What to Do with My Life?

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I was half-way in the same boat as you were a couple of months ago (I’m still earning my degree though while working landscaping which I’ve done since I was 12. It’s alright, I could make an ok living at it, but it’s not my passion).

I randomly ran across a job ad for a mentoring/social working position and got it and it’s been fantastic.

It kind of gives you a reason for living - making a positive impact on kids that have no idea how to be positive and productive;

I for one actually feel like I’m actually doing something meaningful unlike the majority of the population. It’s not for everyone, but give it some thought and maybe look into it. It might just open up some new doors.

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I’m at a crossroads in my life. Go back in the military now, or try and come a personal trainer and work towards my own gym now. I will do the latter, but I also want to do the first part so I can go to Afghanistan, even if it’s only once.

I can’t decide, so I’m buying a plain ticket to Magaluf on the island of Majorca in Spain, and I’m going to go with nothing, work for the summer, and generally party.

It’s a bit unplanned, extremely hasty, but I’ll be able to think, and clear out my mind.

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Take up a hobby that is completely meaningless. Something that has no intention except to be what it is.

Why would anybody do something so meaningless? Because everything else in life is geared toward accomplishing something, being productive, etc. To be effective at those things, sometimes you just need to do something that is utterly pointless to decompress and develope or preserve a ballanced perspective.

This whole “I’m so intense no one understands me” stuff is funny though. Where or in whom does the lack of understanding realy lie?

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Buy Bolivian citizenship, take a crash course in Spanish, emigrate to Spain with a minimal dinero, and join the Spanish Legion, then get involved International Terrorism.

Be some kind of modern Che Guevara/Lord Byron.

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You have a 4 year degree so I would get the 3rd edition of the NSCA CSCS book and get your CSCS.

Some people say you can’t do it without an EX Sci degree but eff that. If you want it you’ll study and do it. This is what people say because they want company being mediocre.

The good thing is you can do it self paced and not sign up for the test til you’re ready.

The book is like 80$ US shipped.

It was a no brainer for me. I started training while I went back to school.

It is a GREAT part time gig.

And now I have other opportunities opening up to me…

jmo
bill

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Interesting question. Like many others said, you gotta find your own path. Sometimes, that path is completely unexpected.

When I was growing up, I always thought I wanted a big house, nice cars, nice things, etc. I was poor, so the value I placed on money was ridiculous.

Then two things happened:

A) I discovered motorcycles. Crotch rockets to be exact. I’ve always been a bit of a gear head/speed freak, and there’s nothing, I mean NOTHING like taking a 105hp, 350lb machine around a track for a day.

B) I went to Iraq.

Those two things changed my whole perspective, kinda. I still like nice cars (we have an Infiniti G35), but my emphasis on money is totally different now. I guess I’m a bit hypocritical at the same time, between me and my wife we easily clear six-figures, but all the nice things don’t matter to me that much anymore.

A fulfilling day for me is getting some work done, whether it be at work or home, hoping on my bike/quad/snowmobile for a couple hours, coming home to my wife, dogs and/or friends, lighting a bonfire, and listening to some music while having a couple beers.

There is still a void for me, but I know what that is. I want kids. Little T-boys to teach to wrestle and play football and the such.

The moral of my story is this: While your young its good to be driven, to feel like something is missing. Its what drives you to higher levels of success, whatever your version of success may end up being. However, as we travel through life, its important to remember to enjoy the journey, not just race to the destination. Because your intended destination in life will likely change, and taking in the scenery on your way through will make things all the more fufilling.

There is a quote, from Blow, I believe. Goes something like this: “People spend most of their lives planning great things for it.”

Don’t forget to spend your life living, even if you don’t meet your lofty expectations. You’d be surprised where you’ll find happiness.

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Grappler, it sounds like you’ve got it all figured out, lol :). Congrats on the Infiniti, btw. I was looking at those bad boys myself but they were a good 25% over what I could afford, so…

Bluefingas, why not play bball at home??

hardgnr - after reading that, maybe I should read that book and find some job that I can put my spare time into. That wouldn’t be so bad. The thing with my current job is, I’ll ultimately always be playing second fiddle to someone else…

And now, at 8:30 PM when I’m bored, I can’t work on my business. It’s good to get paid, but if you’re driving shotgun, you’re driving shotgun, it doesn’t matter if it’s a nice car or not. I want my own vehicle :).

Michael: That’s the way I rationalised this to myself. Yeah, I’ll do this job, but it’ll allow me to afford the things I really want. Maybe there is something to that, but I hate the concept of having a job; of having to report to someone; of not doing what I want to do.

Idk, I am going to try out a few new hobbies in the next couple of months, but failing that, I am seriously looking at starting my own business. Fuck it, even if I fail, at least I’ll go out riding. Besides… Who succeeds and gets shit right the first time? :).

So, Vicomte, in loose terms, what do you plan on doing? By the way, I don’t know how fake Vicious was. I think the boy was a true vandal at heart in the end. I guess it’s like Hunter S. versus Raoul Duke.

GVKid - I worked with kids myself, and still would if I had the time and energy. It was good, but not THAT fulfilling. I don’t think I’m a do-gooder type, sad as it is. I’m more of a self-improvement and attainment type, for good or bad.

lloydk, SpartanX - I often consider doing something like that too. Going somewhere cheap and just chilling for a few months while I assemble my thoughts. If I can save enough money to begin a new business and life, perhaps I will. Lloydk, good luck on your own “vacation” ;).

SkyzykS - I feel like you twisted what I was saying when you misquoted me: “I’m so intense no one understands me.” I never said anything about understanding; just about connecting with people. I can’t/won’t tone myself down, and other people find that hard to swallow.

So I guess it’s two-sided. I’m not bitching, just presenting facts. Anyway, what’s a meaningless hobby, to you?

BillO21 - Hey, I think I might do that. I live far from civilisation though so the seminars are out, but I’m sure that if I rummage about I can do some course like that.

Cheers for everyone’s input so far. Sorry if I missed anyone :).

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Sid had style, no doubt. That’s all that matters, really. And balls. But I’ve always gotten the feeling that he spent too much time trying to live up to what others thought he was, rather than who he wanted to be.

As for myself, I’ll let you know when I get there. But if you guys never hear from me again, assume the best.

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[quote]Vicomte wrote:
Sid had style, no doubt. That’s all that matters, really. And balls. But I’ve always gotten the feeling that he spent too much time trying to live up to what others thought he was, rather than who he wanted to be.

As for myself, I’ll let you know when I get there. But if you guys never hear from me again, assume the best.[/quote]

Now you’re just being dramatic Vicomte. Well done.

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[quote]Vicomte wrote:
Sid had style, no doubt. That’s all that matters, really. And balls. But I’ve always gotten the feeling that he spent too much time trying to live up to what others thought he was, rather than who he wanted to be.

As for myself, I’ll let you know when I get there. But if you guys never hear from me again, assume the best.[/quote]

I prefer to assume the worst, vic. It makes me happier.