[quote]Zap Branigan wrote:
Molotov_Coktease wrote:
First off I want to say… I’m not shocked in the least. I’m no foe of law enforcement, and the fine line they walk and are expected to walk in their line of work. But I will say, I am woman…just like this one…and I have had experiences close to hers. I once dated a big huge white boy, one that had completed the police academy, but somehow would be hired by none. All due to his past you see…and the fact he was abusive and a loose cannon (documented, not hearsay on my behalf). If i had those reports before dating him, that would’ve been helpful, but I did not.
One Halloween, in the throes of an argument…he cornered me. He was six foot three, shaved headed…and insulting me so close to my face I had his spit on my nose. He proceeded to bring his hand up and choke me. As luck would have it, I noticed my keychain on the counter beside me. On that very keychain was a canister of pepper spray, I grabbed it… I used it. He went down like a sack of shit. I then jumped his grounded body, and ran …to my brothers house and sought shelter.
An hour later, in another city…the cops belted the door. As they do. With the three knocks. The police in my city, had alerted another…7 miles away. I was apprehended, and told that I was charged with domestic abuse. After sitting in a cell for a few hours, the policeman from my city… who brought me out to transfer me to my own…played a recorded tape for me, of my boyfriends side of the story.
There he was crying on tape, and making things up… like…‘oh, and then… she took the lid of a brandy decanter and smashed it into my head after she pepper sprayed me’. The cop even held the lid in his hands, of which I had never touched. I went to jail…and was accused of a felony. Luckily the charges were dropped. But what it comes down to, is that my boyfriend at the time was a good ol’ boy. A police academy veteran… and me? Just a bitch right. But clearly I’m not the bitch of this story, I didn’t cry like one. I didn’t lie like one. There is plenty more I could divulge…and other incidents just the same, but screw it.
I know law enforcement is looking to bring down the stereotypes, and no… not every domestic call is a mans fault. By far. But I expect fair treatment. Regardless of how the pendulum of society swings. That and nothing more.
Did you freak out and resist arrest or did you let the lawyers handle it?
In all the situations discussed here the person freaks out and the cops end up having to use force.
Domestic situations are always touchy. They cannot ignore abuse from either side but how the hell can they know the truth until they investigate?[/quote]
No actually, I didn’t freak out. To be honest I was just in a state of disbelief…especially having heard the tape, I was too gobsmacked by bewilderment to vent any anger. There were no lawyers mentioned. I was told (and shown) what the b/f had told the cops. His side of the story. While I stood outside the cop car. Calmly…and its a wonder.
I admitted to the pepper spray, but of course stated what had happened, which I refer to as…the truth. That it was in self defense. Now I know they were just doing their jobs, but had they done it fairly…he would’ve been carted off to jail as well. Period. Not sitting in an easy chair eyes all full of crocodile tears, while I alone was incarcerated. In the end, the judge saw it that way too. Luckily, the bias I experienced from the police…and it was blatant bias…didn’t follow me all the way to the courtroom.
Ridiculously, the initial argument itself, began because I beat him at Playstation Jeopardy. “What is…some folks just can’t stand to lose”.
Anyways, pertaining to the video …I can hardly see how they handled this situation properly. Just my opinion. I’m not a cop hater. I think they fuck up sometimes, but I do give the benefit of the doubt…most of the time.
[quote]JD430 wrote:
Just because you get to the phone and dial 9-1-1 first does not automatically make you the victim.[/quote]
You can say that again.