I wouldn’t love her less but I sure as fuck would think less of her.
Great thread, guys!
A few points:
- One of my boys brought up stevos argument more than once: "Would you want someone who did(fill-in-the-blank) being your (wife/mother of your children/teacher of your daughters/“role model”) etc.?
My question is this…is the person who buys, downloads, saves, sells, wacks-off to and is almost “addicted” to porn a “better” person than the performer? Is her openess about her past worse than the hypocrisy that many people exhibit when they talk about what she did?
Judging others can REALLY get us onto a slippery slope…
- VROOM is right…this is not about “having some fun” and having a fuck-buddy who can invite over her hot friends…I’m asking about marrying/Lifetime comittment.
3)I’d like to hear from the ladies (if they are reading this!) about comitting to a MALE porn star…
Let’s keep the discussion going!
Mufasa
I know… provy, i’m with you. I would personally do porn. I would have no problem putting myself in that situation I could give a shit what other people think. I know that 80% or more of them men who I encounter in life would be with me, (maybe even slightly jealous) and prolly 50% of the women, and probably the younger hot ones at that would not give two shits.
Therefore, why would I not want someone else to do this as a profession? I hear whoever said that these pgirls might have emotional problems, But I think now a days, it is such a widely accepted, (and sometimes reccomended) thing that girls may get into porn just because they think the could make some good money and they like to screw.
All this BS about girls are whores if they sleep around also bugs the hell out of me. I hate double standards.
[quote]Mufasa wrote:
Would You Marry A Porn Star?
There are a LOT of interesting conversations me and my boys get into in the gym or while we’re out…and one of the most “heated” was one that I wanted to pose to The Nation (both male AND female members)…and it’s a serious question:
Would you marry a Porn Star?
(Be careful…you may think it’s an “easy” question, but let me set up the scenario…)
You’re in the gym, and catch the eye of a very cute member (I’ll just say “she” for the guys…but remember that I’m talking to The Nation Gals also).
She is in the gym a lot…she has a GREAT smile…and as you talk more and more, you find out that not only do you guys have a lot in common…she just seems “real”…
You both really become close over time…and VERY serious about each other…but one day she “lowers the bomb”…we’re not talking about some soft-core pics here and there…we’re talking about all-over-the-internet, numerous DVD, “Vivid” Award winning, every orifice imaginable, thousands of encounters, “specialty” hard-core starlet.
For sake of argument:
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She been out of the business for almost a year now…she just didn’t want to do it anymore.
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There are NO issues of drug addiction, previous sexual, mental or physical abuse…or of herpes and HIV (real recognized hazards of the business).
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You’ve found yourself absolutely taken with her and she with you…BUT
Would you take it further?
Why or why not?
Let me tell you guys…with this being a multi-billion dollar industry, I will guarantee you that it ain’t just a lot of homebound weirdos watching porn (try looking in the mirror!)…and answering this question can put a BIG spotlight on your own hypocrisy…
(If this thread takes off…I’ll share with you some of my thoughts…and some of those arguments that me and my “Posse” had!)
What do you think?
Mufasa
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Absolutely, if she was out of the biz, clean(no aids or Hep C) and not hooked on anything, i’d be all over it, no doubt about it.
I am not open minded enough to be with a chick that is still in the biz though, that is something I couldn’t deal with.
But if she is out, then I’m there.
You took it the wrong way. I didn’t mean to imply she would do all the stuff that she does on the screen just that someone that has that much sex has to be really good at it.[/quote]
I have to disagree with that as well. Just because she’s had “Alot of Sex” doenst mean she’s gonna be good at it. A Porn Queen is an actress, and in this acts in a specific manner that sells movies.
May she have learned a few tricks… Sure. But being good in bed, and being a Porn Queen are not the same thing.
You also have to look at this issue:
If she’s been fucking all day as her job, or used to. Then are you sure she’s gonna be/stay interested unless you are a BEDROOM GOD. (Sorry there can only be one bedroom god and it’s me! LOL)
I doubt she’s gonna writh around like some snake in heat at the thought of your andaconda. She’s had PLENTY of andacondas so you’d better be sure there is someting special about yours.
Anything you do ALOT, eventually becomes common place and to an extent a little boring. Ever ride a rollercoaster over and over again until it’s no fun anymore? Jump a motorcycle and end up wanting to go higher and longer? Master class 2 rapids and look forward to eventually handling class 5? Remember when finally getting ski the blue runs without falling was fun? What if you could only bench 135 the rest of your life for 5 sets of 10?
Think “Been there Done that with a bigger dick in each hole”, Or,thinking to herself: “When the hell is he gonna do something that excites me, maybe I should go back into porn at least there I was bored and made money! “Oh baby! oh baby! yeah!” (as she checks her nails as she wishes you’d hurry up and get done)”
Remember when the thought of a kiss from your girl gave you a hard-on?
Remember how it felt the first time a girl rubbed your cock through your pants and you were happy it went THAT FAR!
Remember the feeling of the first breasts you felt fully unclothed or the first time you saw your girlfriends pussy?
Do these things still give you that same reaction?
Now think she done it all. Not with one guy but with hundreds. Not with hundreds at her appartment alone but on camera in front of 50 to 100 others on set. Not just with hundreds but with hundreds of other PORN stars trying their best to make this the hottest looking and sounding sex act ever filmed.
Still think you can keep up?
[quote]Mufasa wrote:
Great thread, guys!
A few points:
- One of my boys brought up stevos argument more than once: "Would you want someone who did(fill-in-the-blank) being your (wife/mother of your children/teacher of your daughters/“role model”) etc.?
My question is this…is the person who buys, downloads, saves, sells, wacks-off to and is almost “addicted” to porn a “better” person than the performer? Is her openess about her past worse than the hypocrisy that many people exhibit when they talk about what she did?
Judging others can REALLY get us onto a slippery slope…
- VROOM is right…this is not about “having some fun” and having a fuck-buddy who can invite over her hot friends…I’m asking about marrying/Lifetime comittment.
3)I’d like to hear from the ladies (if they are reading this!) about comitting to a MALE porn star…
Let’s keep the discussion going!
Mufasa[/quote]
Dude, seriously, if you have a real connection with her that is genuine, who gives a rats ass about the past.
It is rare to make that kind of connection, go for it and don’t look back.
Who gives a rats ass what anyone else thinks.
Let me just say that the men porn stars I have seen are uglier than hell. You guys may think that "the bigger, the better’, but the thought of being touched by, much less married to one of those guys makes me want to hurl. I would rather have Jenna Jameson . And I don’t even lean that way.
“…I wouldn’t love her less but I sure as fuck would think less of her…”
apayne…you’ve got to explain this one to me a little more…it’s a bit confusing, Brother…
Mufasa
[quote]vroom wrote:
Just a note, the question was MARRY not DATE. There can be a difference between the two… to you horndogs just thinking she’d be a wild lay with the possibility of threesomes.[/quote]
So how 'bout ya Vroom? Going to marry the porn star or what?
What’s in the past is history! What would matter to me is the person now. If I was attracted to her mentally, spiritually, and physically, then her past wouldn’t bother me. Another words if she changed from that person she was. If I loved her I would deal with any negative thoughts from family or friends.
If she still wanted to bang tons of guys I wouldn’t make the step to marriage.
Also, what about some of your wives and girlfriends now. They could have had just as wild a past sex life as any porn star just not on film or who knows maybe there are some amateur films floating around out there!
Oh, and it would still be a bonus if some of her past female starlet friends came over for sleep overs! (jk)
[quote]Chewman wrote:
provy07 wrote:
And if you haven’t had sex with her yet then your sure going to enjoy your ride! Whooo!!!
Are you sure about this. She is a porn “Actress”. If you have been stroking to her movies, and are expecting the wild screaming orgasmic animal who wants all her holes filled with LARGE objects at the same time while her hands are buried deep in other girls, you are in for a large disappointment.
She is not going to ACT for you. She’s gonna be herself. What you see on screen isnt what you are getting. You are getting a woman not a sexual image manipulated to sell jerk-off movies.
Tonights lovin’ isnt gonna be “Pick a Fuckhole Roulette”.
She may have only done “Anal” because they tagged on an extra $1000 if she did, and in real life wont go there except on your birthday!
Maybe she only does women on screen for the $$$.
Are you expecting her be a cum loving cant get enough of the taste wishin’ she could buy it at the store and drink it like Coke Classic oral slut?
Again, I’m betting only if the money is right!
If you honestly believe that what you see on the screen is really her. Then fantasize away.[/quote]
This is why you get a camera.
I wouldn’t mind having a former porn star being the mother of my children. Again, if I happened to find a girl like that that I wanted to spend my life with, that would include her being the kind of girl to deal with my children. And it’s not like I’ve never done shitty things in my life, so I wouldn’t be qualified to raise people’s children by others’ standards.
I think I could handle being married to a girl in the business, but I don’t think that would work well with her being a mother at the same time. So the kids would have to come after the career.
And I’d have no problem worrying about “keeping up”. For one, if two people are in love, that is truly not an issue. And two, who says that I’d be the one worried about keeping up?
(WARNING: For everyone who doesn’t want their Testosterone to drop into the “Lifetime/Oprah” range…DO NOT READ THE FOLLOWING!)
chewman brings up some important points…and since I’ve never known a Porn star personally, I’m only speculating:
- Communication, probably more than a woman whom has NOT experienced what she has, would be paramount…her needs may not be NEARLY as dramatic, kinky and hardcore as you may think…where Love, comforting, understanding…holding and listening… my have become MUCH more important to her than a DP and a facial from guys with 12 inch units…
Just a thought…
- Yea, Jana…like everything else, there probably is a “double standard”…think about it…“The Walrus”, Ron Jeremy, was one of the biggest male stars EVER!
Go figure!
(Oprah button OFF!!!)
Mufasa
[quote]Mufasa wrote:
“…I wouldn’t love her less but I sure as fuck would think less of her…”
apayne…you’ve got to explain this one to me a little more…it’s a bit confusing, Brother…
Mufasa
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I was responding to this thought…
“…but if your daughter grows up and decides she wants to do porn for a living are you going to think less of her or love her less? Think about it.”
Edit:I just read the post and don’t know if I cleared up or not. Basically if my daughter did porn I wouldn’t love her less, but I would think less of her.
[quote]RickJames wrote:
And I’d have no problem worrying about “keeping up”. For one, if two people are in love, that is truly not an issue. And two, who says that I’d be the one worried about keeping up? [/quote]
exactly… He’s Rick James Bitch!
hmmm…that depends. Did she participate in double penetration??
This question just isn’t realistic. Love is love whether the girl did porn or not.
Now, i’ve never been i love. I don’t see myself even getting married to a regular non-pornstar chick.
If I truly loved her, I probably would marry her. Love surpasses anything. The fact that she was honest with you, shows that she has integrity. Shows that she cares about you. Instead of keeping it a secret and waiting for you to find out from someone else, she tells you about her past so that you accept her for what she is and what she was.
that is funny= )
[quote]provy07 wrote:
steveo wrote:
At some point in her adult life she said;
“Yes, I will have sex with strangers for money, and allow myself to be taped while doing this.”
I’m definately not one to hold someone’s past against them, but you would want this woman to raise your children? Dating her for the fun of dating her is one thing, but when you’re going to marry someone, you have to think, “This woman will teach my daughter how to act…” Think about that for a minute.
Being a sleazy insurance salesman who sells useless, unnecessary policies to old widows is also just a job. I wouldn’t marry someone who did that, and I wouldn’t marry a pornstar. The fact that it pays the bills doesn’t mean I have to agree with it.
So your implying that just because she is a pornstar she wouldn’t be a good mother? This world needs to open up their minds and realize that being a pornstar is just a job. A job that sells well. Sure most parents would prefer their daughter be something else but if your daughter grows up and decides she wants to do porn for a living are you going to think less of her or love her less? Think about it.[/quote]
Again…this question seems to be dodged in this discussion (it sure was with my Boys…)
My question (again) is this…
Is the person who buys, downloads, saves, sells, wacks-off to and is almost “addicted” to porn a “better” person than the performer? Is her openess about her past worse than the hypocrisy that many people exhibit when they talk about what she did?
Judging others can REALLY get us onto a slippery slope…
Mufasa