Parents, Am I Being Selfish?

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I would not let my child go for 6 weeks. I MIGHT let them go for a few weeks in the summer, but my in laws are only 2 hrs away. That’s a far cry from another COUNTRY.

You’re not being selfish.

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IMHO, a three year old should stay close by mom and dad. I don’t think you’re being selfish at all-- you are being appropriately protective, and your concerns are entirely valid. I wouldn’t want my toddler that far away with grandparents.

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Six weeks feels like a lifetime to a kid, especially one as young as three. To be thrust into a foreign country with total strangers and no mom or dad in sight for six weeks? That would be extremely traumatic in my opinion.

I personally think it’s selfish for your wife’s parents to be so inconsiderate of what’s in their granddaughter’s best interests - sounds like they’re extremely out of touch with the mentality of small children.

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If I could hazard a guess it sounds to me like you are projecting your own feelings onto your daughter.

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I agree with most that it’s just too long, too far away and she’s too young. What about after your 3 week visit, she gets to stay for an extra week (if it has all gone well and she wants to).

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[quote]Jillybop wrote:
I agree with most that it’s just too long, too far away and she’s too young. What about after your 3 week visit, she gets to stay for an extra week (if it has all gone well and she wants to).
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Right. This seems good. After she’s gotten to know her grandparents a little. You and your wife will probably feel more comfortable in their ability to handle her as well after observing them.

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[quote]jacross wrote:
If I could hazard a guess it sounds to me like you are projecting your own feelings onto your daughter.[/quote]

how so?

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Selfish? No way. Concerned, responsible and dedicated parent - 100%. My theory is this, if I believe I am doing what is right for my children who cares what anyone else thinks. This includes grandparents. The longest I’ve spent away from my kids is one week. They were about your daughters age. You should have seen the welcome home when I entered the door. Go with your gut…its seldom wrong.