Absolutely, that was a wild read. I have known @brickhead for a while on here and generally respect his opinions but that went full on crazy town if I interpreted correctly.
Went from “modern dating has problems” to “women are basically property, the government can tell a man who his kids are, women arent allowed to get divorced unless they give up their kids (probably to a shit father, leading to the divorce in the first place), father arranged marriages with dowries, and concubines
I feel like America isnt the place for you if you want all that stuff, and rather than work to get that stuff here in America you should move to where something like that already exists
I also didnt respond because I feel like this would be a 3 hour conversation in person, and would take 9 years on a text forum to really dig into the details haha
Agreed to an extent. I’m not sure it’s on purpose either though. My father in law was going on the other day about how hard it was for them too. Plugged his starting salary after college into an inflation calculator, and it’s the equivalent of 150k today, and he was 22! He isn’t selfish and cares deeply about our future. But it doesnt click with him that things aren’t the same as 40 years ago.
Another aspect I notice is: I live in CT and grew up in NY. Grandparents used to move to Florida and downsize their NY home. Doesn’t happen anymore. My parents generation seems to hold onto their house and you even see people listing houses for egregious prices, because they have no real intention of moving.
And if you just look at the average age of a homebuyer today…it’s alarming. My wife and I do well compared to most in our age group (28), but I truly have no idea how the majority of people will ever own a home in our area.
this generation is competing with retired boomers for houses they were able to afford on one income. Two incomes is a requirement where I live now, then I’ll hear my parents complain that nobody is as good a mother anymore. Again, I just wish that generation would accept that things are wildly different now.
I’m not sure if the cause is selfishness, but things have definitely changed due to the habits of boomers.
No. I meant the government, society, or other governing body establishes who fathers are, which is the primary purpose of marriage. Fatherhood is a social creation.
I do not see what is wrong with softly arranged marriage that involves personal choice and sexual attraction.
It is a way of curbing hypergamy if not in excess.
It certainly will not occur here any time soon. So far in all conversations I’ve listend to online about modern “dating” amongst talking heads and politicians, none have proposed solutions.
It would. Keep in mind, considering you’ve known me on here for some time, I think you know I’m open to opposing views. So it’s all good.
I have several family members who work in real estate and they are worried about the fact that so much boomer equity is tied to housing, but they can’t tap into it because it has become unaffordable for most people.
You almost stated it. It is all about “seedtime and harvest”. We noticed the harvest when the Boomers had children, but the seed was planted when the Boomers were children.
The assignment I gave him was, “What would king (or generalissimio) Brickhead do to solve hypergamy?”
I’m sure he’d give a different answer if he had to work within the confines of the legal system.
Generalissimo twojarslave’s answer to most of society’s problems would be an Amish revolution, forced on the masses at gunpoint, right after I invest in various equestrian holdings.
Correct. It doesn’t make them all good ideas. It’s just that “like the Middle East” is a common rebuttal to any talk of sexual regulation, when advanced societies, including the US practiced it.
I did not say only shitty men attract an inordinate amount of women. I suspect you attracted a lot of women because of height, social acuity, high status, and looks.
I did not have a problem attracting some women after getting my head right and I do not consider myself shitty.
The biggest reason is the rise of individualism over collectivism and the increase of wealth.
Before people needed kids for labor and society/culture did not give them options. These days kids are economical burden (sounds terrible, but it is what it is).
Perhaps Ill use this specific example to highlight one of the issues I had in your list
Isnt this the type of guy a woman would likely want to get divorced from. If he doesnt give a shit about his kids, one imagines his wife isnt far behind.
But in your system the wife would have to give her kids to this guy in order to divorce him, which almost no woman is going to do because she cares about her kids more than herself… Basically leading her to be trapped with this guy.
You cant see how that would cause women to be hesitant to marry and have kids?
The birthrate “problem”, as far as I can tell, is a much more systemic issue relating to various social/economic changes and problems, not the fact that Chad Thundercock is getting a little more poon than the rest of the men