When Did You Leave the Nest?

[quote]SLAINGE wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

[quote]SLAINGE wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

[quote]SLAINGE wrote:
60k a year and you are still living at home? Nagging parents (who incidentally you are sponging off of) and a mother that haunts you (take the hint). Grow a pair and move out for fucksake!
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This is the best part,

[quote]24Animal7 wrote:
Its been challenging for me to hang out with chicks when living at home[/quote]
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I actually think this guy is taking the piss![/quote]

I imagine that would be funny, if I knew what they heck you mean’t![/quote]

Haha, it means he is not being serious, he is trolling or trying to get a rise outa folks.[/quote]

Haha, gotcha.

To the people who answered this thread:

  1. Do you regret the way things happened/What would you change if you could do it again?

  2. What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?

at 13 i climbed on a Longboat headed for the shores of Northumbria and never looked back. learned a lot about life in the taverns in south Angleand and in the longhouses in the father land. Spent most of my young adulthood learning swordcraft and making my fortune.

i was not a plunderer like the rest of my bretheren - i took an oath to the king that i would protect him during s few of his campaigns, and then was hooked. it was never my intent, but such is life.

I am now in my waning years, and all i want is to be released from my oath so i can return to bebbanburg and reclaim what is rightfully mine.

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:
To the people who answered this thread:

  1. Do you regret the way things happened/What would you change if you could do it again?

  2. What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?

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the one suggestion that i would give is to not rely on credit cards, they can be the cause of many bad experiences and ruin relationships.

Oh - and… rum is NOT your freind…

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:
To the people who answered this thread:

  1. Do you regret the way things happened/What would you change if you could do it again?

  2. What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?

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1.) The only think I would do differently is to save more money/not buy so much dumb shit. Hell, that’s something I could do a better job of now.

2.) Don’t waste your money on stupid shit. If you want to drink with your boys, do it at your place (it’s cheaper). Plan out your expenses. Don’t open a $3,000 credit card and max it out so you can have surround sound with your new 50" TV. Get a cash fund and leave it alone. Do not under any circumstances other than an emergency touch that money. I’d suggest at least 3 months of living expenses minimum.

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:
To the people who answered this thread:

  1. Do you regret the way things happened/What would you change if you could do it again? [/quote]

Yeah. I should’ve moved out after a year as opposed to two. But my parents kept convincing me to build up my bank account.

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:
2) What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?
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Save save save. Then once you land a decent job making decent coin start to let loose. Generally that takes 2 years of working.

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:

  1. Do you regret the way things happened/What would you change if you could do it again?

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I would have nailed 2 different chicks I passed up, and hooked up with the fatty that one night because looking back I’m about 80% certain she was trying to get me in bed for a threeway with her heavy set friend. (I had slept with both of them separately at that point, lol. Jesus beer is a powerful drug.)

Other than that? Not much, I love where I’m at in life.

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:

  1. What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?

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The same thing I tell first time parents:

You think you have it all figured out… The best laid plans you have are fool proof. Well, you are flat out wrong.

Hold on to your ass, do the best you can and enjoy the ride. You only get to do this once.

When I was seventeen, I packed my bags, wrote a letter to my mother, went to school as usual, then at lunch I had a friend drive me to the airport, and I left. I stayed with a friend for a while, then with my grandparents until my grandfather passed away, then lived on my own while I was going to college. After that I got on another plane and lived in Japan for about a decade and a half, then made my way back, ironically enough, to the very place I had happily escaped from twenty years earlier.

Spent some time with my family, then moved on again, back to my grandmother’s house, now vacated by her death. And now I’m in the process of planning my next escape. Never really been one for nesting, it seems.

[quote]Varqanir wrote:
When I was seventeen, I packed my bags, wrote a letter to my mother, went to school as usual, then at lunch I had a friend drive me to the airport, and I left. I stayed with a friend for a while, then with my grandparents until my grandfather passed away, then lived on my own while I was going to college. After that I got on another plane and lived in Japan for about a decade and a half, then made my way back, ironically enough, to the very place I had happily escaped from twenty years earlier. Spent some time with my family, then moved on again, back to my grandmother’s house, now vacated by her death. And now I’m in the process of planning my next escape. Never really been one for nesting, it seems. [/quote]
I bet you have an interesting resume

[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]Varqanir wrote:
When I was seventeen, I packed my bags, wrote a letter to my mother, went to school as usual, then at lunch I had a friend drive me to the airport, and I left. I stayed with a friend for a while, then with my grandparents until my grandfather passed away, then lived on my own while I was going to college. After that I got on another plane and lived in Japan for about a decade and a half, then made my way back, ironically enough, to the very place I had happily escaped from twenty years earlier. Spent some time with my family, then moved on again, back to my grandmother’s house, now vacated by her death. And now I’m in the process of planning my next escape. Never really been one for nesting, it seems. [/quote]
I bet you have an interesting resume[/quote]

That I do.

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:
To the people who answered this thread:

  1. Do you regret the way things happened/What would you change if you could do it again?

  2. What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?

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  1. Nope, wouldn’t change a thing. BTW, staying close provides for a good babysitter.
  2. Grab your balls and jump; you’ll be fine.

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

[quote]SLAINGE wrote:
60k a year and you are still living at home? Nagging parents (who incidentally you are sponging off of) and a mother that haunts you (take the hint). Grow a pair and move out for fucksake!
[/quote]

This is the best part,

[quote]24Animal7 wrote:
Its been challenging for me to hang out with chicks when living at home[/quote]
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Haha my thoughts exactly. My GFs brother is 30, makes decent money, but lives at home and is an ass to his parents (why they don’t kick him out… And he wonders why he can’t get a girlfriend.

[quote]Varqanir wrote:
When I was seventeen, I packed my bags, wrote a letter to my mother, went to school as usual, then at lunch I had a friend drive me to the airport, and I left. I stayed with a friend for a while, then with my grandparents until my grandfather passed away, then lived on my own while I was going to college. After that I got on another plane and lived in Japan for about a decade and a half, then made my way back, ironically enough, to the very place I had happily escaped from twenty years earlier.

Spent some time with my family, then moved on again, back to my grandmother’s house, now vacated by her death. And now I’m in the process of planning my next escape. Never really been one for nesting, it seems. [/quote]

Regarding nesting; I assume unmarried and no offspring?
So would you say you found happiness returning to the place you felt the need to flee from?

[quote]Maiden3.16 wrote:

[quote]usmccds423 wrote:

[quote]SLAINGE wrote:
60k a year and you are still living at home? Nagging parents (who incidentally you are sponging off of) and a mother that haunts you (take the hint). Grow a pair and move out for fucksake!
[/quote]

This is the best part,

[quote]24Animal7 wrote:
Its been challenging for me to hang out with chicks when living at home[/quote]
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Haha my thoughts exactly. My GFs brother is 30, makes decent money, but lives at home and is an ass to his parents (why they don’t kick him out… And he wonders why he can’t get a girlfriend. [/quote]

It seems the trend is to let your kids walk all over you. God help my kids (if I have them) if they think thats the case in my house.

[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]IFlashBack wrote:

  1. What are some tips/resources you would give to a person who is on his way to becoming independent?

[/quote]

The same thing I tell first time parents:

You think you have it all figured out… The best laid plans you have are fool proof. Well, you are flat out wrong.

Hold on to your ass, do the best you can and enjoy the ride. You only get to do this once. [/quote]

After 14 months I see more truth in that every day.

Moved out at 24. Perfect timing for me TBH.

Only thing that sucks is not saving 80% of my income anymore.

[quote]Edgy wrote:
at 13 i climbed on a Longboat headed for the shores of Northumbria and never looked back. learned a lot about life in the taverns in south Angleand and in the longhouses in the father land. Spent most of my young adulthood learning swordcraft and making my fortune.

i was not a plunderer like the rest of my bretheren - i took an oath to the king that i would protect him during s few of his campaigns, and then was hooked. it was never my intent, but such is life.

I am now in my waning years, and all i want is to be released from my oath so i can return to bebbanburg and reclaim what is rightfully mine.[/quote]

Love me some Uhtred

[quote]24Animal7 wrote:
My mother is pretty passive aggressive woman, constantly criticizing others for doing things like dieting, exercising, and setting personal goals. She’s a pretty miserable person who’ll try to bring anyone down that she can lol.[/quote]

It’s bad karma to talk about your parents like that.

I moved out at 18 to go to college. I’m doing great on my own, but I would move back in with them in a second if I could. I love my parents, and I don’t pretend to be better than them. They’ve got good and bad traits, just like me, and I accept them all. Not paying rent would be nice, and having somebody that would happily cook some of my meals would be pretty awesome. The negative stereotype of living at home is for the jobless bums that play X-Box and smoke weed all day. I’d be working and pulling my own weight around the house. They served me for 18 years, so I’d be grateful to return the favor.

Having said that, you seem to think your mom is a miserable bitch, so yeah, you need to move out.