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[quote]therajraj wrote:
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[quote]therajraj wrote:
Given recent headlines, with the Catholic Church nationwide struggling with its worst sex scandal, you might easily assume these victims are boys and adolescent males – altar boys, perhaps, assaulted by pedophiles lurking beneath the collar.
They are victims, yes, but they are not boys at all. They are grown women, forced to live with a betrayal many misperceive to be borne almost exclusively by males.
Look again.
“Of the priests we’ve evaluated, more abuse girls than abuse boys,” says Gary Schoener, a Minneapolis psychologist and expert on clergy sexual abuse.
Despite media emphasis over the years on male victims – boys and men with horrific stories of their own – Schoener and other experts believe that troubled priests and other clergy are more likely to abuse females, especially adult women.
Sometimes their stories trickle out; more often, they do not.
Meanwhile, the number of male victims in a single parish can add up quickly, as one pedophile-priest may have unlimited access for a long period to boys on outings or other male-oriented church activities.
From this, big headlines are made.
“Everything’s always about the altar boys. It’s like nothing ever happened to the girls,” says Terrie Light of Castro Valley, West Coast regional director of SNAP, Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests (survivorsnetwork.org).
Light was about 8 and attending church in the Oakland diocese when she went to the rectory looking for her mother. She was raped by the priest instead.
Now 50, she struggled emotionally for years – feeling “crazy and weird and defective.” There simply were no other stories about women.
“When I finally found other (abused) women, I started getting better,” she said. “I found out my story wasn’t all that uncommon.”
There are many explanations for the widespread misperception about victims of clergy abuse, though one of the most disturbing is this: the old “she asked for it.”
She must have seduced him. She made him sin.
The girl, however young, is cast as temptress.
Such was the logic played over and over to a Los Angeles woman, who became pregnant years ago after her priest and six other priests routinely had intercourse with her beginning when she was 16.
“As Catholics, we see priests even above angels,” said Rita Milla, who is now married with a second child. “To believe whatever they said had to be the right thing.”
After giving birth in the Philippines, where the priest had hidden her away, Milla returned with her child and eventually sued the church.
In 1991, the priest publicly apologized for seducing the teenager, but she did not win her lawsuit – in part, because it was filed too late. She had refused to settle, she said, because she would not agree to silence.
Yet even today, the courts are not always sympathetic to female victims.
Boys not only get more media coverage in clergy abuse cases, said Schoener, they also tend to get bigger verdicts. Homophobia, he believes, has been a “very, very powerful force.”
“In modern society, homosexual rape is considered a more heinous act,” said the psychologist, who is frequently an expert witness.
Ranking victims’ worthiness is the worst thing we can do – look no further than the bickering over the Sept. 11 fund. But overlooking a whole group of victims is right up there.
“There are a lot of women (victims) out there who believe they are alone and isolated and ‘special’ in a bad way,” says Light.
They are not, and that is the good news. For both sexes, it is also the bad.
Here is a link to more female sex abuse cases: News Stories about Female Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse
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Yeah some girls may have been abused, and nobody has said they weren’t. But you have to admit, most of those abused were teenage boys. Some studies say over 80% Catholic Church sexual abuse cases - Wikipedia. And trying to say they engage in homosexual acts, but they weren’t homosexual as long as they didn’t believe themselves to be homosexual, well, I could find less shit on a cow farm. So if im a paid assasin for a drug lord, then as long as I don’t believe myself to be a cold blooded killer, then im really a nice guy, right? Afterall, I believe im a nice guy, even though I murder people for a living.[/quote]
What is the makeup of sex of most alter servers while sex abuse was predominantely going on? Is it mostly boys? Mostly girls? 50/50?
These Priests have repressed sexual urges also hold a position of authority over alter servers and spend an inordinate time around them. Regardless of the sex of the alter servers, they choose to prey on them because they develop attraction overtime.
Edit: this is what I was suggesting originally, again not stating it as fact.
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I don’t know the ratio, but common sense tells me teen boys weren’t abused simply because they were “available”. By that logic, if dogs, sheep, and chickens were avaialable, they would be equally as likely to have been abused. That would mean that the priests didn’t care where they stuck their cock, as long as it was in a warm hole of some sort. And I don’t buy the whole ‘position of power’ crap straight out of some womens studies textbook. Unless power meant the priest casting magical spells, then I don’t buy it. The priest sexually abused young men because they had a homosexual attraction to young men. Girls were abused less often, maybe because their were fewer of them around, but also because young women typically aren’t appealing to gay men. Sometimes the easiest answers are the most obvious answers.
If someone comes out of the bathroom soaking wet, and I just heard the shower running, then its obvious why they are wet. I don’t have to go thru 4 years of school and have a whole department created at a university to answer the question of why the person came out of the bathroom wet.[/quote]
Goats and sheep aren’t human.
12-15 years old aren’t that far removed from actual adults. I agree they were attracted to young men, I’m saying they developed that attraction over time based on the conditions are under.