How 'bout I put up a pic of me in a sleeveless short/tank top, like Magnus did? (I don’t have a motorcycle though.) Since I may cancel it anyway, what have I got to lose?
Magnus:
Thanks for the input.
What you said made me think… you going sleeveless was just you showing a little, and arguably the right amount, since you got an enormouse response… perhaps going shirtless in my case, conveyed that meathead image…
Maybe I’ll try showing a little less to see what happens…
EoN
Give it a shot Jeff, like you said, you got nothin’ to lose. But don’t make it a wife beater or similar type tank top. Go with the sleeveless t-shirt or underarmour look. I’m no expert at this, but I don’t think it could hurt.
EON- What Magnus is saying is don’t wear a wifebeater while smoking a cigarette and scowling, unless you want to come across as Brando, DeNiro etc!
But- that may attract some bad girls-yeahhhh!
Jeff and BB-
What BB is saying isn’t very feasible in a large metro area, where there are thousands of women on the website.
Why? Because Jeff, you won’t have the time to waste cosntantly emailing back and forth. There is only a limited amount of time you have each day and you can’t always be witty and flirtacious via email. Too much time and effort.
Its all a numbers game!!
Push for the # or a meet. At the least get her IM and chat w/her a few times. But emailing takes 2 long.
The exception is: if you get a dialogue going with a stunning hard body, who seems intreseted and you think you two will hit it off, THEN maybe take some xtra time to write her funny emails and whatnot.
But at some point soon, you gotta get the IM, # or date close.
BB- Just though of something else. You wrote:
"Thus, even if they like you initially, if you’re pushing too hard, their thought tends to be, “What’s wrong with this guy – why is he pushing to go so fast. Is he afraid I will find something out, or not confident for some reason?”
-If he wanted to meet her so bad, why would she think he has something to hide? It would be the other way around, why doesn’t he ask me out?
If he is asking her out right away, that means HE IS CONFIDENT, otherwise he’d waste time and never get around to it til it was too late.
Bottom line: dating services are for meeting people romantically, NOT to make buddies.
If she doesn’t want to meet and just wants to chat, she is a tease, she is WASTING your precious time, SO its “thank you very much and on to the next one!”
BB, are you hanging around with those cold-ass, frigid New England bitches?
Because that may have warped your POV. I know you’re not from there!
True story: THur night I went to the party organized by the NYC Chapter of my alumni association, which is that of UMASS, where I went undergrad.
I talked to quite a few people there, until it got too crowded to even move around, and guess what?
Every single girl from MAss. was a cold, unfriendly bitch and EVERY SINGLE GIRL from NY and NJ was fun, open and easygoing!!
The difference was astonishing!
Even though I love Boston, I’m glad I don’t live there anymore because my love life is so much better down here.
In fact, now that I think about it, all of my friends from college or the Boston area are either seeing/engaged to women from a) other parts of the country or b) from other countries!
Un f’n believable. BB, I may join you out in Arizona! (If I remember right that’s where you want to move, correct?)
Fuck, I should have gone to Florida State!
Ok, you’re missing the point - no one is emailing me back! I’ve been signed up on match since October and one girl responded to my email. I met two other girls throguh the IM feature.
Dude, I was going off of BBs post, on the advice his friend gave him.
Sorry to confuse you.
i dont know how you guys can do this. I need the chemistry of when you first she a girl. Online dating must be a hard task.
Whetu: No easy actually.
Why limit yourself to the women you just happen to meet by chance and possibly miss out on an incredible woman you would have otherwise never met. As for the chemistry thing…a few conversations will determine that.
For some us, meeting women through the “normal” ways is a much harder task.