It’s awesome you’re taking steps to improve. A word of caution though: most self-improvement books and resources have a fundamentally incorrect view of gender, and they treat men and women as if we’re the same… we’re not.
If i were to make some recommendations, start with yourself.
Read No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Consider them Basic Assertiveness Training and guidelines to build healthy masculine mental models. I would recommend these two books above all others to men who want to improve themselves socially (to include wife and kids). Internalizing the tools and concepts in those books, and calibrating the way you approach parenting and being a husband would set you, your wife, and your children up for success in ways that i couldn’t explain. I’m not saying you’re not assertive or cant say “no”, far from it, but it is a fundamentally different way of looking at life than how almost every modern institution teaches.
ladies, stop reading here please. I’m not asking for me, I’m asking for you.
Summary
I don’t talk about it on here for a few reasons, and i don’t intend to start either, but I’ve had a few folks contact me about general “guy stuff” so I’ll get into it a little bit.
I started reading into r/TheRedPill and started peeling back the layers of bullshit that feminism has put over society. People can say what they want about Red Pill, but most of those people would be wrong because they don’t understand it and dont want to. In reality, it’s an objectively male-centered sexual strategy. Women are hired and promoted first, and earn somewhere between $1 to $1.08 for every $1 a man makes within peer groups. They are also given preferential parenting over fathers and have been incentivised (read: empowered) to leave the marital home. Say what you will about it, but women dont need us anymore. I’m not just bitching about how rough men have it, these are just facts.
(Red pill is not about politics, and Andrew Tate does not represent what Red Pill is - despite him thinking so. If you think Alpha and Beta are a type of person, you don’t know what red pill is)
Well when you’re no longer a necessity, you need to start marketing yourself as a commodity. So how do you do that? Well, Red Pill helps with that, and has saved more dead bedrooms than the entire r/deadbedroom sub ever has. It takes the mask off society at large and helps cultivate a positive masculine identity. Consider it a toolbox; you may never need this 3 pin spanner socket, but you’ll be REALLY glad you have it when you need it… or maybe it just sits in the toolbox unused until one of your son’s needs that exact tool (good thing you had it now, huh?).
Its a painful road to take, and it will make you angry for a time. But if you want to give your sons the tools to grow up the way you wish you had, this is the stuff you want to know. Hell, i wish my dad taught me this stuff.
I went from a 1x per week bedroom to a 5-9x per week bedroom by tearing myself down and building up fundamentally correct mental models.
You’re absolutely welcome to ignore this advice, or reach out to me privately, or anything in between. This is still a predominantly male space and IDK if you’ve looked around these days - but there’s nowhere for a man to turn when he needs help. I’d love to be that help for you or any other lurker here, but i can only show you the door - you have to walk through it.
The books i recommended are fundamental red pill readings, but you can read them without becoming some red pill nut job too.
For any female lurkers, i HIGHLY recommend you do not look into anything i posted here. It will do nothing but make you angry, and if your man is doing any of this - it wll undermine the outcome of it tremendously… trust me, you want the outcome - you just don’t want to know how it happens.
Anyways, now I’ve outed my growth plan and either gained respect from my lurkers, or lost them forever. There is no middle ground lol.
