So the language used for teaching was English? Did you study Mandarin as a subject?
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No. I grew up speaking it
Also went to Chinese school
Most kids hates it, but I liked it. Honestly I just liked takin classes
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I’ve said this somewhere in the forum before:
All the kids I grew up with who spoke mainly Chinese (Mandarin or other dialects) at home and amongst ourselves HATED studying Mandarin.
And here’s something that you guys in the West may not know. The Chinese/ Math correlation may be real. In a class full of Chinese kids, we’d always approach the ones who scored highest in Mandarin for help for MATH LMAO.
EDIT:
Seriously, I’m not making this up. Even where I live now, older Chinese people who studied in English schools would tell me that they’d ask friends from schools that taught students in Mandarin for help with their math homework.
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There’s a stereotype of the Chinese students at the back of the class who screws up the curves.
My parents WERE those students lol 
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No, I have not
That sounds terrifying! I’m not comfortable doing that yet. Perhaps in the future when I’m more confident/sure of myself.
Slightly unrelated, but I find that I really like living vicariously through others
for example, watching ppl buy stuff, hearing stories about my friends partying, cooking food for my friends but not eating it…
One of my favourite activities is to go shopping with my parents, express interest in an item, try to convince them to buy it (either for me or myself), then convince them not to when I think they might actually agree
It sounds like you enjoy manipulating people
That’s not autism…
I think it will benefit you.
Regarding dating and marriage, research simply backed up what I already observed going back to 12 years old in 1992.
well no, I like the IDEA of owning stuff, not owning it.
by doing that, I get as close to being able to own something without actually having to own it
Like regarding hypergamy, I didn’t need a study to confirm I wasn’t delusional when in high school, I didn’t get as much female attention as guys from rich parents who drove cars at seventeen years old that their teachers couldn’t afford. Same goes for why dangerous and abusive guys got more attention. No study needed to confirm I wasn’t delusional.
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My parents told me to make sure my partner came from “a good family” and told my little bro to watch out for gold diggers
literally most of what researchers in behavioural sciences study is pretty much common sense
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I’ve never understood this one
From what I could perceive, these subtypes perhaps came across as rebellious and exciting. They’d manipulate vulnerable women, initially showering them with love and affection before pulling the carpet out from under them. Many seem to have trouble differentiating between confidence and arrogance.
You were a bodybuilder in HS were you not? Did this not “push you up”?
This was pre-Internet and social media. Yes, I got into working out, though inconsistently in high school. I had an OK body for a teenage. But I can tell you back in the mid 90s in Queens, young women did not give a rat’s ass about muscle and a small fraction of guys were into the gym. They couldn’t have cared less actually. There were some women into me but I was totally socially aloof and naive.
There is an element of women who like dangerous and domineering men because they’re thrilling or give a sense of protection. Sometimes some women don’t have much of a choice because of their situation. Either go out with a jerk or a sap. At least a jerk can be assertive and make decisions.
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Novelty.
When you’re surrounded by the mundane novelty has an amazing effect.
I switched schools from neighboring districts (expelled). WOOO! Novelty + mystique
Got tested as the new guy by a couple of bully/chumps and knocked them out.
Ohhh! Danger!
Had girls fighting over me in the hallways.
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I don’t understand the appeal of “bad boys” but I do understand the appeal of dominance
Also dangerous is not ordinary. Being in a gang and criminal isn’t ordinary either. Many young women do not want ordinary men. Maybe this is evolutionary too.
This happened to me frequently. In HS I used to struggle with social ques, as of today I’m far better but still not a shining example of normality.
I’d been in situations wherein flirtatious behaviour was so obvious, but I simply couldn’t pick up on it. The funniest example being when I was at an old friends 18th birthday party. This girl who had been talking to me sporadically throughout the night came up to me, dragged me by the hand and tried to take me to a spot that was isolated.
Me, being slightly inebriated and having no idea what was going on in terms of this interaction looked behind me and saw someone I knew. I let go of the woman’s hand and went to go talk to that person.
Later that night the woman comes up to me, drunk and asks for my number. But me giving her my number isn’t good enough, she puts my number in her phone and makes me call her to ensure I haven’t given out a fake number… At that point, it clicked “dammit @unreal24278!”
The next day I find out she’s the ex of a good friend of mine. Said friend broke up with her because she was quite abusive, so I did not end up shooting my shot.
Can you top being THAT naive?
I have quite a few old stories wherein women were flirting with me, but I thought they were being rude or facetious.
Being in a gang also hints you might be a bit of a psychopath. Surely evolution ought to push you towards a partner you know can and will provide while keeping you reasonably safe no?
So if you were a scrawny 110 lb weakling at 5’10 the girls wouldn’t have cared so long as you had money and/or were involved in criminal festivities?
All I need to to is rob a bank, spend 15 years in jail and girls will flock to me?
Boys… We’re robbing a bank tonight
They have amazing cheeses that I can’t get in Australia due to ridiculous importation protocals in the name of strict biosecurity laws and protectionism.
Aus actually had very strict border policies before covid…
Yes I can.
Me too
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