What I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger

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I’d tell myself that success and failure are abstracts, life is all about experiences. Of course one should have both short and long term goals and stick to them. But one can succeed in getting the girl, and end up being miserable. One can fail to get the dream job, and end up with something better you weren’t even thinking about.

Sometimes nothing bad happens and life is all pleasure and good times, but then months go by and you can’t remember what you did last week or even yesterday. Sometimes the best experiences, the ones you talk and laugh about later are when everything gets fucked up. They say calm seas don’t make good sailors.

But I probably wouldn’t bother to tell me anything. Experience is the key to knowledge. You can read and be told something a thousand times, but you don’t know shit til you experience it.

My cousin is 15 years younger than me and has always been like my little brother. He’s been taller and stronger than me since he was 16, he’s also fat and slow and his posture is terrible. I’ve tried a thousand times to help him with his diet and weight training (at his request), but all he wants to do is bench and curl. They also say you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.

One more saying, crazy pussy is the best pussy.

[edited for typos]

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[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]cstratton2 wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:
Good or bad, once you hit a certain age very little changes in 10 years…[/quote]

You know I tend to think that is not fully true, just because things stop changing on the outside, things on the inside are always in a constant state of change as is life. [/quote]

[quote]Waittz wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:
Good or bad, once you hit a certain age very little changes in 10 years…[/quote]

Not if you read and travel frequently[/quote]

You guys are misunderstanding what he is saying.

Read:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
19-29 was like a high speed collision with reality. The last 10 have been eventful but …
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I would say for most the transition comes in your 30’s. Some get it in their early 30’s and some in their late, but this strange thing happens where you suddenly realize who just totally stupid you were in your teens and 20’s, you know the opposite as you felt then. And along with this comes the realization that even though you are older and wiser than 23 year old you, your still a dumbass and will look back in a couple year and be reminded of that.

What he is getting as is; as you grow and learn, the changes tend to smooth out, less peaks and valleys. Your teens and 20’s usher in vast changes and development. Call it conditioning if you want, but this tend to “calm down” from your perspective even if they don’t in the outside world.

This is impossible to explain on the amount of sleep I’ve had this week I think. [/quote]

Yes i get that, but my OP was simply what would you tell yourself if you had the chance to find you 10 years back. If the answer is “nothing” you are a liar.

Most likely everyone here would say the following no matter their age or current settings:

Buy Apple, in fact bet the farm on it then get out when it hits 700.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:
2) Punch those kids in the throat
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If I could go back to when I was 9 I’d probably use that one.

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[quote]Chushin wrote:
Good or bad, once you hit a certain age very little changes in 10 years…[/quote]
Yep would be 30, was working on finishing my BSN, then went and got my MSN. Had some rough times with the wife, but we worked through it. Cant say I would or could change much.

NOW speaking to the 17 year old self

WRAP YOUR SHIT UP AND DONT MARRY THAT FUCKING WHORE.

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Relationships will always have points where they are a huge pain in the ass. May as well put in the effort sooner rather than later so you have the skills to successfully navigate one when the right girl comes along.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

NOW speaking to the 17 year old self

WRAP YOUR SHIT UP AND DONT MARRY THAT FUCKING WHORE.[/quote]

It makes me cry how few people will listen to this as opposed to those who should.

I personally think there should be a sub-set to marriage where there are no legal ties but you get to have a wedding for her anyway…“bedding”?

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Would tell my 14 year old self to start training mma and go all out on it. Then I would have at least 15 pro fights by now and not just 1 amateur as I have today.
Would also tell 16 year old self to start squatting and deadlifting instead of just benchpressing every day.

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My advice: it’s ok not to fit the mild your parents set out for your life

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That my grandmother was not immortal. We all know that everyone dies. But when you are young time does not mean the same as when you are older. I wish I would have been wise enough to know her time was more precious than mine and spent more with her.

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That you should either passionately follow your risky dreams or settle for a boring but steady career, accountant or so. And that whatever you do, you’ll have to deal with the consequences.

That I should become a really good gymnast. Seriously… Building raw strength and muscle later works, but I wish I had the coordination and mobility of people who hung from the rings when they were in their teens.

That ‘finding the one’ is a myth. You’ll never know for sure if a girl is worth it before you work on the relationship and even then, you could still end u with a divorce later… Be emotionally self-sufficient if you have to.

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[quote]therajraj wrote:
My advice: it’s ok not to fit the mild your parents set out for your life[/quote]

This

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I?m going to go back 13 years instead of 10 because that puts me at 23 years old which is when I really started to fuck things up.

Dear 23 year old J,

1.) That hot little piece of ass that approached you, asked you out, and you just started dating?STOP! Do not start a relationship with her, do not dedicate ten years of your life to her, do not marry her. You are allowing her to use you and your family but her epic tits, great ass, pretty face, and skills in the bedroom, combined with your low view of yourself is preventing you from seeing it.

2.) Be thankful every day for your family. You got VERY lucky. Your parents and brother are great people that will never let you down. Many people don?t have such great relatives.

3.) It is time to get serious about your problem connecting with people and your lack of emotions. You need to make a decision. Is this something you consider a problem and will try to fix, or will you accept that it is just a part of who you are and that you are a loner? Either one is fine, but make a decision. Is it depression? Asperger?s? Are you just shy and introverted? Who knows, but as I sit here at 36 years old I can tell you it does not get better with time.

4.) Seek out and make contact with a young lady named L.A. She is 5 years younger than you so that makes her 18 right now, but don?t freak out. You will not have a romantic relationship with her. She and her family are some of the rare, really good people in this world. She will be a great mirror for you, a great sounding board, and will help you through some really tough times. I didn?t meet her until I was in my 30?s, but the sooner you have her and her family in your life the better off you will be.

5.) Do not spend any more time in the job you are in right now. Enroll in the certification course and become a teacher right now. It turns out you are pretty good at the job and there is no reason to wait until you are 28.

6.) You work pretty hard for a 23 year old, at least harder than your video game playing friends, but not hard enough. The game changers of the world dedicate themselves to something with a pathological focus. Get on it.

7.) Read number 1 again. Seriously!

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I would go back 35 years and tell myself:

Get involved in athletics NOW.

Don’t worry what other people think and don’t feel obligated to fulfill others’ expectations for you.

Take more [educated] risks.

Be braver with men.

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10 years ago I would be closing in on 17 years old.

I would tell myself

  1. GET RID OF YOUR LOSER BF

  2. Start saving your money.

  3. Do not care about what people think of you. There will be people at all ages that don’t like you.

  4. Don’t say “I hate you” to my parents. In other words, love them and tell them MUCH MUCH more that you love them.

  5. People who I deemed “perfect and set for life” were/are not as perfect as I thought. Jealousy was not needed. (I still need to remind myself of this now.)

Honestly, I think I would have a pretty good list at 5 years ago and 5 years from now i’ll have a decent list too. Life experiences teach you so much.

People who do not take risks gain no life experience. The knowledge you gain is never enough, unfortunately it comes with pain and hurt at times.

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]Waittz wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:
Good or bad, once you hit a certain age very little changes in 10 years…[/quote]

Not if you read and travel frequently[/quote]

Ok, if your age is 16 (as your page says), I’m going to suggest that you get back to me in 40 years or so.[/quote]

Im 26, 16 would be me 10 years ago.
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If you think there is a certain age where you cant continue to learn and evolve as a person i disagree and it directly conflicts with how my mentors are conditioning me to think.

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[quote]Waittz wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]Waittz wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:
Good or bad, once you hit a certain age very little changes in 10 years…[/quote]

Not if you read and travel frequently[/quote]

Ok, if your age is 16 (as your page says), I’m going to suggest that you get back to me in 40 years or so.[/quote]

Im 26, 16 would be me 10 years ago.
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If you think there is a certain age where you cant continue to learn and evolve as a person i disagree and it directly conflicts with how my mentors are conditioning me to think. [/quote]

lol, Homie, that isn’t at all what he is saying. It is just different, and you make better choices so the “go back and tell” list is much shorter, because you already told yourself when you were 30, 40 etc.

You’re going to re-make this thread in 10 years and tell yourself to stop arguing because you “get it” at 36.

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[quote]infinite_shore wrote:
Better question is what would your future self tell you right now.[/quote]
Initiate Plan E

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[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]Waittz wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]Waittz wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:
Good or bad, once you hit a certain age very little changes in 10 years…[/quote]

Not if you read and travel frequently[/quote]

Ok, if your age is 16 (as your page says), I’m going to suggest that you get back to me in 40 years or so.[/quote]

Im 26, 16 would be me 10 years ago.
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If you think there is a certain age where you cant continue to learn and evolve as a person i disagree and it directly conflicts with how my mentors are conditioning me to think. [/quote]

lol, Homie, that isn’t at all what he is saying. It is just different, and you make better choices so the “go back and tell” list is much shorter, because you already told yourself when you were 30, 40 etc.

You’re going to re-make this thread in 10 years and tell yourself to stop arguing because you “get it” at 36. [/quote]

Think that makes more sense than how i read it