Are you likely to meet in person? If not, don’t bother
He has to buy the other “H”
Do not attempt sophism with me good sir.
It was more of a saying than anything bud.
Just trying to help the guy, she didn’t directly say she wasn’t interested and seems like she doesn’t mind the attention as much as she doesn’t want it.
All in all I wanted to come across and tell him not to be weird or creepy and let things play out naturally.
Sorry if it sounded aggressive, didn’t think you were saying anything malicious, but I’d say she came as close to directly no as any girl does in a situation with a guy who likes her where they otherwise have a friendly relationship. And I think him looking for her social media would absolutely be creepy at this point. In fact, now that he’s put all that out there and not received any reciprocal advances, this has already played out naturally.
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…but you’re one of the best … how am I supposed to improve if I don’t engage with those who are better than me at it?
I see how it is, trying to hold an ambition sophist down, eh? Stay in the spotlight as long as you can? Well, the bigger they are, they say. We’ll see who’s speaking over whom in the end…
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This is one of the nicest compliments I’ve ever been paid. I especially enjoyed when you called me big.
But…
Move on!
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I more or less meant ask for it and if she doesn’t share that… it’s his clue to drop it.
If you can get her instagram hassle free and start sending memes back and forth it’s probably his best bet to come out as funny and caught her attention with a sense of humour.
I’m terrible at explaining my way of thinking on day 12/14 steady nightshift my brain is melted.
But I agree idk I’ve recovered some weird situations before without pushing it.
Sometimes people set up pre conceived walls because they feel it’s. Waste of time.
But as I stress hassle and creepy free. Never push it and let it occur naturally.
But that’s my opinion and seems the consensus is very different. So do as you wish OP
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Send more memes. Always.
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He was just trying to woo you.
I don’t try … I only do
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Okay, so I’m gonna throw this out here. I just went back to NY to celebrate my brother defending his thesis for his PhD in immunology from Rockefeller. Afterwards I went out with a bunch of his colleagues. There were at least a dozen girls there working in his lab who were very pretty, super intelligent, and were absolutely consumed by their work and didn’t have boyfriends. No time for them. So pretty, successful, intelligent women who don’t date men and are “nerdy” do exist. Not saying this isn’t a troll, but it’s funny how many guys are online and play video games (or have some nerdy vice) and lift weights and are single and consider themselves to be fairly good looking and scoff at the idea of a woman in a similar situation.
THAT BEING SAID, it’s 100% possible that there’s a strong catfish element to this story. Just figured I’d put it out there, since I had my best friend from childhood with me at the bar that night and we were looking around like “Jesus, there are a bunch of beautiful single women scientists around us right now…”
comment of the year
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On the next girl you meet online, just cut to the chase and ask her to meet you for coffee/dinner/whatever. I like the coffee because you’ve only committed to about 20 minutes and $10 to find out that she’s a dude (still laughing on that one), still married (matters to me at least), outweighs you, or maybe shes just not the over achiever she claims to be. If you think you might like her cut to the chase and get face to face ASAP.
In my experience when women say yes it’s outloud in all caps, with multiple exclamation points. I was older before I experienced this, but I asked this girl out I used to work with. She couldn’t get to work on time to save her life but she was early for dates which she was planning. I almost married her but by the grace of God saw the light.
If her answer is some derivative of maybe or it’s so cryptic you are like WTF then it’s basically a no. IMHO women don’t just come out and say no because either you are a backup plan or they just plain love attention even though they have no desire to date.
I would ghost this chick NOW. If she comes back then reevaluate. Get a face to face ASAP.
Have you been living in a cave?
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Could you be a little more specific? What specifically did I say that you disagree with?
I think it was the part about netting face to face ASAP when…you know, the government said no doing that?
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Well there is that, which hopefully will lift sooner rather than later. I was speaking more in general terms. There is no substitute for face to face.
I don’t know, I’m partial to reverse cow-girl
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