Your son’s lucky to have a mother like you. He’ll turn out wonderfully…
I KNOW YOU KNOW THAT!!! DON’T YELL AT ME!!!
[quote]Vash wrote:
MarvelGirl, you absolutely rock. [/quote]
I completely agree, too many women’s only prequalification for having children is opening their legs and taking every dick in sight. Then when their child is born with something as unfortunate as having autism, or down syndrome or being blind, they cannot even remotely handle it, because they couldn’t handle a healthy child.
Anyway, keep up your great parenting, and continue to proceed to tell everyone who has a problem with it to fuck off.
[quote]MarvelGirl wrote:
If you think I’m embarrassed, you’re out of your fucking mind. I am the mother of a child who seriously asks women at the hair salon why they bother paying for a haircut since they’ll still be ugly and it seems like a waste of money to him.
If he sees a fat person eating candy, he asks them if they are retarded and when they say no, he asks why they are eating more candy since they have already achieved their goal of being hugely fat.
He mocks other children for not being able to read and will occasionally raise his hand to ask his teacher why the other children are so stupid.
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Coke with lime came out my nose, imagine that pain. You are doing great, and I wish I knew your son. Seems like he’s a real comedian. Your child is a blessing, a life long companion that will forever make fun of people, and keep you laughing. Cherish him, and screw anyone who gets hurt because they are content being mediocre.
- Brother
One of my closest friends has a son diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. Unfortunately she doesn’t handle it as well as you are doing. When he was younger it was just rude behavioral problems and embarrassing moments, but now that he is 14, he has been expelled from 4 schools this year.
He is also expressing his sexuality very inappropriately (toward other family members, for instance) and expressing openly his desire to get a job so he can pay prostitutes. He is very intelligent and very good with computers and video games (which he is addicted to).
He has shown MUCH improvement over the years by doing exactly what you are doing with your son: role-playing common situations. Every time he switches schools, he adjusts better socially, so he is learning from his mistakes. In fact, he is considered “cool” at his new school. He is dressing up “emo” style! LOL.
Another concern is that his behavior has gotten violent upon occasion. Now that the kid has some T running through his veins, he want’s to fight and fuck all the time and has trouble channeling that energy in a constructive way.
At any rate, I think what you are doing with your son is wonderful and I hope and pray for the best. I included some of the experiences I had with my friend’s son just to give you an idea about what might be around the corner so you can prepare a little better for it and possibly avoid it.
You’ve probably thought of it already, but I just wanted to chime in and help. (NOT trying to tell you how to parent!) You’re a great Mom and your son is lucky to have you. With your help, I’m sure he will find joy and success in his life.
I think you’re doing the right thing.
I was mentally off in some way when I was a child – maybe autism, I don’t know, but I had terrible social skills and no friends, despite being bright – and I “grew out of it.” Which actually means my mother taught me how to behave.
If she had been a different kind of parent I could have wound up in special ed at a young age and had a much more limited future. I don’t know what your son’s biology permits, but there’s a good chance that he’s capable of more than the educational system assumes, and good for you for helping him get there.
[quote]MarvelGirl wrote:
anubis rex wrote:
The one and only thing about Asbergers is that your child most likely actually enjoys being the center of attention.
That’s Connor exactly. Everything he says has to be incredibly LOUD so that EVERYONE can hear it.
Even I have to admit that sometimes it’s really funny. I remember when he was five, my husband was talking to a guy he was in the army with in front of Connor. This guy used to call his car a turd because it was an ugly old clunker, and my husband had said he needed to wash his car. The guy responded “Even if you wash a turd, it’s still a turd.” and they all laughed.
About a month later I take him to the mall and I’m at the cosmetic counter. There was this older woman getting a makeover and she made the mistake of talking to the sweet little boy with me. I was right next to him and he was being nice, then she asks him how she looked when the lady was done with her makeup. Connor looked her up and down, shook his head, looked her right in the eye and said:
“Well, you can put makeup on a turd, but it’s still a turd.”
It’s funny now, but at the time I just wanted to sink into the floor.
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This has officially made my week!
Keep doing what you do, MG. Your son is lucky to have you as a parent.
MarvelGirl,
It’s awesome to see a parent like you. My friend teaches severe-profoundly disabled children, they have more than one problem. Almost none of the parents recognize this. The deaf children’s parents don’t know sign language and refuse to learn b/c they want their kid to be “normal.” Case in point, she had two deaf sisters who were Muslim and it was the month of Ramadan, where you fast during sun up. She noticed they were not eating and asked what was wrong. They said that their dad said they couldn’t eat, did not give a reason so they thought they were being punished for something. My friend called in the parents and she proceeded to translate why the girls could not eat. The girls then understood and were fine with it, much relieved as well! I don’t understand why a parent would refuse to learn to communicate with their child. She has some horror stories that would make even pacifist want to inflict violence.
You are an awesome mom and I wish there were more like you.
mg-sorry…spelled Aspergers ‘Asbergers’ in my post. Wasn’t the first time I screwed something up and won’t be the last…
MG, excellent rant.
Damn your boy is lucky to have a fighter for a mom!
Great rant. I think your boy is going to turn out just fine.