Update: she’s moved out voluntarily. Place is mine. joint physical custody down the middle. and she just got a job(her first job in over ten years). the good guys do win once in a while.
That is awesome to hear. Care to share more details how things went down? Did it get ugly or did you manage to keep things pretty civil?
Also, don’t let your guard down. You’re most vulnerable when you think you’ve won.
Good luck going forward. I’m glad things seem to be working out for you.
YAY!!!
[quote]Silyak wrote:
Care to share more details how things went down? Did it get ugly or did you manage to keep things pretty civil?
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The initial hearing with the judge…we spent three hours negotiating a parenting schedule. And she decided to scrap the whole plan because I asked for one more weekday twice a month than she wanted. that kind of pissed the judge and my lawyer off. And I have one of the best, well known divorce attorneys in the state. Well the judge said that while everything was pending, since she wouldnt compromise, that I would not be responsible for any support while the case was being decided.
She finally got a job. Faced the fact that she had to, since she wont be getting any alimony from me. I said earlier that she had managed to piss my lawyer off. Well my lawyer knows her lawyer, and they must have talked. Because she was totally different for mediation. I ended up getting the exact schedule i asked for.
50-50 down the middle custody. No alimony. And I somehow kept the place(she didnt even ask for it). My guess is that my lawyer had been pushing for a chemical dependency evaluation for her…She took most of the furniture, but that stuff can be replaced. She moved into her cousins house, which is in a decent area, and is a good spot for the kids.
She still has no idea that I know she cheated, and that I have that evidence. Im keeping it in my back pocket. But Ive moved on emotionally from her.
Free at last.
Glad to hear that you are moving forward. There may be tough times ahead yet, but it seems like you’ve handled things quite well to this point. Good luck.
Using a keylogger isnt fun unless youre phishing for accounts, use a rat for spying.When i was i remember using darkcomet and cg to try and infect people on omegle and generally to steal game accounts.Its a lot of fun when i open they’re webcam or when i open a picture of them on theyre pc.
Winning!
Glad to hear it all worked out about as well as it could.
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
Like what type of stuff are we talking that she’s wanting money for specifically??
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
I think that may be a very dramatic turn and more of a “nuclear option”. You’re talking about possibly severing any love your children may have for their mother.
Maybe give money to the kids when they go over to their mother’s house. Extra allowance or w.e. And tell them not to give any to mommy.
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
Like what type of stuff are we talking that she’s wanting money for specifically??[/quote]
[quote]magick wrote:
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
I think that may be a very dramatic turn and more of a “nuclear option”. You’re talking about possibly severing any love your children may have for their mother.
Maybe give money to the kids when they go over to their mother’s house. Extra allowance or w.e. And tell them not to give any to mommy.
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Ya, I think you’re walking a fine line. Your strategy could blow up right in your face.
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
Like what type of stuff are we talking that she’s wanting money for specifically??[/quote]
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Have you ever fucked on coke Nick er er I mean Derek?
[quote]magick wrote:
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
I think that may be a very dramatic turn and more of a “nuclear option”. You’re talking about possibly severing any love your children may have for their mother.
Maybe give money to the kids when they go over to their mother’s house. Extra allowance or w.e. And tell them not to give any to mommy.
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Yeah, I was thinking along those same lines depending on what it was. Either give them extra money for when they are at Mom’s or take them to participate in said activity when they are with you.
Also agree on the “nuclear option”. Potential for a negative outcome is too high and probably more likely than any positive that a big reveal like that might bring.
Plus it’d be stupid to give up the source as she would be know where it was attained. To me, better to keep the source of info a secret, and use it strategically without disclosing it.
Yeah, I would not do ANYTHING until those papers are signed and filed (especially if you’re happy with the arrangement). Bite your tongue until then; she could decide to throw a wrench into the whole damn thing.
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]magick wrote:
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
Update. Paperwork will be done in a week. …Lawyer move slowly at times…I never needed to use the keylogger info as leverage-she has no idea I still have the info.
BUT NOW-she is trying to use the kids as leverage for getting money for daily stuff… cuz she didn’t get her way in court. saying I will have to tell them that they cant do some activity cuz “dad wont pay”. and I am talking nickel and dime shit.
Solution??? printing out copies for her to see what I have, and that the kids will have access when they turn 18 if she makes me out to be the bad guy…thoughts?[/quote]
I think that may be a very dramatic turn and more of a “nuclear option”. You’re talking about possibly severing any love your children may have for their mother.
Maybe give money to the kids when they go over to their mother’s house. Extra allowance or w.e. And tell them not to give any to mommy.
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Ya, I think you’re walking a fine line. Your strategy could blow up right in your face. [/quote]
Yep. Dropping a slab of papers in front of her proving shes a cheating whore is a great way to bring out a woman’s inner crazy…DO IT.
If it’s nickel and dime stuff, I’d probably just pay it to a certain extent. I mean, a working relationship with your ex sounds like it’s in everyone’s best interest, even if it costs you a few bucks.
That being said, if she says that to your kids, just do all of that stuff when you have them and you’re no longer the bad guy. Or pay those activities directly (baseball leagues, whatever other activities your kids are into).