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Alright: life update. 3 weeks of constant work has led to at least a weekend of peace and quiet. Aced all my tests so far, more testing next week. Pulled a fair amount of all-nighters to finish the year strong, but I did it. Also, I came through and did a group final project by myself an hour before I was due to present because my group kicked me out of the project for not doing my share of the work early enough. I’d understand their reasoning if they didn’t know me, but:
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I told them everything about the situation (have to devote a lot of energy to my friend to make sure she doesn’t end up killing herself or getting molested/raped again) and when I would be doing my share of the project. I trusted them enough to level with them about everything, because I thought they were decent enough people to at least NOT hang me out to dry. I’ve known them for 3+ years and had a decent, bordering on good, relationship with them.
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I’ve worked with them numerous times in the past, and I’m significantly smarter than all of them. I’ve done all the work on projects that were supposed to be split among us many, many times and gotten us all A’s.
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I offered to do my share of the work numerous times, and after first looking at what they’d done up to that point; to fix the stuff they did wrong. They then removed my email from our Google Slides presentation after abruptly and unanimously voting among themselves to kick me out of the group.
I ended up making my own presentation, which was significantly better than the slop they put together. I did better work by myself in an hour than the three of those fucking morons could do in three days. Got a better grade because of it. I guess the universe works in mysterious ways.
I also settled the situation with my friend. I leveled with her about speaking to her other best friend, and she was at first upset but eventually came around. I will continue to gently encourage her to report the situation (still not sure if I believe she wasn’t raped, but I hope she wasn’t) and her molester coworker, but we’ve agreed that her mother will always be with her at the stable (because she’s admitted to me that he hasn’t given her a problem so long as she’s stayed within her mother’s general vicinity) and I convinced her to talk to her sponsors about the situation, which she’s done. Her horse is being relocated in 2 weeks or so. She is also fairly positive that her coworker hasn’t molested any of the younger children working with her, because she has a very close relationship with the 12-13 year olds working there and they have been their normal, perky selves. Her mental state is significantly better than it was a week or so ago.
I’m glad I was able to be there for her, and thank you guys for all of your advice.