[quote]HangerBaby wrote:
I’ll never be a doctor, but from my understanding doctors engage in some small talk with their patients. I would bring up something you do for fun, if you have a dog, say its nice out, think you’ll walk the dog today etc. ask her if she has a dog, then set up a ‘playdate’ for the dogs or something… I dont know, I suck at women. Don’t listen to me[/quote]
That’s actually not a bad idea. If you find a shared hobby, you can casually invite someone to participate in it and you’d just come off as friendly.
I also think suggesting getting a cup of coffee is fine.
THat flower idea was golden. I think I might use it. Different situation but it might be just what I need. THis wouldn;'t be the first time flowers saved my ass
[quote]MarvelGirl wrote:
HangerBaby wrote:
I’ll never be a doctor, but from my understanding doctors engage in some small talk with their patients. I would bring up something you do for fun, if you have a dog, say its nice out, think you’ll walk the dog today etc. ask her if she has a dog, then set up a ‘playdate’ for the dogs or something… I dont know, I suck at women. Don’t listen to me
That’s actually not a bad idea. If you find a shared hobby, you can casually invite someone to participate in it and you’d just come off as friendly.
I also think suggesting getting a cup of coffee is fine.
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When you work with people informally (retail, service industry, etc) it is pretty hard to go from “I’m your doctor/sales rep/customer service dude” to “I want to go on a date with you”
[quote]When you work with people informally (retail, service industry, etc) it is pretty hard to go from “I’m your doctor/sales rep/customer service dude” to “I want to go on a date with you”
I don’t feel like going obvious is a good idea [/quote]
Me either. Romantic movie-ish type advances are a good idea in theory, but in practice they seem to fall flat/be awkward for both parties 9 times out of 10. Only way they work is if (a) you’s a smooth motherfucker or (b) she’s attracted anyway and you’re flirting like gangbusters, in which case just ask her out for a cup of coffee/drinks/club whatever.
Two examples from my workplace from girls I know. Both were approached by pharmacists (fraternization between pharmacy folk and front end is a no-no in my company, but that’s what makes workplace romances so damn hot, innit?). Both went out on dates.
Girl A was very surprised and mildly pleased to be asked about by the first guy. They’d never really talked at all and he seemed nice enough. The date sucked, however, because he was a dork who was wildly overformal to the point of being puppydogish and they had no chemistry whatsoever to boot. He then spent the next three days blowing up her phone via text messaging and becoming increasingly irate as to why she wasn’t responding (women don’t like being smothered? Fancy that) while she cringed in embarrassment and asked me what the hell to do.
Meanwhile, Girl B pretty much needed a wet nap from the get-go when asked out by the second guy.
The lesson? Chemistry is all. Are you flirting back and forth? Seal the frickin’ deal, then. Workplace romances/dalliances/hookups/whatever are not one of those things where you talk people into going out (or home) with you. It either works from the get-go or it doesn’t.
I personally left it alone. I am really not sure how to handle these situations because of the constant risk of “sexual harassment”…which in my opinion has gotten out of hand. That is why I just chose to avoid it.
Recently, I lost my best assistant (who was a doctor in another country) because someone in the clinic claimed he sexually harassed them.
I am not saying I don’t take any claims seriously…because I do…but apparently flirting is out in the work place on any level unless you have a psychic connection that allows you to know who really likes you and who doesn’t.[/quote]
Dude…no
So this is what you do. on her next appointment before she shows up you strip down and cover your nipples and your third leg with whip creme (use cool whip). then you use the intercom to ask your secretary to call her into the room. Now you gotta strike a sexy pose you could try putting your hands behind your head while flexing your arms and spreading your legs cause you don’t want to get the whip creme all over your thighs.
At this point if you played your cards right you will be engaging in on the job sexual intercourse, and let me tell you its much better then the regular kind because its like the forbidden fruit, and the fact that she is a TEN makes it all the more sweet.
A few additional tips would be if you have any mirrors in your office then be sure to flex while your going doggy style on her in a classic Patrick Bateman fashion. aside from that be sure to make a sexual pun when shes leaving your office as to establish that you are the fucking man and yes you did “tap that”.
You can PM me for any additional advice or post your questions in this thread.
I didnt read the last couple of pages but all I will say is that there isn’t much worse in life than regret.
Cover your ass and protect your career, then go for it. Fuck rejection and all of the fears associated with it. Regret of not taking the chance will eat away at you longer than being turned down.
I hadn’t read this, and it doesn’t really apply to me (I’m now both married and an engineer where I rarely am in contact with women) But it would be really smooth to recommend a different dentist. When they ask why, tell them its because you won’t ask out your own patients.
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I hadn’t read this, and it doesn’t really apply to me (I’m now both married and an engineer where I rarely am in contact with women) But it would be really smooth to recommend a different dentist. When they as why, tell them its because you won’t ask out your own patients.[/quote]
[quote]therajraj wrote:
So why have you bumped this? [/quote]
Have you seen most of the topics in this forum lately?
It is like everyone who lacks originality all logged on at the same time and punched in T-Nation. It’s the Get a Life forum we expect random bullshit…but this is ridiculous.
I bumped this because I want some real discussion for a change…and not 500 pictures of kittens who can talk.
[quote]therajraj wrote:
So why have you bumped this? [/quote]
Have you seen most of the topics in this forum lately?
It is like everyone who lacks originality all logged on at the same time and punched in T-Nation. It’s the Get a Life forum we expect random bullshit…but this is ridiculous.
I bumped this because I want some real discussion for a change…and not 500 pictures of kittens who can talk.[/quote]
Don’t shit where you eat.
I like the suggestion about recommending another dentist if you are going to go for it with a patient. Sexual harrassment suits are out of hand, so you have to be ultra-cautious.
[quote]therajraj wrote:
So why have you bumped this? [/quote]
Have you seen most of the topics in this forum lately?
It is like everyone who lacks originality all logged on at the same time and punched in T-Nation. It’s the Get a Life forum we expect random bullshit…but this is ridiculous.
I bumped this because I want some real discussion for a change…and not 500 pictures of kittens who can talk.[/quote]
I don’t know much about dentistry – are most of your clients recurring customers or one-timers (i.e. dental surgery or something)? If they aren’t recurring customers, I’d probably say something along the lines of “once you’re not my patient, would you like to go out to dinner” (though a bit more eloquently).
Recurring patients… while I can in no way relate to that situation, I do know the vast majority of girls will not think any less of someone who asks them out once and then (if rejected) never mentions it again. Hell, my previous office-mate who is MARRIED WITH CHILD got asked out by her dentist several times on extravagant dates (i.e. a personal helicopter ride over the Potomac River), even got texts and calls, and never thought of pressing charges.
But, it only takes 1. If it were ME I would ask once then drop it if she rejects, but I don’t know if I’d give that same advice to a friend. I’d feel worse if someone got blasted with a lawsuit for following my advice than I would if I walked into a lawsuit myself.
Maybe someone already said this, but you wouldn’t bump if you didn’t want more feedback.
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I hadn’t read this, and it doesn’t really apply to me (I’m now both married and an engineer where I rarely am in contact with women) But it would be really smooth to recommend a different dentist. When they as why, tell them its because you won’t ask out your own patients.[/quote]
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I hadn’t read this, and it doesn’t really apply to me (I’m now both married and an engineer where I rarely am in contact with women) But it would be really smooth to recommend a different dentist. When they as why, tell them its because you won’t ask out your own patients.[/quote]
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I hadn’t read this, and it doesn’t really apply to me (I’m now both married and an engineer where I rarely am in contact with women) But it would be really smooth to recommend a different dentist. When they as why, tell them its because you won’t ask out your own patients.[/quote]
Or ask her if she wants another drill in her mouth.
[quote]Hallowed wrote:
So PROFX… Did you end up employing any of the suggested tactics?
If so, what results?
Especially interested to hear outcome of whipped cream approach (pics helpful)[/quote]
I tend to play it very safe at work…which sucks. I feel like I can’t be myself or even act like a “guy” when at work because you never know what might cause someone to act like they were assaulted or something.
In fact, I could even expand this outside of work and discuss how women want to be approached.
For instance, I often overthink my responses when speaking to an attractive woman for the first time. I do that because most women assume I am the exact opposite in personality than I really am based on appearance.
What do you people want from us just so we can get those digits?
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I hadn’t read this, and it doesn’t really apply to me (I’m now both married and an engineer where I rarely am in contact with women) But it would be really smooth to recommend a different dentist. When they as why, tell them its because you won’t ask out your own patients.[/quote]
That IS pretty damn smooth.
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x2. Or you could just follow my motto. “When in doubt, pull it out!”
