Why you don’t ask her directly why is she doing that ? what does she want ?
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Why did you do split? I assume you’re the one who ended things…?
Sorry to be cynical but from my experiences, and my “always in a different relationship” friends… it is almost always an attention thing unless there were some very rare, specific things that caused the break-up. I know it’s hard but I believe the right thing to do is just ignore it and get on with your life. She clearly didn’t care about your feelings when you broke up. Maybe things aren’t working out with her ex and she wants to know if she still has you in her back pocket.
That’s all the details anyone needs to know. Fuck her off. Don’t let yourself be an option. Continue on down the path you were on before she managed to get herself in to your head again.
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Being the fourth person telling me that, I guess I will before blocking her ahah. I must confess that, still having feelings for her, I enjoyed talking to her.
After her mother’s death, things got complicated, she reconnected with her ex and hesitated between us (yikes)
Pretty much what my other friends told me.
I guess, that despite having consumed red pill content for more than a year, I still cannot understand why anyone would do that. My friends simply told me that not everyone has a good heart like I do.
This girl is hotter than the sun, literally, she can have anyone. Then why do this? She could have the attention of literally anyone. I’m sure she knows she hurt me. She even said I was a very good person when we split.
I was there when her mother died. At the funeral. helped her family. And many other things. I always had her back and tried to ease up her pain. Even her was surprised that I still got her back when she did bad things to me.
So why… inflict pain again to someone that only tried to make you happy… 
Yeah, this is the way. Forward. Thanks
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So she went through a hard time and reconnected with her ex instead of you two building a stronger bond and getting through it together? But you still want to hear her out? You don’t owe her anything and she has already let you know where you stand. By all means, see what she has to say but I don’t think there’s anything to gain from it, she’ll just crawl into your head a little more. If she had any respect for you she’d have outlined her reasons and intentions right away.
Yeah, I’m sure she gets attention all the time, she’s used to it. What isn’t she used to? Not getting attention. Who’s the one who hasn’t been giving her attention for a while? You. That’s what she’s craving the most to build her ego. Once she knows she has it she’ll only hurt you again.
I don’t mean to blunt about this dude but it may be what you need to hear.
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Just my 2 cents- Emotional manipulators don’t care about how You feel, they care about how They feel.
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It’s okay. Nowadays we sugar coat everything too much.
So I asked her why, at least, to see how she would play it. She said that she had no answer to give me why. She just wanted to do it. And stuff like that.
Sigh…
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Sorry man. This is unbelievably common. She just wanted to know that you’d still be there, now you know not to be. Ever again.
One of my ex-girlfriends used to message me, get a reaction from me and then not reply for days at a time. I let her get away with so much stuff because of my emotions towards her. It would drive me legit crazy because I delusionally thought my future was still with her. I wouldn’t go near her now I understand life, her, myself, and what I want better. It’s so embarrassing looking back but these lessons were invaluable. And they will be to you too.
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Damn man, same here. I first I was shooting her off, but this changed when her mom died.
The whole relation was so STRESSFUL for me.
Anyway, that’s a lesson. Her behaviour helped me to move on this time. So childish/manipulative.
Thank you for your ears guys.
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