when I first came to this forum I thought the whole ‘disappearing male’ thing was bullshit. Man was I wrong.
I was at the gym recently rowing a 110 lbs. db. A friend came up to me, looking at me like I was nuts, and said “Why the hell would you want to be that strong??” I had no idea what to say to that.
[quote]AccipiterQ wrote:
when I first came to this forum I thought the whole ‘disappearing male’ thing was bullshit. Man was I wrong.
I was at the gym recently rowing a 110 lbs. db. A friend came up to me, looking at me like I was nuts, and said “Why the hell would you want to be that strong??” I had no idea what to say to that. [/quote]
I have only seen that question and ones like it on this site. I would think someone was insane if they came up to me at this point and asked me that.
The only response to that is, “why would you want to be weaker than that?”.
[quote]conorh wrote:
OTOH, I’m infuriated when people tell me I have “good genetics”. That’s the biggest load of cop-out horseshit there is. I think the bigger and better I get the more I’m going to hear it though.[/quote]
Yeah, some people not only can’t take a compliment, but are infuriated by it.
The only thing to be done about it is recognize that one is dealing with such a person and then avoid ever complimenting them again.
[quote]Bill Roberts wrote:
conorh wrote:
OTOH, I’m infuriated when people tell me I have “good genetics”. That’s the biggest load of cop-out horseshit there is. I think the bigger and better I get the more I’m going to hear it though.
Yeah, some people not only can’t take a compliment, but are infuriated by it.
The only thing to be done about it is recognize that one is dealing with such a person and then avoid ever complimenting them again.[/quote]
LOL.
However, when it comes to statements like, “oh, you just got to that size because of GENETICS”, as if all of those years of work/food/rest aren’t why, I can see why some would be frustrated. But no, someone saying you have good genetics should only be seen as a compliment. I don’t understand the fury either.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Bill Roberts wrote:
conorh wrote:
OTOH, I’m infuriated when people tell me I have “good genetics”. That’s the biggest load of cop-out horseshit there is. I think the bigger and better I get the more I’m going to hear it though.
Yeah, some people not only can’t take a compliment, but are infuriated by it.
The only thing to be done about it is recognize that one is dealing with such a person and then avoid ever complimenting them again.
LOL.
However, when it comes to statements like, “oh, you just got to that size because of GENETICS”, as if all of those years of work/food/rest aren’t why, I can see why some would be frustrated. But no, someone saying you have good genetics should only be seen as a compliment. I don’t understand the fury either.[/quote]
Agreed.
This is about the best comment you could get from a person who doesnt understand the dedication aspect.
nevermind I misread you.
Even i get it and i’m skinny, i lost 45 lbs of fat the past 6 months, and women say “oh it was easy for you you’re a man”.
finally I bought a few copies of The New Rules of Lifting for Women and gave them to a few women I know, one is actually putting it into practice.
Our numbers/size are actually very similar, your reactions sound very strange to me.
In the UK and Greece I always get complimented on my size. My parents are especially proud that I am growing bigger and stronger.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Bill Roberts wrote:
conorh wrote:
OTOH, I’m infuriated when people tell me I have “good genetics”. That’s the biggest load of cop-out horseshit there is. I think the bigger and better I get the more I’m going to hear it though.
Yeah, some people not only can’t take a compliment, but are infuriated by it.
The only thing to be done about it is recognize that one is dealing with such a person and then avoid ever complimenting them again.
LOL.
However, when it comes to statements like, “oh, you just got to that size because of GENETICS”, as if all of those years of work/food/rest aren’t why, I can see why some would be frustrated. But no, someone saying you have good genetics should only be seen as a compliment. I don’t understand the fury either.[/quote]
well that may have been misunderstood, you’d have to know conorh for that statement about genetics to be funny and not seem like a dick comment to an otherwise compliment.
my roommates are some people who really don’t understand the lifting thing but are starting to “eat better” even though not much has really changed, most of the “advice” given to me is from my overweight potato chip eating and mountain dew drinking roommate that does not do any exercise or read any real health related articles. all my roommates though are the “media health” people, don’t read or research, just get their info from the skewed media bullshit.
i’ll tell everyone the secret to gaining weight and losing weight right here: eat more to gain weight(caloric intake is greater than caloric expenditure), eat less to lose weight(caloric intake is less than caloric expenditure), why do people think it’s rocket science to lose weight, especially girls? i mentioned something to my roommates overweight gf about working out, she replied she didn’t want to get all huge and stuff. it doesn’t happen overnight and she is already on her way to huge but not in a good way. i’m confused
I just shrug it off when I hear stupid comments. People don’t know they’re being rude, and it’s not worth the argument.
I remember my grandmother mentioning to the entire family that she had seen a recipe for a potato chip sandwich with mayo on white bread, and then most of my relatives joked about how it sounded like something I would eat. My feelings were hurt, badly. I have a 26 inch waist and apparently I look like I eat potato chip sandwiches.
Later it was explained to me that they thought I would eat that because I eat such “weird things”. Never mind that I don’t eat bread, and I haven’t had a potato chip in 3 years, it was weird, and I’m weird, so obviously it fits.
Every once in awhile I flip out and yell at someone after they go on and on about how I don’t eat, and I’m anorexic. I eat 2000 to 2500 calories a day, how the fuck do I “not eat?!?”
It’s not worth it though, better to just shrug it off and ignore people when they start yammering out of their assholes.
[quote]MarvelGirl wrote:
I just shrug it off when I hear stupid comments. People don’t know they’re being rude, and it’s not worth the argument.
I remember my grandmother mentioning to the entire family that she had seen a recipe for a potato chip sandwich with mayo on white bread, and then most of my relatives joked about how it sounded like something I would eat. My feelings were hurt, badly. I have a 26 inch waist and apparently I look like I eat potato chip sandwiches.
Later it was explained to me that they thought I would eat that because I eat such “weird things”. Never mind that I don’t eat bread, and I haven’t had a potato chip in 3 years, it was weird, and I’m weird, so obviously it fits.
Every once in awhile I flip out and yell at someone after they go on and on about how I don’t eat, and I’m anorexic. I eat 2000 to 2500 calories a day, how the fuck do I “not eat?!?”
It’s not worth it though, better to just shrug it off and ignore people when they start yammering out of their assholes.[/quote]
Depending on the person, you’d be surprised at what happens when you explain why what they said was rude. Sometimes they change their minds completely. You just have to decide when it’s worth it, in your case it sounds like it’d be worth it just to stop the annoyance.
[quote]Nikiforos wrote:
Our numbers/size are actually very similar, your reactions sound very strange to me.
In the UK and Greece I always get complimented on my size. My parents are especially proud that I am growing bigger and stronger.[/quote]
Niki the problem isn’t in the results. As you’ll see from reading other people’s responses the only time you really get crap for results is when you get to a substantial level like Prof X.
What I get crap for is if anyone notices the process. I’ll have family see me for the first time in a while and say “Wow your arms are looking big!”, “Way to go your getting bigger ever time I see you!” etc etc. But if they happen to learn I work 2 jobs, have a social life, school and go to the gym 5 days a week it becomes, “Well dont push yourself too hard.” “Your sure you need to do that much, doesn’t sound healthy.”
Everyone likes the results, no one likes the process.
As for the other advice… I don’t need to worry about it from my direct family. I no longer live with them and they have accepted my apparent madness. Like I said I’m just visiting extended family right now and they’re trying to assimilate media information that implies I should be dead into the fact that I am not, and am somehow even healthy because of what I do.
Oh also. The way I won my aunt over was by showing her the article, Things your doctor doesn’t know about Weightlifting, or whatever its called.
That showed her a little bit that, oh Protein is not death and maybe your GP isnt as brilliant as you’ve been led to believe.
[quote]HangerBaby wrote:
There is a stigma surrounding every activity outside of the norm …
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Alexis de Tocqueville called this “the tyranny of the majority”.