Dude I once had a girlfriend who told me 7 and then through trickle truth found out that over the years before me she’d actually slept with 99% of our local pub circle. The joys of living in a small town! Some people are fine with that stuff, and all the power to them! I know people whose best men have been their girlfriends’ ex. I couldn’t deal with the thought of half the wedding guests being people she’d been with but that’s me.
Point is, at the risk of sounding insensitive, grow up and get over yourself. You’re meant to be falling for this girl but giving her very little respect for a couple of lads she plowed before she probably even knew you existed.
She really is gorgeous, Just pisses me off. I hate having to say oh, it’s not that bad. I’ve always been too black and white. The world really is a shade of gray.
Just to point out the average person now days is overweight and repulsive.
Depends on the woman. If she is attractive? Yes I do.
No. It used to be though but it isn’t at the moment. I confess once upon a time this FUCKED WITH MY HEAD when it came to dating girls. Thank fuck I got over this before meeting my current girlfriend
Don’t get me wrong there is a spectrum ranging from ‘virgin’ to ‘massive slut’ and personally (if I was single) I would not enter a long term relationship with someone who is anywhere near ‘massive slut’ ( I would sleep with them though).
I honestly think 4 people for an attractive (?) woman is nothing.
Look at it this was. She met you and had slept with 3 people.
2 Long term boyfriends who she had to end things off due to moving. Not her fault
1 ‘scumbag’ who lied to her/ she fell for. Only one IMO you can view negatively
IF you end things and she meets another guy she would have slept with 4 people:
2 Long term boyfriends who she had to end things off due to moving. Not her fault
1 ‘scumbag’ who lied to her/ she fell for. Only one IMO you can view negatively
You.
Would you say her increasing her body count with you is a sign that she sleeps around? If you end things would her having sex with someone else (you) be a bad reflection of her? Would she have done anything wrong? No but using your logic she would be worthless due to her increased body count.
Are you officially together?
How easy was she to get into bed?
How attractive is she compared to other girls you have slept with?
Yes we are officially together and spend all of our time together. It’s strange to me because this is different than anything I’ve been in before. Before I dated but kept distance even had some longer relationships. I used to go places with girls and have a relationship but her and I are attached. I never felt jealousy before I never cared.
We met because her friend was dating a friend of mine. So we knew each other for a few weeks before we really started to date. This was all spring /early summer. And we were full on by august.
There was some research on this that kinda surprised me. The woman being attractive had very little to do with how many partners she had (actually it was inverse). They found the less attractive women actually had more partners.
My hypothesis is the attractive women ended up with more stable partners (longer term), as them being attractive brought them into the “relationship” material category. The less attractive were perhaps victims of pump and dump.
Exactly. This is also why I think a concerned man should ask for explanations for a woman’s sexual decisions and then make his choice depending on them.
The same goes for asking for explanations from single mothers and divorcees. I am not in agreement with some manosperian mouth breathers who bellow “never date a single mother!” or who hypocritically judge women’s number of sexual partners while providing men advice on how to “spin plates” (screw a number of women).
If a woman provides some vague or implausible excuse like, “he was boring,” I’d advise a man to do an about-face.
I believe a good chunk of single mothers and divorced women are so because of good reasons: abuse, neglect, adultery, and death of husbands.
I’m also not absolutely against raising another man’s kids in such cases provided it is done properly, though that requires special kinds of men, I believe, with enormous amounts of empathy and patience.
Unless you’re going to claim that unhappy marriages somehow increase likelihood of faithfulness, I don’t see your argument - but I guess “complete bullshit” doesn’t exactly count as a counter-argument either.
Just saying this is a very bold claim that has a fair bit of evidence against it, but if you disagree - that’s fine. I’m not interested in debating someone who refuses to look at evidence (which is widely agreed upon), so enjoy your time doing whatever else it is you’re so busy doing.
I actually referred to what he posted in the past too. Studies aren’t needed and plain old observation suffices for some of us. As I’ve said elsewhere, of the women I know since childhood, those who had one boyfriend after another since young ages and were presexualized and overly-social, nearly all are divorced.
Or course this is not absolute. And no, it doesn’t mean they all cheated.
