Ah I think I know the answer but wondering how anyone else would handle this situation.
Have a new girlfriend who is pretty understanding… we got off to a rough start of jumping into a relationship within 2 1/2 weeks of talking(about a month ago now). This is a new thing for me as I’ve been single for 8 months coming out of a 5 year thing that ended but I walked away from it.
Basically I effed up huge when I lied to my current girlfriend about how I told my ex we were together. I went to her house (my ex)to pick up Christmas stuff she got for my family (stupid idea I know but in my mind I wanted to tell her in person she can no longer be part of my life at all moving forward as I have a new love) but told my current GF my ex called me and I told her on the phone. she ends up seeing on my phone my ex and I texted and I tell her everything. Super mega dumb, I am as dumb as I look just in my mind I wanted that situation to be dead and over with moving forward and I did have the right intentions in mind just poor execution and even dumber actions on my part.
Anyways fast forward to today, we are on great terms back on track all has been forgiven as I think she realizes I’m really not that person and moving forward I wont be.
But now we are on the honesty train, no one knows except for maybe 3-4 people I take test for powerlifting and personal reasons. She informed me I was invited to her families vacation in march to meet them and etc.
My issue now, how do I break it to her I’m on test and don’t plan on coming off?
I never thought we would make it this far, and as luck has it everything between is amazing.
Sex life, personal connection and goals are very similar. I really want a future with her or at least try but I’m in a predicament of how do I break this news since I want to spill everything to prove there is nothing left I’m hiding.
I feel like I’m looking for a girls perspective on this, but am open to all suggestions. I’m not even sure why I’m airing this out on the internet, other than the fact that no one in my personal life really knows. My bestfriend said fuck it don’t tell her and see where it goes but if everything goes well she will be relocating to where i live (we have a long distance thing, we met from work) but i really want to be honest going forward.
I think everybody understands that there are things that come up as the relationship develops because something’s require a particular level of trust to disclose.
If you are serious about her then I would tell her and I would put it around the frame of seeing a real future in the relationship, the trust you have in her and the security you feel in the relationship and so on.
Be prepared to be rejected or being asked to stop.
I figured, thanks for that. This sucks ass just i don’t want to come off and find it kills our sex life etc. She openly told me i would never had a chance with her basically from photos of what i use to be like. Stressful, but i guess if its meant to be, it will be.
Go to an anti aging clinic and get a script for TRT. Show her the prescription & then go UGL or keep the script. You wouldn’t be lying and it makes it way easier for someone out of the loop to understand and be ok with.
To be fair i was 270 pounds on a 6’1 frame, and dressed like a wanna be gangster. I’ve made better life choices (to some degree) and she was mostly joking as im already not her typical type.
She’s unbelievably gorgeous, and doesn’t need to settle for a kinda jacked kinda chubby bald dude with a red beard. she didn’t come for my looks lol.
Sounds greasy, but i will probably throw in if its problematic i will go the legal route and do it all legit if that could work as a solution. Thank you.
Don’t worry, my wife has openly said she never would have dated me if we met when I was 5’10 and 135lbs. That’s just the truth. I wouldn’t have dated her if she were fat or ugly, whoops, another truth bomb.
Point is, she’s being honest, you’re not that old gangster, and you’ve matured.
Be honest with her. Tell her you’ve struggled with low testosterone and tell her you’re on TRT to live a healthier lifestyle. Sell it as a positive. It helps your well being.
If she can’t support you, she’s not the one, period.
That makes a lot of sense, I planned to point out the benefits and high light what benefits both us most. I planned to go legit in Feb anyways but seems my timeline will be accelerated.
Just so I understand: you’re a month into a relationship that started rocky with a huge error in judgement on your part with a woman you understand is out of your league after being single for only 8 months after a 5 year relationship (which realistically you’re probably not completely over).
If you want to be honest just tell her; if she dumps you she dumps you. If she asks you to quit then it’s your choice as to whether test or your new relationship is more important. You could go the HRT clinic route, but you’re not prescribed HRT now, so it would still be a lie. You could not tell her, but that would be deceptive. Exogenous testosterone could cause fertility issues and if she wants children in the future then she deserves to know that there could be a possibility you could be sterile because of your choices.
I am lucky, I was married for years before starting gear and talked with my wife frankly and honestly about it; she was and still is supportive.
I was checked out the 5th year of our relationship, I work away from home so typical issues that follow with that ensued. Tried to make it work but I had no give, so I can honestly say I’m over it.
Whoa, who said out of my league? lol I have history of very attractive female counter parts… luckily woman love humor and character over looks. But she is unreal beautiful in my opinion.
We have known each other for some time before we dated, I met her through work related circumstances and she had told me she doesn’t believe she can have kids and I’ve told her I don’t believe I can and neither of us are concerned with that.
I’m glad you found a supportive partner, I’m hoping this goes smooth as its rare I click with someone like this. I’m hoping for the best, I don’t plan on lying but offering I will go legitimate route if that helps my case at all.
I wouldn’t lie and say that I needed the test, that’s weak on 2 fronts. I’d just tell her, look, I’m using testosterone for personal and sports reasons. I want to be honest with you.
Exactly like you said to us without bringing up possible problems she could have with it. If you’re cool with it, she’s eventually going to be too. Don’t come in there expecting to make excuses. If you want to tell her, just tell her and that’s it.
I appreciate both and will end up just being up front. We have a trip planned in two weeks so it’ll probably be the best time to break it to her and at the end if we part ways we part ways
@lordgains honestly I was being a bit of a bitch about it, I asked and was at the end of my second night shift and had some drama at work going on about this situation so I apologize and honestly appreciate the feedback.
@FlatsFarmer no idea, havnt lifted heavy in over a month just getting technical perfection down.
The guy coaching me believes in leaving some in the tank so I’ve easily done 430 squat 320 bench and 500 dead. It’s steadily climbing obviously but all of those are probably around 90 percent max and I’m less than 2 years in.