(The Grammar Nazi asks in advance to be pardoned for any typos or evidence of delirium here or above. He worked from 9am until 11pm literally non-stop today and is now practically typing this from outside of his body and should just go to bed, probably, but refuses to).
Quick example before I crush the point with pressing it. There are certain acts my son will engage in in front of his mother which he KNOWS not to engage in with me around. One of them is pushing the button that lights the stove (we have a gas range). My wife will tell him again and again to stop, and again and again he ignores her and does it, laughing.
When I hear it and walk in and just say his name sharply, he jumps like a gun went off and runs up to me and hugs me (cute little brat
Same thing with running out into the street. I get so mad at my wife because this is fucking dangerous but she just can’t bring herself to be VERY strong with him in that manner. He tries the same when I’m outside and I yell “STOP!” once and it’s like he just ran in to a wall, and back he comes.
However, when he is not feeling good, and whiny and noisy and needy and complaining, it’s a damn good thing his mom is there. Because I just can’t handle it and I don’t know how to be kind and nurturing and sweet when someone is clearly insane.
All I can see is a problem that needs fixing, and all my wife can see is someone who is not feeling good and needs as much love as he can get right them, at the exact time that I am most inclined to withdraw my affection and close up and become cold.
I scold her for the former, and she scolds me for the latter.
Now for you people that have kids, you know which one of these you are, and if you are honest, you’ll admit that you tend to be dominant in one or the other. Sorry, I don’t buy that someone can be equal parts of both. At best, if you end up right in the middle you are a watered down version of each.
Again, please refrain from mischaracterizing me or putting words in my mouth. I know there have been women who have made terrific single-mothers, politicians, business owners, hostage negotiators and leaders (go Maggie T!), just as I know there are certain men who have the patience and fortitude to spend a third to a half of every day, cooking, cleaning, ironing, bathing, dressing, diapering, cleaning, listening to, entertaining, putting to sleep, cleaning, driving around, waking up six times in the middle of the night, listening to literally hours of whining and crying and complaining and demanding and repeating and all of the WORK that come with raising a small child and yet still can manage to smile and hug and not show frustration or anger through it all. Did I mention cleaning? 
I aint one of them. But I know they exist. Never actually met one, come to think of it. But yeah, I’m sure they exist…somewhere. Maybe 
Cliff’s Notes:
Men tend to be physically larger and stronger than women. Men almost always have a hormonal profile that differs significantly from that of women. These factors, among others, tend to cause the two sexes to think, feel, act, make decisions, and cope with stress differently. It also tends to affect our perception of reality and our ultimate motivations. Because of these differences, men tend to be better suited for certain roles that conform with their general tendencies. And the same holds true of women.
I actually thought my first question to eph was about as clear as I could have made this (thanks to TheBodyGuard for seeing it and recognizing it, as I suspected you would). I honestly did not expect this to be such a contentious suggestion. It seems self-evident to me.