“ Reserved means quiet, as in the person doesn’t talk much. Shy means the person is apprehensive and maybe anxious about putting themselves out there and talking to others (afraid of rejection, humiliation, etc).”
How are you going to tell me what my personality is? I am not shy at all.
I am not telling you how it is: I am saying how it comes across.
However, you have already said many times you are nervous when you try to talk.
As per your definition of shy.
Musta fat fingered this. No intention to delete it.
Isn’t it normal to be nervous around attractive people.
Does it matter if it’s normal? Normal people get normal outcomes.
You are shy around attractive people. Fix that. If you don’t consider yourself worthy, they won’t either.
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That is a very detrimental flaw. Do you have any tips on that.
Consider yourself worthy.
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I love you T nation folk. All taking shots at me. It’s gonna help me grow tho. I thank all of you for the advice. Lol you guys are very patient.
So basically by not being nervous it demonstrates confidence. I have the power to make that girl feel attracted to me. I guess doing and not thinking about it a lot helps too.
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No. First, how many times do you need to be told to stop with the memes?
Confidence isn’t demonstrated by not being nervous. Confidence isn’t the absence of nervousness: it’s the presence of confidence.
Have confidence. If you can’t, figure out WHY you can’t and fix that.
Stuff like this is why people think you’re acting like a sociopath.
You’re not a supervillian. You don’t have the power to compel humans to feel ways they don’t want to feel. This isn’t about hypnosis.
Yup. It means you need to change yourself to become the kind of person that others would be interested in.
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It was something I read online to help you stop feeling nervous.
I can’t have confidence when i’m nervous. I get some stupid feeling in my stomach.
Then don’t be nervous.
Idk how to not be nervous
Earlier someone suggested reading the stoics. You initially rejected it, because you said doing so would conflict with your Christian values. Perhaps now you will consider giving them a read, as that can help.
Nihilism helps too.
Actually you don’t. You can’t make anybody feel attracted to you. That’s their decision, not yours. What you can do is present a worthwhile version of yourself, and let them decide. You have the power to make yourself attractive as best you can, and that’s the hammer you can wield.
That’s probably what that article meant. It just said it as how I put it.
The thing I notice about the memes is that they’re completely uninteresting. They’re simply statements on top of pictures. I think of a meme as being funny because it’s some sort of universal truth, or at least for the target demographic. An example posted by a friend who’s a full-time nurse, in school, and has a kid:
It’s relatable because most busy adults deal with stupid racing thoughts in the night, when they’re exhausted and need to be sleeping. If she’d posted “Tired” over a picture of a tired person or animal it would be unfunny. Another relatable:
“It’s Sunday” wouldn’t be funny.
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