroy how you handle life doesnt get you anywhere. You have mental health issues, dont let it control your life.
This is the most important advice i have, and probably the hardest to follow:
-Turn off the computer. Sleep at night. Get up in the morning. When you dont have anything to do,
that can be hard, i know. Get to bed before it gets too late, read a book in bed or something. Dont watch tv or use a computer. it only keeps you up all night, and sleep all day.
Get up early and apply for work. OR even better, get back to school and just finish it. Even if its boring, or you are smarter. Doesnt matter. It is a system, do school - increase chances of getting a good job.
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Absolutely fantastic post. I cannot stress enough the last paragraph.
