this is embarassing to say, but being 2nd generation hispanic from a private school i know PLENTY of girls that will not go out with a black/indian dude, just because of the color of there skin.
this is awful to type, but it happens, regardless these types of girls are retarded and offer very little.
You need not worry about you being Indian as a reason why she might not be interested in you. There are a shit ton of Indian people in England, so you would not be the first. If you havent even talked to her about it, you cannot assume anything along the lines that you are.
To the OP I feel your pain. You remind me of the saying “the grass is always greener over the septic tank”. My parents are very proper British imigrats who assimilated into American culture well but there were a few rough spots for me growing up. ie My father who had a proper British grammer school education wanted me to speak English properly. In an American school you will get a lot of grief for speaking the queens English.
Oddly enough I can find some of the mentalities, attitudes, perspectives and little cultural
To the OP I feel your pain. You remind me of the saying “the grass is always greener over the septic tank”. My parents are very proper British imigrats who assimilated into American culture well but there were a few rough spots for me growing up.
ie My father who had a proper British grammer school education wanted me to speak English properly. In an American school you will get a lot of grief for speaking the queens English.
Oddly enough I can find some of the mentalities, attitudes, perspectives and little cultural
To the OP I feel your pain. You remind me of the saying “the grass is always greener over the septic tank”. My parents are very proper British imigrats who assimilated into American culture well but there were a few rough spots for me growing up. ie My father who had a proper British grammer school education wanted me to speak English properly. In an American school you will get a lot of grief for speaking the queens English.
Oddly enough I can find some of the mentalities, attitudes, perspectives and little cultural quirks of the British annoying or detestable. I also think white girls are overrated.
At least your rejection story doesn’t sound as bad as what I have been through with the sista’s. I have had more than a few black women laugh at me for being interested. By laugh I don’t mean a little chuckle either. I mean doubled over, slapping thier leg, hanging on their girl friend (who is also dyinng with laughter) to stay up hillarity.
It is just the way people are, they tend to seek their own ethnicity for mating.
Also women are extremely quick to make up their minds on whether or not they are interested. On average it takes a maximum of 14 seconds for a woman to decide if she wants to have sex with a man when she first meets him. If there wasn’t any chemistry when she first met you that was it.
OP - Whenever you’re feeling down about your ethnicity, just remember all the great things from the culture.
By far, the most impressive being this:
[quote]Raza ka Maza wrote:
I’m a 20 y/o British male and I absolutely hate being indian. From a young age i’ve grown up in predominantly white communities, until the age of 9 I grew up in a town where I was the only non-white kid in school.
Now you’re probably thinking it’s because of racial incidents in the past, but I have honestly experienced very little racism at all.
I don’t know why but I hate indian culture, I will try to avoid indian food as much as possible, at home I get angry if my parents speak to me in anything other than english - I wish I could unlearn my understanding of hindi and punjabi. And my social life has really suffered due to this as well, throughout school and even now I never call any friends round to my house because my dad is very religious and I don’t want my friend seeing all the hindu picture or see them wearing traiditional clothing or hear them speaking a foreign language. So I always went to their houses or arrange to meet outside.
In uni virtually all of my firends are white, there were some asian folk who were friendly but I just didn’t want anyhting to do with them when they startd talking about bhangra nights etc.
But I myself am very british at heart, i’ve had one gf in the past who was indian, but it ended very quickly, because we were very different people, she was into bollywood and Star TV etc and didn’t drink while I had a more mainstream lifestyle, so even though we were the same ethnicity (both punjabi) there was a culture clash.
I think one of the main reasons I think this was is because in college there was this one girl who I can honestly say I had fallen in love, she was a friend of a friend and we got to know each other well, the more I got to know her the more I had fallen in love with her, she was very British, and as much as I tried, she just didn’t seem interested in me, and I can almost guarantee its because i’m indian, she wasn’t a bigot or a xenophobic or anything since we were quite good friends, but she didn’t consider me to be ‘bf material’ because of this.
Do you think that could be the reason why I think this way?
I just want to be Caucasian British but my backgorund won’t let me be.[/quote]
You are a true indoor. No matter how hard you try you will always be one of “them” and not a member of the group you long for. You fail
[quote]SteelyD wrote:
OP - Whenever you’re feeling down about your ethnicity, just remember all the great things from the culture.
By far, the most impressive being this:
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LMAO X 1000
[quote]Artem wrote:
vitiligo
It can develop at any age, so have hope, OP![/quote]
I have vitiligo so this cracked me up. Fortunately I’m caucasian so it’s not as obvious as on darker skinned individuals.
OP. You don’t have to be proud of your ethnicity, just embrace the aspects of your upbringing that are useful. For example, my father is from Greece and my mother was raised in the Greek culture here in the US & speaks fluent Greek.
There are things that I’ve embraced (like the cooking) and things I’ve rejected (like the religion). You are your own person and YOUR accomplishments are what will make you, not your skin color or ethnicity.
Heck, look on the bright side. In the global economy, India has huge market potential. You could seek out career opportunities in marketing or the business world and use your understanding of Hindi & Punjabi to your advantage. I have a friend who’s father is from China and his mother is American.
Now that he works for an international fortune 500 company and China is such a huge opportunity for this company, he regrets not learning Mandarin from his father when he was growing up. It definitely would have given him a career advantage.
The global economy needs people who are comfortable navigating different cultures.
[quote]SteelyD wrote:
OP - Whenever you’re feeling down about your ethnicity, just remember all the great things from the culture.
By far, the most impressive being this:
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See, OP? Reason# 3 to be proud of your heritage: Bollywood!!
I believe the main reason why you “hate” your ethnicity is your upbringing.
I’m speaking from personal experience here, but in many cases first generation immigrants try to impose their culture on their children in an amplified form, out of fear that they will assimilate in the majority population.
Occasionally, this amplification gets distorted as well and you end up in a pretty schizophrenic situation - you do not belong in the country where you were born, and your culture defined by the memories of your parents and other co-immigrants bears no relation whatsoever to the culture in the country of origin.
I lived some time as a teen in the US, so I know what I’m talking about. I hated my country of origin because it manifested itself to me in church gatherings, rosaries and crucifixes and moronic folk/cultural evenings where old hags in their 70ies and 80ies harped on about dead relatives and mother country politics that was relevant 50 years ago.
So this is a natural process, don’t sweat it. In a few years time you’ll see that white British is actually pretty low on the coolness scale 
After all, your ancestors stopped Alexander the Great while ancient Britons were prancing around half-naked
To the OP, you can’t fight who you are man. Your upbringing and ethnicity were partly responsible for making you the man you are today. May as well get used to it and learn to like yourself for yourself.
…and if that fails, there’s always the Michael Jackson option
[quote]SteelyD wrote:
OP - Whenever you’re feeling down about your ethnicity, just remember all the great things from the culture.
By far, the most impressive being this:
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Don’t be ridiculous. Its this:
durka durka
Jesus Christ, this has got to be the most ridiculous dumbfuck post I’ve ever seen on here. First of all, if I looked like you do in your avatar, I’d hate myself no matter what ethnicity I was.
Secondly, maybe this chick you fell in love with realized that you are so insecure and caught up in trying to be someone you’re not that she was totally turned off by you. Women look for self-confidence in men first and foremost and someone who is ashamed of their race and culture because of some twisted belief that it negatively effects their outward appearance is the epitome of low self-esteem.
You remind me of a bumper sticker I saw once. It said “No one can make you feel disgusting without your help, so get right with yourself first.” Can you imagine what sort of monster of a woman you’ll be with if you married a woman who was OK with you being ashamed of your parents and the way they embrace their (and your) culture?
If you were the victim of heinous, overt racism, I could maybe understand, but come on man! Be proud of your race, religion and culture! It’s a part of who you are and anything less than pride in these things translates into pitiful, debilitating self-loathing that will only get worse and worse.
first off…
all the michael jackson jokes in here are corny as f**k, so lets cut those out please…
secondly…
you cannot change who you are, you must learn to deal, and get on with life. You sound insecure when it comes to chicks, as if your background/ethnicity gets in the way of making progress with the females. Get THAT, out of your head bro. If the bitch doesnt like you, f**k her, there is plenty of fish in the sea.
OP wrote: I HATE My Ethnicitiy - What’s Wrong with Me?
A whole lot. Get over it and get over yourself. You’re looking to things outside your control to blame for disappointments and it’s stupid and arrogant. If you’ve had failings you can blame on ethnicity then nothing can really be your fault, right?
Man up. She didn’t see you as boyfriend material, b/c you AREN’T not b/c you’re Indian. And btw, even if it is b/c you’re Indian then she SUCKS. If you can’t see that, then YOU are fool. You’ve got a lot of growing up to do.
[quote]FrozenNinja wrote:
SteelyD wrote:
OP - Whenever you’re feeling down about your ethnicity, just remember all the great things from the culture.
By far, the most impressive being this:
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Goolie Man!!!
IM GREEK AND I LOVE IT
[quote]dfreezy wrote:
SteelyD wrote:
OP - Whenever you’re feeling down about your ethnicity, just remember all the great things from the culture.
By far, the most impressive being this:
Don’t be ridiculous. Its this:
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LOL