I think the best thing you can do is to let her go and try your best to move on.
I don’t think it’s a good idea to try to stay with her just for sex because if you’ve ever loved her it will just cause you more suffering. It wouldn’t be a very healthy thing to do.
I know a lot of people here have been harsh in their replies but I believe that it’s probably because they can relate. They have likely been hurt before and know how it feels. I feel for you. It’s never good to have someone you care about hurt you. I’m sure they just don’t want you to needlessly suffer.
I sincerely believe that if you stay with this girl or try to maintain any type or relationship with her that you will only be setting yourself up for more suffering.
Listen closely, this will not be easy, but this is the best thing you can do for yourself, your dignity, and for future relationships:
1.If you have any of her stuff and she is not living with you, box it all up along with any pictures or anything else that will remind you of her. I mean absolutely everthing you have.
Take it to wherever she lives when she is not there or alseep. Leave it at her door with a SHORT note (not more than 1 paragraph, 2 at the most) that says something you know will be hurtful and lets her know that you have ZERO respect for her, are much better off without her, are glad she fucked up and is not wasting anymore of your time, was simply a mistake to begin with, and you never want to speak to OR HEAR FROM her again.
Maybe even let her know if she leaves you messages, you will erase them without ever listening to them (then DO IT! fuck what she says, who cares?!).
Do NOT speak to her ever again or at least for a very long time.
I can about garantee that the best way to hurt her is to completely ignore her and move on. You have to realilze she is worthless and the one who fucked up and move on.
RESPECT YOURSELF. You are not doing that if you in any way hold out hope of staying together or try to keep this person in your life.
gutlips, does the slut in question have a decent looking sister? If so, bang her sister, then call her, and tell her how great it was. If not, then find one of her close friends and do the same thing.
Kicking the guy’s ass is not the answer here. Walking away and cutting off all contact is the answer. After all it is not the guys fault that she decided to slut it up. If not him it would’ve been some other guy.
People can only treat you like a doormat as long as you are laying down allowing them to.
Ericka, great point. You are an intelligent and beautiful woman and gutlips would do well to listen to you. When my marriage ended, it was so much easier when I cut off all contact with her, moved a town over and cut her out of my life. From experience, gutlips, you should do the same.
Nah not quite … meet up with her after doing her sister and then tell her what you did and how it was a mistake and you were really thinking about her.
Then a week or so later, go out to a club with the sister and call your ex, tell her who you’re with but that you just enjoy her company etc
Now if you don’t want to do all that, if you’re not the sort of prick who would do that to a person, why would you want to be with someone who is?
Do it cold. Just cut off all contact – change your cell phone number and any other contact information. She knows where you live, which is too bad, but avoid her like the plague. Lose her contact info. Never, ever speak to her again – no explanations, no nothing.