I’ve posted this before but feel it could be relevant with your current discussion.
This is a little thing I made up when trying to explain eating to gain muscle to someone before, bit random but I think it sums it up.
Every day you are given a coconut (the coconut represents muscle) you obviously want to eat this coconut (build muscle).
Every day you have one shot at getting into the coconut, you have a few tools at you disposal. A very small hammer and sledge hammer.
If you take the small hammer, every now and again you may get a lucky shot, get the coconut and have very little to tidy up. But some days you will miss out.
Now if you take the sledge hammer, you will almost certainly be getting into the coconut. Your guaranteed to be doing all you can to make sure you get it, yes you may have a bit of tidying up to do afterwards but you will get the rewards.