This is some funny shit.
I think someone pointed out a very important aspect, make sure that she is cheating. I dont know if the guy was a friend or a coworker or whatever. If you do something and it turns out she wasnt cheating then you have thrown away your future with her due to your own insecurities
Im with Cory, get some evidence and take any one of those ideas and make her look like the ass.
It seems like the replies here focus on either moving on, or performing some sort of revenge to show her how much trouble you have with her conduct.
I disagree with the “moving on” advice until you take some action. It’s just like Tony Soprano said, “There have to be consequences”.
Also, I don’t agree that she has to know who caused it or why she is unhappy. Like a friend of mine told me in law school…
“The real art of fucking with somebody is when they don’t know that you are fucking with them…they just know that they’re not happy”.
Also, heed Monk’s advice, she can really fuck with you in return if she knows you are the culprit. I mean it…family, job, the law, everything.
Attack like a shark, from behind and below, and then move away to let your prey die in slow, solo agony.
Someone mentioned giving her property away - bad idea - she can sue you in court for reimbursement for wrongful conversion of her property - you’d have to reimburse her for the value of her property.
Whether or not there is a criminal statute you would violate by leaving her in BFE…I do not know. However, she might have civil remedies. Specically, she could sue you for intentional infliction of emotional distress. I mean, truthfully, that’s precisely what you wanted to do to her, isn’t it, cause emotional distress?
Make the punishment fit the crime…it must be justified. I reason it as follows…
She took from you to gain something of value…precisely, she gained her happiness in a new relationship. The only logical revenge is to take that happiness of hers away. How is this done? End her relationship with her boyfriend.
A Texas attorney once told me, “Trust is a fragile teacup…once broken is it is almost impossible to repair”. Convince him that she has other new boyfriends and is cheating on him too. As they say in the south, “A dog that will bring a bone, will take a bone too”. The damage will be done and their paradise will be over.
Once the new relationship ends…and most do anyway…more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce, and I’d wager that 80% or better of all relationships break up and never even lead to marriage…you can then call her, or wait for her to call to see how things turned out. But don’t take her back. She’s damaged goods and will stray from the fold again. Just openly sympathize with her for being such a pitiful creature unable to sustain a healthy relationship…unlike the rest of her friends who can…it will drive her mad.
She used you like a stepping stone to reach for a higher limb in the tree…break that limb off and let her land on her ass where she belongs.
On a lighter note, before I left on my current trip, I was tempted to tattoo the letters HIV on one butt cheek and POS on the other butt cheek of my girlfriend’s ass. That’s one way to encourage fidelity.
Well, that’s my humble and jaded opinion. I hope I didn’t alienate anyone in my favorite forum with my methods. But I’d rather be a prick than a doormat.
Time to feed the bulldog.
Wow, a ton of feedback, surprisingly alot of it made me reflect, but here’s the update:
I’m still going through with SOMETHING. I liked the one about dropping her off at her guy’s house, which I’ve been considering, but something about the idea of dropping her off there, knowing she’ll walk in and scroo him just twists the knife.
About half of you are saying just walk away, be the bigger man. I wish I could, I really do. But anytime someone’s stepped on me,and I didn’t strike back, i regretted it. I know this would be the case too. This girl has trampled all over me, you can say its because I’m a pussy or she wasn’t satisfied or whatever, but for 3 years I did everything I could, I’ve never been anything but loving. If I wasn’t satisfying her in any way, she should have broken up with me the right way. This is the biggest stab in the back, and despite what I know in my mind to be the best choice, I just can’t do that, I’ll never forgive myself for not getting the final word in so to speak. Just typing this and thinking about letting her off easy leaves me fuming. The only justification I will get out of this is knowing I ended this thing on my terms. Call me childish, but I guarantee 90% of you and any other man would want the exact same thing.
So our finals are over on Fri/Sat, I’m taking her out Sat night to “celebrate” the end of the semester. I had considered waiting until Christmas time to exchange presents, because we always spend 500+ on our birthdays and Christmas. I figured it woudl be nice to walk away with some loot, but it’s gotten to the breaking point. someone asked how I’ve been able to make it a month, alot of it is not seeing her much during the week, but most of it is knowing my chance would come. This revenge could never be served cold. It would/will probably take me the next year or so to get over this.
And the reason I like my idea, isn’t becuase its creative or inventive. Like I/you all said, its lame. But since its setting her up for a proposal, the event that all girls dream of their entire lives, them ripping that away. Showing that this is could you could have/would have had, but you threw it all away.
Dude youre not thinking clearly, a lot of feel for you so heed the advice.
If youre going to get back at her, do the proposal thing, but make it public in some of the examples given so that everyone knows shes an ass.
Phrack, m’man - if your reasoning skills and lack of maturity are indicative of your bedroom skills, then maybe the GF had damn good reason for finding another guy!
Dude, for whatever reason, she chose to bed someone else. That doesn’t necessarily mean that anything is wrong with either you or her beyond the fact that you are both human. I’m guessing she continues to see you because she doesn’t want to hurt you while she figures out what she really wants to do, or maybe she just enjoys the freedom to have a variety of sexual partners at this stage of her life, and she’s reluctant to communicate that to someone who has a vicious, venegeful streak?!!!
Whatever vengeful thing you ultimately do, other than telling her you know what’s up and saying “Cioa baby… goodbye, good luck, and good riddance…” will leave you looking like a whiny punk who probably deserved to be cheated on.
Nothing you do or say will change what she has already done (and at this point, why would you want her anyway?), nothing you do or say can change the fact that you are feeling shat upon, and nothing you do or say is going to make her miss you and regret she’s with someone else UNLESS SHE arrives at that conclusion ON HER OWN.
The fact that you feel you’ve got to have the last word beyond what I proposed earlier indicates that you want to play to an audience. Well think about this - do you really want to get into a pissing contest with the GF and her lover ('cuz you’re crazy if you think THEY will not retaliate by trying to humiliate you to the same audience)? Do you really think you can “win?” All she has to say is “I started sleeping with loverboy 'cuz Phrack is a terrible lay, has a little dick, etc…” and before you know it, you are gonna feel even worse and more embarrassed about this whole thing! LET IT GO!!!
Move on man and quit yer bitchin’…it probably won’t be the last time a woman cheats on you unless you grow up real fast.
BTW - are you so pure that you have never cheated, or considered cheating, on a/the GF? If not, great, but when it comes to your GF, remember the title of that ol’ Bonnie Raitt song: “I Can’t Make You Love Me If You Don’t”.
Finis.
Just make sure she is/was actually cheating on you. From what you’ve described it seems within the realm of possibility that there is some explanation. The guy could be gay and sometimes chicks get all over gay guys because they don’t view them as threatening.
Talk to women about this, but I think from the female perspective, it would be much worse to simply let her know you know, and then never speak to her again. At that point she would have nothing to be mad at you about, and only her own transgressions on which to stew. Of course, this would take much self control on your part, as you would need to avoid the pangs of doubt and the reconsiderations that are obvious from other people’s posts on this board.
However, whatever you do, I highly recommend against doing anything which could cause anyone physical harm and over which you could be liable, irrespective of the other considerations posted above by those cautioning you against rash acts.
In the end, it sucks, and you are angry, but once you have verified that she is cheating, the best thing you could possibly do is walk away and never look back.
To add to what GqArtGuy said, if you do it in private, she may be pissed enough to yell rape. Do what you ever you do in public.
If you must do something, definitely do it in public…Not for the humiliation factor she’ll feel, but for your own protection. What if you drive her out into the country, leave her there and go home thinking you got your revenge. Next thing you know, you’re watching TV and the police are knocking at your door. It seems she’s told them she had tried to break up with you that night and you drove her out into the country and tried to assault her, but she got away…Prove you didn’t. Not that it would happen, but it could. Protect yourself…Keep it public.
Mr. T Man, do you honestly think someone has the RIGHT to cheat on someone? The fact that your so confident in that negates any credibility the rest of your post has. Noone deserves to cheat or to cheat on someone. You break up first, simple as that.
Mr.Tman:
It sounds like you’re making excuses for her cheating. I have to agree with phrack. The right thing for her to do would have been to break up with him, if she wanted to be with someone else.
damn bud sorry to hear. just do what i did, when a girl disrespected me, i brought her to my house, fucked the shit out of her and before she could get up, i grabbed her threw her outta the house buck naked. that will teach her to ever disrespect a guy ever again. so it will save other t-men in the future from gettin disrespected by her. us t-men gotta look out for each other bro. i would hold up on the guy thought, u might not know if he knows she is dating someone. if he doesn’t know how can u blame a brotha if he doesn’t even know she is taken u know. its all the chicks fault. good luck man.
Alright, boys. Just got back from Opertaion Bitch Drop. My feeling right now is that I may have taken it too far, but I know that I did the right thing. Here’s what happened:
I picked her up and told her that we were going on a suprise date, and that I wanted to ask her something I have wanted to ask for a long time. I told her to bring her jacket but not her cell phone because I didn’t want any distractions. Then I put a blindfold on her and she asked “Oooh, are you going to kidnap me or something?” I’m glad she couldn’t see my sheepish grin. We found the spot I checked out before, a little more than 10 miles outside of town. She sat on a blanket and I took off her blindfold and stammered a little bit, I was really nervous, but that played into my favor. I started to tell her that we’ve been together for a really long time and that there comes a time when you need to take it to the next level. I got on one knee and reached into my pocket, and pretended that I couldn’t find my ring. “Shit.” So I went back to my truck to grab it, acting all embarrassed. I got in my truck and looked at her. I tell you, for a second, I thought about calling the plan off. But I had already told you guys about my plan and that I was going to do it and then thought that a real T-man would follow through. Plus, I had worked real hard on an even bigger surprise. As soon as I peeled out, her surprise was waiting for her…
Last night I was telling one of my frat brothers about my plan. He came up with a great idea. So this afternoon, me and five of my brothers went up to the dude’s house. The dude who cheated on me with her. He was home, so we put on our masks and went inside. We drug the kicking and screaming little baby out and threw him into the 'burb.
So back to the when I peeled out leaving my girlfriend behind, she was there to see him, the little shit, tied to a chair and gagged. On his shirt I put a big note: “Will you marry me?” I just got back from drinking with my boys, haven’t heard from them. Before I might have cared what happened to them but now that it’s over I could care less. I’m just glad that it’s all over.
ahahahaha you’re gonna be in so much trouble for that dude.
You may find yourself in one BIG heap of shit in the coming days.
As far as your ? about is this legal, befor your final post I would have said that you didnt have much to worry about, most likely.
Now since you added in the other guy, I would say if you dont want to go to jail you had better head for the border.
Took it just a little to far. I couldnt tell you all the exact charges, the first that come to mind are kid napping, assault, i’m sure some type of emotional distress charge, etc…
Id have to say ya screwed up. Get a lawyer.
That smells of BS to me… If it was true, and i was the guy that you kidnapped all of your asses would be spending a little time in the upstate big-boy house for federal kidnap charges. dumbass.
If this actually happened, what was the point of asking if it was leagal to leave her out there then go and kidnap him? No question you are going to jail now! What was the point of the masks? When you left him out there with her it will not take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. Sucks she did that to you in the first place, but you just fucked yourself ( and a couple of frat brothers ). Again, if this actually happend that is.
You dumbass.
First of all, that was a terrible plan because all you did was risk the safety of two people (which you would be liable for), your record (because you could easily go to jail for that), your friends’ record (since they could go to jail too), and the future of your fraternity.
Secondly, now all that’s going to happen is that everyone in the world is going to you know that you and the rest of your fraternity brothers as dickheads, no matter what she did to you before hand. You just made her the victim! And now everyone is going to hate you because of it. She’s the angel. You could have made her the bitch, but you weren’t thinking straight.
Thridly, you serverely risked the future of your fraternity. I spent the two previous years as a consultant for Theta Chi Fraternity, so I have a pretty damn good idea on how your headquarters is going to handle it when the word comes down (and if these people say anything to anybody, which they will, word will hit the IHQ). In fact, if you were in my fraternity, I would personally call the IHQ to let them know that one our brothers did something stupid and that there is a serious possiblitity of a law suit claim in the future. That’s right, since you did this with your brothers, you may have just implicated your fraternity!! Yep. Thanks for making my efforts to explain why fraternities aren’t just “frats” that much harder.
Oh well, I’m sure you’ll have plenty of time to think about it when you’re in federal pound-me-in-the-ass prison for kidnapping and assualt.
Next time listen to those who are thinking with clearer minds.