I think there are some factors that aren’t taken into account in such conversations and that’s not easy to conclude that gorgeous women only go for elite or rich men. Family backgrounds (even some family members’ judgments and wishes), social circles, time people have known each other, even health histories (eg, is there mental illness in the potential mate and relatives?), life experiences (good or bad), personality, and so on, effect pairings.
It’s also not like people have all their lives to just keep meeting people. Many people simply meet, make decisions to commit, and then move on with life.
True. Also, people’s preferences change when they have more information/experience - especially as it relates to partners/relationships. It’s important to refine ones preferences through experience and considering how much energy one would put into each of these characteristics.
I.e. what was important to me 20 years ago when I was in high school was not as important to me when I met my wife. If, God forbid, anything were to happen to our marriage, I’d imagine my preferences would have to be refined again. That’s what dating is - a refining of preferences.
Excellent post. I think modern dating is largely a waste of time in some ways though, that I might address later on. But most people don’t marry high school or college sweethearts, it seems. So I guess it’s a necessary experience.
Maybe. I wouldn’t know. I haven’t dated in about 10 years. When I was dating, from what I remember, and I might be looking back with rose-tinted glasses, I remember enjoying it - but I’ve always tended to enjoy meeting new people, for the most part.
All I know about modern dating (like app dating, etc.) is through divorcee friends. But then again, I also have had friends who have met their current spouses, significant others, etc., through traditional means. Bars, friends of friends, parties, church, IRL social networks essentially. Dating to me seems to be what you make of it considering the world you’ve built around yourself and the options that are available.
I’m sure others will disagree but this has been from what I’ve seen and it’s largely a mixed bag - at least among the people that are in my life right now that I can observe. I know what the stories online are - and there are SOME correlations and similarities with some of the people in my life, but not all and not a majority.
I read this as welders are slutty 3’s and 4’s I think I found it so funny because I’ve got a couple buddies that are welders, and they’re a couple of greasy skids hahaha
A plumber I know married his stepmother, 14 years his senior. I was at the wedding, which had a raging kegger, a huge bonfire and lots of awkward hook-ups.
Anyway his stepmom/wife is a slutty 4 who’s tried to bang me a few times. All very awkward if you ask me.
The girl he cheated on her with was a solid 7 though, and no relation through blood or marriage as far as I know.
It’s kinda like the Deep South of the Far North once you get away from Portland.
A bar denizen I know from bouncing is apparently in a situation like this. I don’t know the details, but strange and credible rumors of grand-niece fuckery have circulated. Dude looks the part too. Glorious mullet, naked lady tattoos and a limited ability to function normally, even while sober.
I’m originally from a tiny town (600 people) and a girl in my class and her brother were both married (two separate people). After about 5 years of marriage theirs spouses left them for each other (I actually know all 4). That’s just cold man.
I think I found it so funny because I’ve got a couple buddies that are welders, and they’re a couple of greasy skids hahaha
