[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
I’m with you on that, but this is not really about sex. It’s about the brain being conditioned to require more intense/varied visual and auditory stimuli than most women can provide in order to become sexually aroused. I understand the theory behind it, but I can’t relate. Anyhow, here’s a link that explains the phenomenon better than I can:
There is a lot more info out there about porn addiction, if you’re interested. With millions of porn videos now just a click away, it’s becoming a bigger problem. A relationship advice web site I visit occasionally has a whole section devoted to helping husbands and wives overcome it so they can salvage their relationships.[/quote]
I’m not denying it’s a real issue for people, i just dont comprehend how someone can prefer jerking off to a picture over the real thing.
[quote]Aggv wrote:
I’m not denying it’s a real issue for people, i just dont comprehend how someone can prefer jerking off to a picture over the real thing.
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It takes a lot less effort to jerk it to a pretty girl on the screen than scoring with a pretty girl in the club. So much for the single guys.
As for the ones in a relationship… Plenty of other explanations. Variety? The opportunity to be completely selfish?
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
most women can’t compete with porn in terms of gross sensory-stimulation, you start having trouble with women as your tolerance for sexual stimuli builds.
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I dont fully understand this logic. Porn is a 2D image on a computer vs. a real life warm blooded human being. Sure the real girl is not going to fuck like a professional, but real life interaction is superior to images on a screen anyday imho. [/quote]
I think it’s just sensory overload. In 5 minutes you can see more naked women, sexual activities, and kinks than you could experience with another person (people) in a lifetime.
It would be like sampling all 32 Baskin Robins flavors until you find the exact flavor you want 95% of the time and and only getting to have vanilla the rest of the time. [/quote]
But porn is not real life. In order to sample something, you must taste it, and i never touched a porn star through a computer screen.
I might be different with regards to this, but part of the enjoyment with sex is getting the other person off and porn is completely unfulfilling.[/quote]
They are not all that in person, a couple porn chicks go to my gym. If you saw them without makeup and in regular gym clothes, you would think meh.[/quote]
Hey Max, how was Rising Star in person? Since she hasn’t poked her head in here in about five years, I’m guessing it’s ok for you to be candid.[/quote]
She was very cool in person, we hung out a few times. She had just gotten out of a relationship at the time so she wasn’t totally available. She told me she met someone else and wanted to pursue that, so that was the last I heard from her.
[quote]Yogi wrote:
I watch porn every now and then, but meh. Anyone else think you can jerk off just as easily without it?[/quote]
I think you lose the ability to jerk off without it very quickly if you rely on it all the time. I’ve tried again and again to tell my son that I know he’s going to jerk it to porn, but every now and then he needs to just use his imagination to rub one out so he doesn’t lose that ability.
I think Steel’s got it right, but everyone’s input can help.
You have to consider the immense difference in the percentage of sexy time looking at porn as opposed to with a girl.
If someone looks at porn literally every day (for some it’s multiple times a day) that’s what they become accustomed to and conditioned for.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that they “prefer” porn over the real thing, it’s just what they’re more used to. So when the time finally comes to do it in real life instead of the way they’re used to, the body isn’t accustomed to it.
This can cause huge problems, especially for someone who is only 18 and most likely not very experienced as it is.
For someone who’s been around the block and knows their way around the bedroom and established themselves as a good partner, it probably wouldn’t have nearly as much of an impact if they got into a bad porn habit.
OP, I think if you just lay off the porn (not completely, just keep it in moderation) and stop jerking it as much you’ll probably be fine.
Not doing it for X amount of set time can be fine if you need something set in stone, so give it a shot. That’s what gym-goers are all about, trial and error. Do it and see how it works, then adjust and continue the process.
Also, talk to your girl about it and see if she would be willing to try some new stuff that you may end up liking a lot. If you like it a lot and do it in real life more often, that will probably help, too. Hell, she’s probably willing to watch with you and help you ween yourself off of it by transfering it to her over time.
[quote]on edge wrote:
Pfft Try the No Fapping in conjunction with a 3-Hour No Nut Challenge. Actually, no rapping is implicit in the challenge.
What is a 3-Hour No Nut Challenge? I’m glad you asked. Try to go 3 hours buried in vagina without climaxing. It can be 3 hours all at once, two ninety minute sessions, four 45 minute sessions, 18 ten minute efforts. You get the idea. No masturbating in between and no BJs or hand jobs in between for relief.
I did this, chronicled in SAMA, a few years ago. I think it took me a week and a half or two. If I remember right I ended up going over 4 hours. Like Evil Kinevil jumping the Snake River, no one else has ever tried.[/quote]
[quote]on edge wrote:
Pfft Try the No Fapping in conjunction with a 3-Hour No Nut Challenge. Actually, no rapping is implicit in the challenge.
What is a 3-Hour No Nut Challenge? I’m glad you asked. Try to go 3 hours buried in vagina without climaxing. It can be 3 hours all at once, two ninety minute sessions, four 45 minute sessions, 18 ten minute efforts. You get the idea. No masturbating in between and no BJs or hand jobs in between for relief.
I did this, chronicled in SAMA, a few years ago. I think it took me a week and a half or two. If I remember right I ended up going over 4 hours. Like Evil Kinevil jumping the Snake River, no one else has ever tried.[/quote]
This sounds boring as all hell, sir.
Personally, I reeeealy like cumming. [/quote]
I think it sounds interesting. Sounds like a good way to help control when you climax. I personally don’t think I could do it. I bet at the end edge shot one gigantic load.
[quote]on edge wrote:
Pfft Try the No Fapping in conjunction with a 3-Hour No Nut Challenge. Actually, no rapping is implicit in the challenge.
What is a 3-Hour No Nut Challenge? I’m glad you asked. Try to go 3 hours buried in vagina without climaxing. It can be 3 hours all at once, two ninety minute sessions, four 45 minute sessions, 18 ten minute efforts. You get the idea. No masturbating in between and no BJs or hand jobs in between for relief.
I did this, chronicled in SAMA, a few years ago. I think it took me a week and a half or two. If I remember right I ended up going over 4 hours. Like Evil Kinevil jumping the Snake River, no one else has ever tried.[/quote]
This sounds boring as all hell, sir.
Personally, I reeeealy like cumming. [/quote]
I think it sounds interesting. Sounds like a good way to help control when you climax. I personally don’t think I could do it. I bet at the end edge shot one gigantic load.[/quote]
Meh… Maybe if the wife were into it, I guess it could be good time.
Edging for an hour or so is about my limit.
3 hours would beat the wife up a little too much, i’m sure.
[quote]Aggv wrote:
I’m not denying it’s a real issue for people, i just dont comprehend how someone can prefer jerking off to a picture over the real thing.
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It takes a lot less effort to jerk it to a pretty girl on the screen than scoring with a pretty girl in the club. So much for the single guys.
As for the ones in a relationship… Plenty of other explanations. Variety? The opportunity to be completely selfish?
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After a long day at work and a massive session at the gym, it is sometimes just more convenient and easier to put on some of my favourite midget porn and have a quick fap, rather than getting the gf involved who will be there tomorrow and the day after etc.