Does this type of woman exist?! Fuck, I’d love to meet one!
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I know this isn’t what this thread is for, but I went on a date tonight. No deep philosophical thoughts, just went and had a blast. First date with this woman and it was awesome. Would do again.
@BrickHead she actually made a joke about her needing to be home tending to the house or something. I was finally able to work In the “you should be lucky to drive and vote” and have it go over well!
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This is 100% what this thread is for
That’s awesome. It’s always nice when someone shares your sense of humour
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Yes, they exist. At my job at the skilled nursing facility there’s a woman who visits her demented husband daily. Because of Covid restrictions she can’t enter the building as she wishes. She stands outside his window, talks and sings to him and encourages him to eat. I’ve seen a lot of the “Til death do us part” thing.
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If you’re the type of guy who could deal with all that, and apparently you did, it’s OK for you. However those stories line up with my negative comments regarding men dating generally. So that’s enormous aggravation, restrictions, and surveillance, for what?
I politely ask, why were you around this woman after it was over?
Same here with these men. These are good examples of my no-girlfriends idea that other men might seem to find useful. Hardship (even abuse) for what? Nothing in the end. Maybe a learning experience does come out of it, like “don’t be with women who manipulate and abuse me, and don’t smack them if I am with one,” but that’s common sense for most. Not to mention the jaded women with poor pair-bonding ability that the next man has to deal with after he considers being with her long term.
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My bathroom at my old apartment (had my own) was so bare, well lit, and clinical looking that it conjured many serial killer jokes. But, it took like 4 minutes to thoroughly clean it.
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I can’t remember which comedian it was but they had a great bit about others people’s stuff being shit, while your own belongings count as stuff.
“Hey move your shit so I can put my stuff down”.
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In that case…
We started talking Thursday. I was working and she was headed out of town Friday and wouldn’t be back till early Monday morning. I called dibs on first available time slot to take her out and she agreed to Monday night.
We talked a decent amount during the weekend, not too much as she had atuff going on and I wasn’t going to be that guy, but we did talk daily if nothing else but a quick how was your day!?
Yesterday was date day and I asked her how she felt about a local brewery that she had already mentioned she loved. She said she didn’t want me to have to drive that far after work (aka she wasn’t feeling it lol) I told her tonight was about her so I’d go anywhere she liked. She chose a spot closer to her and still close to me. Turns out she chose my buddies restaurant/bar so that was cool.
Dinner and drinks went well. We both have the same sense of humor and share common interests such as working out, hiking, and just being outdoors.
She has competed before in bikini so I was a bit more self conscious than normal. To most average people I’m in shape/built/jacked (their words def not mine) but this chick KNEW what it really meant to be jacked 
turns out she was still really into me 
Being a Monday night they closed at 9. I told her I was really enjoying being with her and didn’t want the night to be over, so I asked about how she felt about dessert somewhere. She was down! Obviously everything was closed so she suggested publix, which I thought was cool.
We got cookie dough, Ben and Jerry’s, and a bottle of wine (lol). The wine actually paired extremely well with our choices I was shocked.
We just sat in my truck and ate/drank a little. It was fun.
She had been giving me alllll the signs to shut up and kiss her, and eventually I did. She made some comment basically saying about time and I told her I wasn’t blind, I knew what she had wanted for a while and she thought that it was funny I picked up on it.
She ended up coming back to my place
Really looking forward to going out again!
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That’s awesome dude!
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Yea!. That 4:45 alarm came wayyyy to early and now I look and feel like a raccoon lol. I have another date tonight (2nd date with another chick) but I think I’m going to cancel. I really could use the sleep.
Thanks for sharing for us noobies ahah.
This. I think I am really terrible sometimes at interpretating what people really mean when they say something. I would have just thought she was actually concerned, not that she wasn’t feeling it ahahah.
What are these in your opinion?
I think that way too often we are self-sabotaging or aren’t aware of what we actually look like or are capable of 
At Halloween I was thinking I was looking shit because of the abuses I put my body through these last couple weeks. All soft and empty.
But as I were there in the midst of 6000 people, a lot being half-naked (it was unbearably hot) I realized I was like in the top 0.1%
I had lost my friends who were searching for beer, so I was wandering alone. Inebriated guys and gals were constantly stopping me to make a coment, touch my abs or something and I kinda clicked.
I think I heard that confidence comes from successes.
Anyway, then some girl approached me and we spent most of the night and she was very, suggestive, and touchy and if I had not promised my friend to go powerlift, I would have finished at her hotel for she was almost begging me to go lol.
And she was smoking hot! She asked me if I would have approached her, and no I wouldn’t have.
Usually, I just think “there’s no way a girl like that can be single” or some BS excuse. But yeah, we miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.
Anyway, I was just rambling my sudden surge in confidence, but I have so much to learn. I will try more from now on, because, we don’t know until we try it.
If I end up in some date someday soon I’ll share my experience ahah
I shall give you a thorough reply when I have time today good sir.
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Could you also compile a list of things guys do when they like someone?
I think that’s totally dependent on the guy. I also think I’m not that great at coming off in a way where someone thinks “he’s totally hitting on me” lol
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I’m a newb as well lol I’ve spent most of my life married or in a relationship. I’m learning as I go!
I’m an over thinker and pretty good at reading body language and deciphering code texts lol. Obviously I fail miserably but this one was easy. I knew she was working late, I knew she liked this brewery, I knew she knew I liked this brewery, so if she was trying to make it easier on me, it was obviously code for I don’t feel like going out that far. Pretty cut and dry. I told her I’d go anywhere as long as she was there, brownie points as well as permission to let her choose the spot and be comfortable. Win/win
What’s funny is I struggle sooo bad knowing whether someone is into me (within reason) but I seem to have a knack for picking up on the “I want you to do something” part on dates/after I’m in a position where it’s obvious they like me.
The eyes are the window to the soul on this for me. How and what they are looking at is always a good spot to start. I’ve noticed the few women I’ve picked this up on and acted accordingly, they thoroughly like that I was able to pick up on it. There’s coming a day when I’ll be wrong and it’ll be awkward, and that’s ok. Failure is an opportunity for success later!
This is true. I’ve also noticed the same women who might just see you out and about and think “I mean he’s cute “ can totally have those feelings intensified once she gets to know you if she’s feeling you on a personal level. I think for guys most of the attraction (within reason) is superficial at first, and with women (within reason) it builds stronger once there’s a mental attraction. Plenty of 5’s turn into 9’s when they have a personality and can connect with a women and make her feel positive emotions.
I struggle with this badly and it’s something I’m working on. So, you’re not alone.
I’ve been on a few dates like this. Had we met in a bar or out and about I wouldn’t have initiated because I’ve somehow convinced myself I am not worthy. Super unhealthy thinking and probably makes me some type of narcissist lol
This is true but there is so much to be gained from the negative experiences! Way more than the successes!!! In the failures you have the opportunity to fix things to make them better!
Some of my biggest, scariest, most brutal moments in life that were absolute dumpster fires have been where I’ve grown the most. The things I like about myself today haven’t come from my successes, they’ve came from my failures. Failing, owning the failure, examining why I failed, and learning from that.
Easier said than done obviously
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If I’m talking to you and smiling I’m probably into you
It turns out my “sup sexy” is just being nice. Which is not the best approach but I genuinely have no idea what the next level is and I don’t think I care lol
Most of the time I have RBF, so if no RBF then I’m into you lol
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That’s the most heartbreaking yet simultaneously beautiful thing I’ve heard in a while… Wow… My faith in humanity has been ever so slightly restored.
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Okay
So you looked terrible and soft… But you had visible abs associated with a muscular frame so pronounced people kept stopping to touch you?
Did you actually look terrible or is this body dysmorphia.
I recommend you stop going on benders. I cut that shit out in January this year and suprisingly… I don’t miss it. I look back now on some of the more heinous adventures I had and think “good god man, what was wrong with me!”. I never hurt anyone, but I made a bit of an ass out of myself on numerous occasions. I have no regrets, but I can now see why untapped hedonism is undoubtedly destructive.
Very sparse indulgence is fine, but benders/getting absolutely wasted is a huge waste of time. It’s equitable to prioritising immediate pleasure despite the fallout associated with it over intermediate to long term gain.
Drug/alcohol use can be a lot of fun, but you’ve even specified it has had a negative impact on your life (gym performance, body composition etc). I happen to believe if this kind of stuff is having an impact on your life, chances are you’re going a bit ham and dialling back is probably a good idea.
If you take a tablet or get seriously drunk once or twice a year, no harm done (in my opinion), if you’re a weekend warrior… Watch out, this shit has a way of catching up with people.
It’s quite insidious in that manner, especially with the more addictive substances like alcohol and painkillers. It’s “just once a month”, then “it’s on the weekends” then “it’s just one workday” then “I need this to go to sleep at night and this to get me up in the morning.” to “who is drinking today? I want to drink but it’s only 11 in the morning”.
I never fell victim to such extremes, but I know many who did. Esp with people trying to deal with isolation/boredom associated with the EXTREMELY prolonged lockdowns over here.
W don’t really celebrate Halloween in Aus. I actually FORGOT it was Halloween on October the 31st! Some young adults will celebrate it by dressing provocatively, some take advantage of the event and use it as an excuse to behave badly (rowdy behaviour, property damage, drunken fights etc)
Whatever you do for Halloween, don’t ruin it for the kids… I remember trick or treating in America used to be one of my favourite yearly events, though I stopped after I hit thirteen years of age.
If you’re getting drunk, stoned or high… Do it on private property. If you’re watching a horrendous horror flick capable of scarring a child for life, do so away from the youngins. Halloween was SO much fun! Though at the age of twelve I had already seen a few of the classics, I dressed up as Michael Myers once.
I know this has nothing to do with dating. However I read your post and as you specified “weeks of bodily abuse” I wanted to say… Be careful… Seriously, watch out. This crap catches up to you faster than you realise.
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The later for sure. When I don’t look like my top shape, I don’t feel as good. But I can only blame myself anyway. It’s work to be less exigeant and self-focused.
For sure mate. I have been a weekend warrior since lockdown ended here, so in May. It just get tiresome in the end. Always the same things, and no benefits. You ruin your health, your diet, your wallet for pretty much nothing.
Yes, I can understand that. From 19 to 25 I was a big alcoholic. But during lockdonw I didn’t drink once. I never drink by myself, never.
I only drink when I go out or with friends. It makes me jolly and outgoing and adventurous. I just like having fun is all.
So, last weekend, I didn’t drink or go out. It was very, very hard on Friday. Then easier on Saturday.
And this weekend I kept quiet but for Halloween. And it was an actual Festival here (I didn’t explain the context lol). It was a big techno/electro concert, with only adults. No kids here, and in a private space. And I drank like 3 beers in 8 hours. Honestly I didn’t even feel the need. I was proposed some and I was thirsty. But I never felt nor chased the buzz.
Drugs, I didn’t even wanted to. The people I were with were high on E. But a few months ago I had a bad experience and I vowed to never do it again.
I really didn’t need it to enjoy the music of having fun. I’ll try to keep away from alcohol even more and keep my consumption very ocasional.
Because yeah, then I skip the gym and eat only Burger King for the day
Here it’s getting more and more popular as years pass. Usually, kids go trick or treating during the day, and during the night adults disguise themselves and go party.
Yeah I know it did a couple weeks ago, and pain and little injuries appeared.
Ooof that’s a hard one. I would think that it boils down to interacting with you. If he messages you, or want to speak with you or stuff like that, there most likely are chances.
Yep, I agree with this. But it’s also true with men.
Yes, gotta change this! We were both proven wrong!
Oh I completely agree. Adversity and being out of your comfort zone is what will make you grow the most. I shall try and fail more with women then.
BTW I texted the girl and I’m most likely gonna see her this sunday
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Does it make you jolly and adventurous? Or does it simply make you care less about the potential consequences associated with your actions?
Disinhibition isn’t always a good thing unless you are anxious at baseline. In which case, using booze to cope with anxiety is a slippery slope. Don’t become dependent on alcohol to have fun in social situations. Then again, I’m not telling you what to do. I’m not your dad
Like 70% of the time E isn’t actually MDMA, rather a substitute with similar chemical nomenclature yet different pharmacological properties. Take MDMA vs PMMA for instance. MDMA if taken very sparsely at a reasonable dose by a healthy ADULT is arguably less dangerous than getting drunk, there was a scientist in the UK who came under fire for insisting it was about as dangerous as going horseback riding. PMMA has a very low index between recreational dosing and lethal dosing as it tends to skyrocket body temperature and has a far longer duration of action. PMMA is frequently sold as E.
You’re far better off without it unless the substance is legalised and/or testing facilities are available that tell you “what is in my pill” and “how much is in my pill”. If you have a history of alcohol abuse I’d also keep a very watchful eye over future alcohol intake. I’m not saying “never drink again!” I’m saying “moderation”.
Also, festivals from my perspective are not the greatest places to meet long term partners. Due to covid I haven’t been to one in over eighteen months, but they’re loud, chaotic environments filled to the brim with inebriated individuals looking to let off a little bit of steam. For the most part girls who attend are either with someone and/or are looking for a hookup, not a boyfriend.
Alcohol intake increases release of galanin and tends to induce hypoglycemia (due to increase in insulin secretion). Galanin increase will stimulate a desire for greasy, fatty food. Hypoglycemia will make you crave carbs.
Not to mention all the empty calories present in booze.
Hurray!
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