My middle child starts HS tomorrow. We’re going to take the El together and then I’ll get off and he’ll continue on to school There’s a 60% chance I sob like a baby right there on the train.
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Good news. Nice you got to spend some face to face time with him, and got him to talk to you.
I don’t want to jinx you here, but be prepared for anxiety to show up in some other form. Maybe. This may not happen to him.
Sometimes we rationalize our way out of specific anxiety-provoking thoughts… and then the abnormally high stress response finds somewhere else to go. We find a new place to focus our stressful thoughts, something else that matches all the cortisol and adrenaline going on. It may not happen, but be prepared to be patient if there’s a setback, and he’s not cured. Sometimes it takes awhile to learn how to get this under control, all normal with learning any new skill.
I just did this with my youngest, minus the train.
I didn’t cry, but I did come home and hold my middle (and favorite) one on my lap for awhile. She’s the only one who will still let me do that. I’d let you hold her if you were here.
Bad news… hes in full melt down. It would seem that there was a screw up in regards with his
some of his financial aid at the moment… ugh. Even though the wife and myself can take care of it he is in full blown freak out.
This little bugger has his first full week of kindergarten under his belt.
I didn’t cry. It was allergies.
Nah. I had a weepy moment. Mostly pride though. The kiddo is going to do great.
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OK. Having his financial aid messed up or miscalculated is a real thing.
If he wasn’t anxious about that, something would be wrong with him. That would stress anyone out. Dang. Sorry to hear it. Hopefully you or your wife can help him untangle it.
Congratulations, Sky. What a privilege to get to see them grow, right? He’s just adorable.
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Earlier in the thread I said we were “almost” official empty-nesters … well, you can remove the “almost”. Our son signed a lease with two of his buddies and moved out this weekend. We were happy for him and proud of him, and we keep telling ourselves it’s not really that different. But, it is! My wife hasn’t slept well yet, and I’m even surprised at how much I’ve been thinking about it. Kind of weird. And now I’m closing the office early to go home and wait for Hurricane Gordon.
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@ Hurricanes. I hope you all come through the storm OK.
@ Empty nest.
Hopefully you get the film reference.
This is probably how Terry Bradshaw found out he’s old. When a nude scene isn’t so much shmexy, but very, very funny.
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I do get the reference! We sent a selfie from the upper chest up with no visible clothes to my best friend with the caption “this is our life now!”
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That’s awesome!! I bet he died laughing.
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sounds like mamas-boy-mama syndrome.
Teach (force) them to take care of themselves at a young age and the transition to them leaving will be seamless. I mowed the lawn beginning when I was 8, did my laundry at the same age, and cooked dinner for my parents when I was in high school (fuck now I’m just realizing how lazy my parents were lol). Do you think my mom missed me when I went to college?
STOP - this isn’t parenting advice, it’s just…common sense 
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He’s having a great time!
I love it when they do that. Just jiggling, wiggling, and Wahoo!
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When they look you in the eyes and smile (recognizing you for the first time) was legit one of the happiest moments of my life.
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One of my first son’s first words was “bup” - he used to say it when he saw trucks or had his truck toys - so about 1000 times per day.
It was very cool when he started calling trucks by their actual names - fire truck, dump truck, excavator, etc. Then I realised I couldn’t remember the last time he said “bup”… very sad.
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My oldest little dude this Monday, his first day at pre-pre-school (just turned 3, he’s quite a big 3 year old).
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Empty nester too in roughly 2.5 weeks. It’s funny, I had no problem at all with the thought of my last son heading away; heck, we already went through when my oldest left for college (2 years now).
But with 2.5 weeks left, wow. I have this really weird unknown feeling: a bit of bittersweat sadness.
Damn, maybe I need to go back on anabolics and be a real man again, lol!
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Have you been adding creatine to the morning juice?
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Everyday my man. Everyday, lol!