[quote]ethanwest wrote:
Don’t do it[/quote]
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[quote]aeyogi wrote:
You would need to post picts of her boobies before we can offer any meaningful advice.[/quote]
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[quote]Blaze_108 wrote:
I would still do things the formal way though if I was the OP. Ask the father for permission. If he says no, I would say something along the lines of “Well, I’m asking as a formality and because I respect you. I’m still going to marry your daughter.”
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What a terrible idea.
If you disregard what he says then you don’t respect him and you’re lying to his face.
Seriously, does anyone do this anymore…or, more importantly, if you do: what if the old man says no? Then what?
[quote]bigpicture11 wrote:
Basically I just want peoples opinions or if anyone’s been in a similar situation and what they did. its not going to sway my decision either way I’m just curious. [/quote]
You want to know everyone’s opinion but it won’t sway your decision either way? Huh?
Right now, getting jobs is more important than getting married. Because, basically without jobs you are asking to live in the basement with one of y’all’s families.
Cliff notes: get a job
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]Blaze_108 wrote:
I would still do things the formal way though if I was the OP. Ask the father for permission. If he says no, I would say something along the lines of “Well, I’m asking as a formality and because I respect you. I’m still going to marry your daughter.”
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What a terrible idea.
If you disregard what he says then you don’t respect him and you’re lying to his face.
Seriously, does anyone do this anymore…or, more importantly, if you do: what if the old man says no? Then what?
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If they were mature enough, they wouldn’t be worried about the father disowning her.
Hell, I love my parents, but they know full well that if they pulled something like that THEY would be the ones at a disadvantage because I am the one who will be caring for them when they can’t take care of themselves anymore.
If you are still worried about your parents disowning you, you are still a child and haven’t grown into an adult yet.
When they finally form some sense of independence THAT is when they should get married.
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
Right now, getting jobs is more important than getting married. Because, basically without jobs you are asking to live in the basement with one of y’all’s families.
Cliff notes: get a job[/quote]
That may be why they are worried about the father disowning her.
They are screwed if they haven’t even assessed their career situation BEFORE jumping into this.
I mean, shit, if they will both soon be pulling in decent incomes FOR SURE then so be it…but my guess is, that is not the case.
The only person I ever discussed the possibility of marriage with was my future wife.
Not one single person’s opinion in this world mattered besides hers and mine.
Getting married at 23 is retarded young imo… but putting it off until 30 if you plan to have kids is pretty ridiculous imo as well.(If the womans the same age.) My ideal would be 26-27…
Regarding your question… seriously give it some time… like others have said. If you love her now you’ll still love her in 2 years… you’re 23 and dumb. Get your career going etc… also don’t live together before marriage because it “gives” your marriage some higher percentage chance of failing because people change the living “environment” after they get married compared to when they were just together if that makes sense.
look it up… sorry for punctuation etc… to lazy to proof read sense i’m heading out.
OP should challenge her father to Claw-Plach
EDIT: ID, your new avatar is hypnotic (No homo)
Don’t get married until you’re 30. People are living a lot longer now, so you’re still a baby. Spend your 20’s as a free man, find a cause, explore who you are and what you really want to do with yourself. A ball and chain will slow you down and drag your soul into darkness. You’ll thank me for this advice later.
[quote]Yo Momma wrote:
Spend your 20’s as a free man, find a cause [/quote]
20-27 I was all about the “cause”. Good times.
[quote]Amiright wrote:
Getting married at 23 is retarded young imo… but putting it off until 30 if you plan to have kids is pretty ridiculous imo as well.(If the womans the same age.) My ideal would be 26-27…
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Yo momma just touched on this, but I will expand. At 23 I didn’t have shit but bills and more schooling to go to. At the age of 30, I had a decent income, my own place, OWNED my own car and could actually support a real family.
It may have been that way 30 years ago, but anyone acting like 30 is old today is a tad misinformed. That is why that saying “30 is the new 20” is still going…because it’s true.
I would much rather be at this stage of my life considering marriage than struggling like I was ten years ago.
I see this in my patients as well. Some of them in their 50’s could pass for their 30’s unless you knew ahead of time. People are not “over the hill” anymore at age 35-40 like in era’s past.
You will also make some huge changes as far as maturity between 20 and 30 that your wife may or may not be compatible with.
A marriage is not a ball and chain unless it is an unhealthy one. Only you and your girlfriend can answer the question of how healthy and stable your relationship is. And getting married relatively young isn’t all bad, especially if you plan on children. My wife was 22 and I was 23 when we got married. We had 4 children by the time she was 30 and stopped there. We were young and energetic enough to enjoy them, and I won’t be ancient by the time they are all out of the house. I plan on cherishing those empty nest years. We’ve been married over 19 years and are pretty damn happy.
More importantly though…is being a cooler a real gig?
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
The only person I ever discussed the possibility of marriage with was my future wife.
Not one single person’s opinion in this world mattered besides hers and mine.[/quote]
Your avatar is making me very uncomfortable.
[quote]theOUTLAW wrote:
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
The only person I ever discussed the possibility of marriage with was my future wife.
Not one single person’s opinion in this world mattered besides hers and mine.[/quote]
Your avatar is making me very uncomfortable.[/quote]
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My guess is that the father is pissed because he will lose access to his daughters tight pussies/assholes.
That’s the only explanation I have for this straight-up jealousy.
The 1900’s called: Seeking approval of jealous father like some fucking beta male was a stupid thing even back then!
You are obviously not ready if you are asking a bunch of people online if you are crazy for doing it.
She Say and I got married at 23… we been happy ever since…maybe it was 24…I’d have to count backwards…
You morons that wait until you’re 30 to get married because you want to have ‘causes’ and get drunk in bars with meth whores and then wait until you’re 40 to have kids are going to be 70 by the time your moron babies fly the coop…have fun changing diapers when you’re 41 and your knees are shot and your meth whore wife is fat because she quit meth and doesn’t like to fuck anymore because she’s all methed washed out.
Yes there are such things as coolers…first you have to start out working in gay casinos, but if you prove you can make it work the gay way, you can go on to working in a hetero club…and you might think it’s easy because you cooled a table one night with all your buddies, but when the lights go on and everyone’s watching and you’re getting paid to cool on demand…well then…I can tell you a lot of guys can’t cool under that kind of pressure.