How Does the World View You?

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Actually, I’ve asked a couple of people this very question. I can’t answer it myself because I have an inherent bias towards my self that prohibits an honest answer. I’ve never though very highly of myself and have often wondered why anybody would even want to associate with me.

Their response was that I in fact do make their lives better in different ways. I have had to simply accept that this is their honest opinion and move on.

Not everybody is cut out to be rocket scientist millionaire philanthropists dedicated to making the world a better place(even on the internet). I had to settle for being a good husband, brother, uncle, and friend. It feels pretty good. I’m going to add father to that repertoire soon.

I never worry much about getting taken advantage of. If you do something good and someone can’t appreciate it, you have still done something good.

Here’s part of what I’ve experienced.

My oldest brother broke his neck in a diving accident when he was 21 and I was 15. Being the only one in my family that was available, I became his care taker/ attendant/ nurse, and eventually coordinator of his health care needs as problems arose. Generally speaking, I had to make sure he was happy and healthy, wealthy and wise would have to wait.

I was very good at this. He had minimal complications for being a quadriplegic, and any that arose were quickly handled very adeptly. As all of this was going on, I started developing some problems too- Alcoholism and drug addiction. Try as I might, I couldn’t do both things at once. I had to go and do my thing, and he had to start taking responsibility for his own well being. The relationship dynamic that we had developed wasn’t any good for either of us.

Well, that didn’t sit well with him. I got into some treatment for my thing, and started to live a different life. We grew apart. He has moved on in different ways. Got married, moved to a flatter warmer state, and is in pretty good shape health wise. Unfortunately, he is extraordinarily pissed off that I abandoned him.

He has stated that he hates my fucking guts, and wishes that I was still a drug addict and a drunk. We were a lot better off that way. We haven’t spoken in a civil way to each other in several years, and may not ever.

Does that diminish the good things in life that we did? Yeah, a little. It makes them bittersweet. I’m happy knowing that he’s living a good life. I would like if we were on better terms, but that is not up to me at this point.

Sometimes you have to accept the bad along with the good.

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[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
In literal answer to the thread question, everyone who knows me loves me.
Whenever we’re out socializing, my wife and I constantly seem to attract the nicest people, and new friendships spark up. I could take the credit, but my wife is probably the reason for this. Then again, since she’s my other half, it’s a reflection on me.

Ha-cha-cha![/quote]

married people creep me out sometimes.lol

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
Actually, I’ve asked a couple of people this very question. I can’t answer it myself because I have an inherent bias towards my self that prohibits an honest answer. I’ve never though very highly of myself and have often wondered why anybody would even want to associate with me.

Their response was that I in fact do make their lives better in different ways. I have had to simply accept that this is their honest opinion and move on.

Not everybody is cut out to be rocket scientist millionaire philanthropists dedicated to making the world a better place(even on the internet). I had to settle for being a good husband, brother, uncle, and friend. It feels pretty good. I’m going to add father to that repertoire soon.

I never worry much about getting taken advantage of. If you do something good and someone can’t appreciate it, you have still done something good.

Here’s part of what I’ve experienced.

My oldest brother broke his neck in a diving accident when he was 21 and I was 15. Being the only one in my family that was available, I became his care taker/ attendant/ nurse, and eventually coordinator of his health care needs as problems arose. Generally speaking, I had to make sure he was happy and healthy, wealthy and wise would have to wait. I was very good at this. He had minimal complications for being a quadriplegic, and any that arose were quickly handled very adeptly. As all of this was going on, I started developing some problems too- Alcoholism and drug addiction. Try as I might, I couldn’t do both things at once. I had to go and do my thing, and he had to start taking responsibility for his own well being. The relationship dynamic that we had developed wasn’t any good for either of us.

Well, that didn’t sit well with him. I got into some treatment for my thing, and started to live a different life. We grew apart. He has moved on in different ways. Got married, moved to a flatter warmer state, and is in pretty good shape health wise. Unfortunately, he is extraordinarily pissed off that I abandoned him. He has stated that he hates my fucking guts, and wishes that I was still a drug addict and a drunk. We were a lot better off that way. We haven’t spoken in a civil way to each other in several years, and may not ever.

Does that diminish the good things in life that we did? Yeah, a little. It makes them bittersweet. I’m happy knowing that he’s living a good life. I would like if we were on better terms, but that is not up to me at this point.

Sometimes you have to accept the bad along with the good.

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next time you see him, perhaps a game of thether-puppy would be ideal.

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I agree with all that said my wife, kids, and other direct relatives are pretty much the only people’s whose opinions matter to me. I realized a while ago that most people don’t think about anyone but themselves most of the time.

This thread topic is a good example…the OP is basically asking what people think of him…and sharing this with us…I read what Vegita wrote, but don’t remember any of it, because I was thinking of myself.

I know that I very rarely think of anyone (outside of my family) unless I am directly with that person, or on the phone, or emailing them or talking with my family about them.

I have interacted with a lot of people. I’m guessing people feel about me along a 33/33/33 split. I would guess that 33% of them think I’m a dick, 33% think I am the Greaest Man on the Planet and 33% don’t have an opinion one way or the other.

I don’t really give two shits what anyone thinks of me. I have spent 11 years ‘volunteering’ in my kid’s soccer program. I have served as an assistant coach, head coach, referee, league coordinator and ultimately the commissioner for many years. Obviously I don’t get paid, but it’s been some of the most rewarding time I have spent on the planet.

There’s about a thousand kids in my program. The majority of the people have no idea who I am. I used to worry about that as I wanted to be loved by all. Then I realized it’s better not to be noticed. It’s not like on the T&V. No one is going to throw you a party.

I regularly get yelled at by parents that are pissed for some reason or other. 9 out of 10…okay…9.5 out of 10 times it’s due to their own stupidity. I used to worry about it, but then I realized the 33/33/33 rule.

Every soccer season I get to see how rude, stupid and unthoughtful people are. I have watched grown adults curse out teenage refs, grown men come close to fighting, parents cheat and lie, etc…last Spring I coached my 10 year old son’s team…I had 13 kids on my team…the kids were great…the parents sucked…they drop their kids off at practice and run errands…I explained they can’t do that as I’m a coach, not a doctor…they still dump ‘em and run…I had 2 kids that missed every other week because they were ‘with they dad’ and ‘he ain’t feel like bringin’ them’…this is 100% typical of what I get every year…this year however, I didn’t plan a Team Party at the end of the season…I asked for a volunteer to help with it and none of the lazy bastards would volunteer…then on the last day they asked me when the party was…I said, “whenever someone wants to plan it”…no one stepped up…how fucking tough is it to call Chuck E Cheese?

There are some people in the program that I care about their opinion. Guys that help me line the fields, guys that will coach and not bitch…guys I respect. But…I’ve pissed these guys off in the past and will piss them off again…the thing about these guys though is we hash out what our differences are…and move on…someones got to be in charge and I’m the lucky one…if someone doesn’t like it they can leave…I’m open to suggestions…and I often concede, but some things I won’t concede and I know that has led a lot of people to think I’m a dick. Eff 'em.

So…to sum up…I don’t care what most people think because they suck. If they don’t suck, I care.

As for you Vegita, you’re OK by my except for the parody threads, which I had no idea you were actually a proponent of until a week ago…

Before I leave you homoes…just remember…I don’t read your names when I read your posts…I may recognize your avatar…but…I’m very, very, very rarely thinking about you…doesn’t mean I don’t like a lot of you…but I ain’t thinking about you…

One last thing…I MUST care somewhat what you dumb fuckers think of me as whenever there’s a Who’s Teh Funniest T-Nationer, I get a little pissed when someone votes for anyone but me.

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[quote]nomorewar wrote:

next time you see him, perhaps a game of thether-puppy would be ideal.
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He can’t kick too well.

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[quote]sen say wrote:

Before I leave you homoes…just remember…I don’t read your names when I read your posts…I may recognize your avatar…but…I’m very, very, very rarely thinking about you…doesn’t mean I don’t like a lot of you…but I ain’t thinking about you…

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You think of me regularly. I know you do.

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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
I think about this all of the time. For starters, ask people you really trust (family members, co-workers that you know on a more personal level) what their perception is of you. It might surprise you, it might not. I did this with a few senior co-workers and realized the person I try to portray is not always how my superiors perceive me.

About improving other people’s lives, if that is what you think will give your life meaning, go for it. There aren’t many people who improve the quality of people’s lives on a grand scale. If that’s what you want to do, maybe start up a charitable organization of some sorts (I’ve been looking into this lately as well).

All that being said, there is nothing wrong with being a family man and not striving to make the world a much better place, so long as you’re not making it a much worse place, IMO.[/quote]

I think about this a fair bit too. I get worried at work at times because my nature is to be quiet and shy but I often end up being outspoken and assertive. I worry that as a female I’m being too aggressive or confrontational. But when I talk to people I work with I get positive feedback and they say I’m glad I raise the issues I raise and respect me but I still don’t know lol.

I do like to think I enhance the lives of my loved ones at least as much as they enhance mine but I’ve never asked, except for my boyfriend who I do seek feedback from.

The feedback I do get is often much more generous and kind than I see myself. I always want to ask if someone is just blowing smoke up my ass. :stuck_out_tongue:

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

He has stated that he hates my fucking guts, and wishes that I was still a drug addict and a drunk. We were a lot better off that way. We haven’t spoken in a civil way to each other in several years, and may not ever.

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I’m sorry to hear this…I have relatives that were in the same situation…one died before they reconciled…fucking heartbreaking…depending on how important this is to you don’t give up…call him on his b-day…on holidays…send him pics of you with his nephew…try and visit…sounds like he has the problem…invite him to your house…I don’t know…but…don’t give up…take the fam to visit him…is he monster enough to kick you, your wife AND his nephew out of his house?

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[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:

[quote]sen say wrote:

Before I leave you homoes…just remember…I don’t read your names when I read your posts…I may recognize your avatar…but…I’m very, very, very rarely thinking about you…doesn’t mean I don’t like a lot of you…but I ain’t thinking about you…

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You think of me regularly. I know you do. [/quote]

Only when I’m banging Lanky and he’s just layin’ there too tired from bringing up baby to put any effort into it.

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[quote]debraD wrote:
I always want to ask if someone is just blowing smoke up my ass. :-P[/quote]

Looking for volunteers?

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The world views me like this…

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It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major

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[quote]TD54 wrote:
It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major[/quote]

Or 50% wrong 100% of the time? Of course if your wearing sex panther, that goes to 60% of the time, 100% of the time.

V

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[quote]TD54 wrote:
It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major[/quote]

I find your post interesting in that my first reaction after reading the first 2 sentences was, “why is this guy pointing fingers at others regarding how highly they think of themselves or how nice they are?”, then I go on to read and most of your post is speaking out against people who point out faults in others.

I’m not meaning this to throw insults your way, I just thought it was funny and I should point it out.

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[quote]HispanicSamurai wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major[/quote]

I find your post interesting in that my first reaction after reading the first 2 sentences was, “why is this guy pointing fingers at others regarding how highly they think of themselves or how nice they are?”, then I go on to read and most of your post is speaking out against people who point out faults in others.

I’m not meaning this to throw insults your way, I just thought it was funny and I should point it out.
[/quote]

My mind runs at a million miles an hour and my ability to focus on one thing and stream coherent thoughts together is non existent. so… i can’t guarantee that the next sentence has anything to do with the previous one… Wait, wut?

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[quote]Vegita wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major[/quote]

Or 50% wrong 100% of the time? Of course if your wearing sex panther, that goes to 60% of the time, 100% of the time.

V[/quote]

Don’t make me try and wrap my mind around that… I’ll kill myself. Did you know the universe is never ending? or is it? and if it does end, what’s beyond that? fuuuuuck

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[quote]TD54 wrote:

[quote]Vegita wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major[/quote]

Or 50% wrong 100% of the time? Of course if your wearing sex panther, that goes to 60% of the time, 100% of the time.

V[/quote]

Don’t make me try and wrap my mind around that… I’ll kill myself. Did you know the universe is never ending? or is it? and if it does end, what’s beyond that? fuuuuuck
[/quote]

Doesn’t end OR Begin.

V

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[quote]sen say wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

He has stated that he hates my fucking guts, and wishes that I was still a drug addict and a drunk. We were a lot better off that way. We haven’t spoken in a civil way to each other in several years, and may not ever.

[/quote]

I’m sorry to hear this…I have relatives that were in the same situation…one died before they reconciled…fucking heartbreaking…depending on how important this is to you don’t give up…call him on his b-day…on holidays…send him pics of you with his nephew…try and visit…sounds like he has the problem…invite him to your house…I don’t know…but…don’t give up…take the fam to visit him…is he monster enough to kick you, your wife AND his nephew out of his house?[/quote]

I try every so often to test the waters so to speak. I wouldn’t say that the relationship is hopeless, just that it is beyond my ability to repair.

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[quote]Vegita wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:

[quote]Vegita wrote:

[quote]TD54 wrote:
It’s interesting how most people seem to perceive themselves as a great deal better or nicer than they actually are. Why does everyone think so highly of themselves? I think this is a huge problem in our society because everyone is always pointing the finger at someone else. It’s always someone else’s fault and the other person is always wrong.

Over the past few years i feel like I’m growing up a lot and starting to really understand things like this. I am getting much better at constantly analyzing myself and whatever situation arises as a whole instead of immediately pointing the finger at someone else. You have to figure that in all of the confrontations/arguments/disagreements in your life, you’re going to be wrong 50% the time.

I’d like to think analyzing yourself and how you are perceived by the world is just something that comes with maturity, unfortunately i’m not sure it has much of anything to do with it. I see waaaaay too many adults acting like children these days, arguing over stupid shit that in the end just isn’t important in life. But the world has wronged them and that must be fixed.

All of this probably made no sense… I sear it makes more sense in my head. My mind runs rampant and i can’t control it. Thank god i’m not an English major[/quote]

Or 50% wrong 100% of the time? Of course if your wearing sex panther, that goes to 60% of the time, 100% of the time.

V[/quote]

Don’t make me try and wrap my mind around that… I’ll kill myself. Did you know the universe is never ending? or is it? and if it does end, what’s beyond that? fuuuuuck
[/quote]

Doesn’t end OR Begin.

V[/quote]

ahh shit. you may be right

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[quote]Vegita wrote:
How do other people percieve you?

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The doods perceive me as steeroid injecting meathead.

Teh ladiez perceive me as steeroid injecting meathead they luvz to fuck (simtltf)