So you’ve figured it out.
Good luck with that.
2 days prior to mine I was tossing logs around, dropped a tree, using a chainsaw, dragging brush, all kinds of good stuff.
Then bam. A stemi while sleeping.
I haven’t figured out the key to longevity… however I know that by permenantly abstaining from tobacco and avoiding alcohol as much as possible I’ll be avoiding a HUGE long term risk factor
Believe me, this is nothing.
I’m just letting you know.
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You’re not chewing me out yet, that’s why it’s nothing
I appreciate you giving me this advice though. I promise you however that I will not pick up a habit of smoking tobacco, New Years resolution is to stay away from them, it’s just not worth the long term risk (esp regarding carcinogenicity… 9 out of 10 carcinomas of the lung are tobacco related), abstaining from tobacco alone almost wipes out my risk of lung cancer
Not even in person. I help addicts and alcoholics get into and stay in recovery all the time, for the past 20 years. Chewing out doesn’t work. It has to be a personal decision to change.
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Yes, I wouldn’t have considered myself an “addict” per se, more “at risk”… Interestingly, according to my genetic analysis (uploaded) there are genes I harbour that indicate I am unlikely to become addicted to tobacco or cannabis, however I harbour many genes associated with alcoholism (which makes sense as it heavily runs in the family)… but so does tobacco addiction…
The most worrying aspect was that I would smoke whenever I drank, but otherwise practically never smoke (until I went to Europe, hence the news years resolution), however the craving for a cigarette associated with alcohol intake implicates the notion of a reward pathway having been implanted due to neurological alterations induced via nicotine consumption… During Europe right before NYE I decided to quit while I was still ahead. Knowing the health risks/addiction potential associated I can’t believe I was so stupid in the first place… It started casually (and actually that’s how it ended to… never really progressed past that stage)… but its fairly simple, at a house party with friends, they smoke… they’d offer me a cigarette, I’d always decline… until one day I was intoxicated and accepted… I liked it, so around once every month or so at these parties I’d smoke, and then over time I’d find at these events if I DIDN’T smoke, I’d want to smoke… that’s about as far as I got, in Europe I’d smoke when I was bored… then I quit, that was eight days ago now
also giving up alcohol for damn good reason (so toxic, both acutely and chronically), and I have the issue in that when I start drinking I always want more… and more and more and more… I’ve tried a few things out of curiosity, but nothing has ever come close to the feeling of euphoria/ numbing of past emotional pain like alcohol did… the fact that I liked it fro these particular aspects highlight significant risk in relation for addiction potential, using these things as a crutch isn’t a valid strategy to get along with life… may work the first few times, but then I just felt ashamed that I was being such an idiot. Furthermore, continuation of using such a crutch would almost certainly have led to addiction… When I see a problem/problematic behaviour developing I believe I am rather quick to nip it in the butt rather than live in denial
however no amount of chewing me out two months ago would’ve influenced my decision, I didn’t think about it and being berated would’ve made me disconnect… Problematic activity exists from multiple aspects, including my penchant for physical activity. When I get into exercise, I love it… the rush it gives me etc, if someone were to tell me “you’ll never be able to engage in physical activity again”… I don’t think I’d take it particularly well
I don’t believe in genes alone being the predisposing factor for addiction. I believe past events + genes creates addicts. Most addicts themselves have deep rooted issues for which they may use things to numb said issues… and addiction doesn’t nessecarily have to equate to substance abuse, someone can be addicted to say… work, playing a musical instrument, even prayer etc… whatever derives a release of certain neurotransmitters within the brain. I know a prior heroin addict that is now devoutly religious, prays like 12+ hours per day, spends the rest studying scripture, has no job or anything (supported by parents) and probably won’t ever acquire a job. It’s simply another addiction he/she has taken up. I’ve been heavily medicated since I was about seven years old… god knows how that screwed me up neurologically. Was also picked on extensively from a young age, creating deep rooted insecurities… problems regarding validation/whether I’m good enough, I get (very occasionally, when exposed to deja vu style situations) panic attacks, horrific nightmares (frequently)…
I’ve never said I’m perfect, I’m certainly not… but this conversation/stuff is for a different time, this thread is related to New Years resolutions
I personally dont like the phrase “new years resolutions”, if you want to do something why wait? I know that’s easier said than done, but waiting for an arbitrary date seems like wasted energy leading up to the point.
However, I do have a few goals I’ve been working on. and plan on cranking down on moving forward:
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Lifting: 550 DL, 460 Squat, 380 Bench
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Work: Continue at a steady pace and keep progressing. Mostly, dont get idle.
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Life: fixing this fucking house. Lots of loose ends from the hurricane that got put on the back burner.
Also I’m getting married, but that’s less of a goal/resolution and more of… something completely out of my comfort zone that im trying desperately to get over my hatred of any kind of spotlight. The goal being… dont freeze lol
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Congratulations!!!
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Tsk tsk, have you learned nothing from the relationship thread?
Just kidding, marriage can be a ton of fun. Good luck.
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Thanks guys! I’m not dreading the end result at all, we’ve been happily together for 8 full years now. And while i dont have any personal interest in being married, I dont mind, and itll make her happy.
I just fucking hate crowds, and being the center of attention, so it’s going to be a night of weird interaction for me lol
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alcohol (just kidding… sort of)
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Am I the only one wondering if @chaoshander will get a workout in? 
Either way, Congrats @chaoshander - maybe try deferring to the common ( strange) notion that weddings are “the bride’s day”?? If you’re lucky, maybe all the guests will be so focused on how beautiful your wife to be is( or sulking in jealousy) that they’ll leave you more or less in peace to enjoy the food
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No, they’ll want to clap him on the back and say some variation on “well done!” As if the bride’s loveliness, or maybe the bride’s presence alone, is some sort of triumph. Which makes it all sweet and lovely and yes, @chaoshander, weird.
Assuming there’s drinking, I don’t think it’s a big deal if you DO freeze and stand there awkwardly (assuming you make it through the wedding itself). Because people will be viewing whatever you do generously. I think I’ve already said this in another thread, but congratulations!
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Congratulations!
Like you, I don’t like being in a crowd or the focus of attention. My first wedding was 20 people and the second was under 10. If it’s not already planned, it’s just a thought. Focus on the marriage, not the wedding.
Part of it for too was thinking about the crazy amount of money spent on weddings that could go towards purchasing a house.
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Uh… I mean… absolutely. Her family seems to like me more when I’ve had a few anyways lol.
@anna_5588 you bet! If I’m going to be the center of attention against my will, I’m not settling for anything less than the largest freak in the room! And maybe? Idk. I’ve stated before, my fiance is a woman by physical attributes alone. There isnt a feminine bone in that whole body. Shell look beautiful, right before she grabs a half cooked turkey leg off the stove and starts ravishing it caveman style.
@EmilyQ half her family likes to drink, and my entire family are borderline functioning alcoholics, aside from me. So there will definitely be alcohol. But hopefully yes, she will get all of that attention, and I can go talk shit with her mom or something lol.
@ouroboro_s unfortunately her family is infinitely more stoked than we are about getting married, and the family is large. As well as my family who thought I’d never get married (and didnt plan on it lol) but now want to take full advantage of it. So we’re in this bitch. also luckily, her family is pretty well off, and want to take the whole thing by the horns, so I’m hoping the financial burden on top of us also buying a house as i type, will be eased.
And to all: thanks guys! While marriage isnt really my cup of tea, being that I’m not religious, and kind of prefer being able to be… “my own man” if you will, its growing on me, and I am a bit excited if I’m being honest.
That sounds just like me!!!
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