[quote]PonceDeLeon wrote:
And Emily, you truly surprise me. You clearly have little respect for men, if any.[/quote]
Really? How so? I feel like I have respect that verges on awe for men as a group, though I begin to divide into respect/not respect when I limit my focus to individuals. You’ll never, ever find me doing the “yeah, men are all dumbasses” thing.
I do get tired of the fear-and-loathing vibe I occasionally encounter here regarding women. But I don’t even think I really brought that out to play in this thread. A little bit with Tom, but he was gracious in response and clarified his post.
I bothered to post to the thread specifically to address the “Why is it so unfair?” question of women attacking men. I posted to say that in my opinion, it is changing. I agreed right down the line with the men who don’t like the double standard. I stated that most female-committed homicides are of intimate partners. (Girl = bad!)
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
My hope is that women will ultimately be forced to exercise control as well.
When will that happen again? When the incidence of domestic violence against women is statistically zero? Is that when women will take a look at the efforts in raising domestic violence awareness and managing the crimes, and finally say, “Ok, girls, so THIS is how we need to stop our own from beating up their husbands and boyfriends. It clearly worked on men!”
Why not lay the groundwork from the BEGINNING and say that, shit, domestic violence itself is WRONG and courts/law enforcement should take any and all reports seriously, be they from a man OR a woman?
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In the beginning it was all radicals, probably women who were victims themselves. The women’s movement was in full swing and the domestic violence thing got rolled into it, to the benefit of both movements, I’m sure. In the early 80s child abuse began really coming out of the closet and mandated reporting laws were legislated, etc. That, too, was helpful, because in many homes physical violence is flying in every direction. The Violence Against Women Act of 1994 dealt almost exclusively with women, however, each time it’s been updated efforts have been made to broaden its scope and make it fairer.
As for laying the groundwork, I couldn’t agree more. I wrote (in another context, obviously):
[quote] Criticism of the VAWA has come from both conservative groups and womenâ??s groups. Some critics have accused that the legislation is paternalistic and implies that women need special protections (Garrine, 2007). Others have felt that VAWA programs address only the needs of women, leaving men without adequate protection from abuse and calling into question the male character. â??The Violence Against Women Act is gender-driven politics being operated through the public purse,â?? says Michael McCormick, executive director of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children. â??We’re spending nearly $1 billion a year to reinforce in the public’s mind that men are indiscriminately attacking womenâ?? (Prah, 2006).
One provision of the 2005 VAWA that particularly appeals to me is the Grants to Assist Children and Youth Exposed to Violence:
The Attorney General, acting through the Director of the Office on Violence Against Women, and in collaboration with the Department of Health and Human Services, is authorized to award grants on a competitive basis to eligible entities for the purpose of mitigating the effects of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking on children exposed to such violence, and reducing the risk of future victimization or perpetration of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking (HR 3402, 2005).
The act authorizes $20 million for the grants for each fiscal year from 2007-2011 (Garrine, 2007). I particularly like its emphasis on early prevention for both male and female children, to reduce both victimization and perpetration. I worry that we give too little attention to preventing perpetration in particular. Along the same vein, I will mention again the program in the Bexar County, Texas, jail that ties good behavior, parenting classes, and group therapy to visits for inmates with children. PATCH (Papas and Their Children) and its sister program, MATCH (Mamas and Their Children) are an excellent way to address domestic violence in both parents and children. The program offers an opportunity to change the behaviors in parents that children will ultimately model their own parenting upon.[quote]
So yes, groundwork. I’m for it.