[quote]jsbrook wrote:
The thing I don’t understand about the ‘it’s meaningless/just a piece of paper people’ is that if it’s so meaningless, why are you so deadset against it.
If it’s just a formality and no different than a longterm and loving, committed realationship, why not do it. [prenup if you must I suppose if it’s practical consequences you’re worried about][/quote]
I’m not deadset against it, but I do consider the legal ramifications.
Sure, there’s the possibility of a prenup, but to me it’s kind of inconsistent trying to take your relationship to the next level with an even deeper commitment in the form of marriage and at the same time safeguarding against possible hazards in case of a future divorce.
You express your profound trust by marrying a person and simultaneously, you need a contract because you fear you won’t even be able to settle things amicably when things don’t turn out as planned?
On the flipside, what can marriage offer me that I can’t have in the framework of a “simple relationship”? I can only speak for myself, but for me it’s nothing significant at all.
I’ll have to add that I don’t want to have children. Perhaps I’d think somewhat of the issue if it were otherwise, I really don’t know. As I stated before, though, at least in Austria, the law provides security for children one way or the other.
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I think it’s much more than a formalistic ritual and symbolic and indicative of a deeper committment and approach to a relationship. [/quote]
Not the way I see it, but in that case, I could imagine why you would consider getting married. Obviously a case of personal opinions.
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The next step that some people just don’t want to take. People who avoid it want to give themselves an ‘out’ consciously or unconsciously.[/quote]
Exactly. If I stay together with the other person despite the possibility of taking the easy way out without negative consequences and my significant other does the same, chances are that we’re still together for the right reasons.
