[quote]Serge A. Storms wrote:
[quote]pabergin wrote:
If you have a chance, I’d be interested to know what you saw in my work that could have been problematic. I need to learn.
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Back around 2/22, you went into that wedding “hoping” to demonstrate restraint, and I wasn’t sure how that would go. It sounds clichÃ?©, but in my experience it really rings true that hope is NOT a strategy.
Your weight spiked and it set you back a bit…before that wedding, you were already flirting with breaking 220, and it wasn’t until 3/6 that you finally got there. I think this was a good thing - it planted the seed that you won’t be able to get away with those dietary excursions. If you would have bounced back quicker, it may have mislead you to believe that you could get away with it.
Around 3/11, you had dinner with a friend and spiked up just a bit to 220. But you bounced back pretty quick (because it wasn’t really too big of a dinner). Again, this quick recovery can be risky because it sends the message that you can get away with these things.
On 3/26, you mentioned that you had been eating a bit more because your appetite had been up lately. I wasn’t sure if that was a warning sign…maybe some rationalization going on there. Personally, I’ve completely ditched the entire concept of appetite and it seems to be serving me well. Appetite is irrelevant in today’s world and the concept does nothing to help us.
If we deploy the tools of habituation/entrainment, then the power of those forces will completely mask the red herring of appetite.
To end on a positive note, you are really kicking ass in these last few weeks and I see a bit of a weight-loss “whoosh” going on for you right now.
Easter will set you back a bit, but what’s important is how you respond.
Although I do encourage you to observe your own thought patterns as these types of events approach. I keep a journal and can go back and look at how many events I stressed over and planned for…I’ve come up with so many strategies and elaborate plans to prepare to deal with these events…it’s insane. Guess what - they hardly ever work.
When I’m spending lots of time and energy game-planning for these events, it means I’m giving WAY too much power to the problem. It suggests that I’m simply just not in a place where I’ll be able to handle it. I almost always fail.
On the other extreme, I’ve rationalized that since my past strategies have failed, maybe the best approach is just to throw caution to the wind and pick up the pieces later. Needless to say, this is not a good mindset.
The only thing that seems to work is having the mindset that I must protect my momentum at all costs. Being “on a roll”, or being “in the zone” has become something I appreciate so much, that I’m willing to make those short-term sacrifices to protect it. So the last event I went to, I went extreme and brought my own food and didn’t eat any of the garbage at all. My family protested a little bit, but of all the explanations I’ve tried in the past, just saying “I’m on a roll right now and I don’t want to mess it up” seemed to be the most well-received.
Keep up the great work. It’s been great watching you blast through 225, then 220, then 215, and now 210. The cool thing is that while the same exact behaviors you used to get from 225 to 210 can get you from 210 to 195, the visual difference between 210 and 195 will be exponentially more rewarding. Same effort, more reward.
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Hey serge
Thanks for taking the time to write this thoughtful and detailed analysis. I appreciate the time it took to prepare this.
I think my younger defensive self would have recoiled at having to read someone’s critique of me. However, I welcome it now. It’s really interesting to get some one else’s take on my words.
Thanks for pointing out some potential warning signs and providing what actually works for you. Sometimes it’s easy to see when other people are making mistakes but make rationalizations to justify my own unwillingness to be completely committed. It’s important to recognize this tendency in myself.
Anyhow, I’m generally willing to ease up for major holidays, which I did. While I did bloat up, I ate about half the quantity, or even less, than past years. So I pleased with this year’s outcome. Back to work for me.
Thanks again