Yes. If you wait until you are “rich enough” to give them everything - you will never have them imo.
Zero, if raised correctly. I want them to be able to focus on school and have no school debt coming out.
Of course. I put a lot of thought into this and probably too much to really lay out here.
I have milestones that will give them access to certain amounts and then also ages with milestones for certain amounts. And funding for certain things like housing, car, necessities granted they are in school, pursuing something etc. I have the baseline for each child set, but I will alter and change things for each individual child as I see fit.
The main thing is not allowing them to sit around, have no goals, draw money, and be a bum.
At the end of the day, they are going to inherit everything I have - so I will have to make sure I do a good job early of teaching them correctly and to have ambition.
Ours was rather smooth. We didn’t have anyone to fight. Biological parents are known, but deceased now. It is not cheap though. Being known in the community, having the best attorney, and having money definitely made it very easy for us comparably.
The emotional connection is no different for me. She is mine and I don’t care about her genetic predilection as you can’t even be 100% sure with your own biological children.
I will be 100% honest. I used to be against adoption fully in my younger days for many of the reasons you have listed. My best friend was adopted and his perspective really changed my views. Children are malleable clay and just want to be loved and know someone cares about them.
I would adopt all the children, if I could. I genuinely love children and believe they are the greatest gift on this planet. The main thing worth pouring your time, energy, and money into - everything else is just peripheral noise that doesn’t matter.