[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
what if it cause me some side effects, or make my penis look ugly[/quote]
Good question. You do realize what creatine is, right? It’s a natural compound. You get creatine from simply eating meat. The key is to get straight creatine monohydrate with NOTHING else mixed in. If you do this, you will be fine.
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
is it gonna look fairer im afraid for it to may cause a tumor like look[/quote]
Neither my friends nor my cousin reported any issues with discoloration.
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
is it gonna look fairer im afraid for it to may cause a tumor like look[/quote]
Depends on how dark you are.
Creatine causes bleaching in the penile epidermal layer in 13% of the male population.
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
is it gonna look fairer im afraid for it to may cause a tumor like look[/quote]
So do you want your penis to look like Justin Beiber or The HULK?
[quote]dmaddox wrote:
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
is it gonna look fairer im afraid for it to may cause a tumor like look[/quote]
So do you want your penis to look like Justin Beiber or The HULK?[/quote]
That isn’t fair.
Beiber has been working out.
im afraid that it can cause a bumps on the shaft
Saiyan is right about everything. Let us know how it goes, many of us are interested in trying the same thing!
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
im afraid that it can cause a bumps on the shaft[/quote]
Girls like ridges.
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
im afraid that it can cause a bumps on the shaft[/quote]
Ribbed for her pleasure.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
im afraid that it can cause a bumps on the shaft[/quote]
Girls like ridges.[/quote]
Even is it doesn’t make your penis bigger, at least you got the ridges that’ll make up for the small size… Looks like a win-win situation to me.
Listen you have to have wood when you do the creatine thing so that it can get fully absorbed and fully utilize the surface area potential of the shaft. If you do it soft, the creatine might not get in the skin wrinkles and it will give it a pattern of bumps. Good luck convincing a chick you don’t have warts after that. Throw some beta-alanine crystals in the creatine mix too, that will increase blood flow.
[quote]theBeth wrote:
Listen you have to have wood when you do the creatine thing so that it can get fully absorbed and fully utilize the surface area potential of the shaft. If you do it soft, the creatine might not get in the skin wrinkles and it will give it a pattern of bumps. Good luck convincing a chick you don’t have warts after that. Throw some beta-alanine crystals in the creatine mix too, that will increase blood flow.[/quote]
You are pretty evil for (I presume) a chick. Nice thighs, though.
[quote]Grumpig Hunt wrote:
[quote]Facepalm_Death wrote:
squats[/quote]
OP, don’t listen to this guy. It’s an important equation of squats AND MILK; won’t work without both together.
And jelqing, no lube.[/quote]
That’s true. Look, I’m not trying to disseminate misinformation, milk is a necessary component of this type of training, however i thought this was automatically implied
And i believe jelqing w/ lube generally increases girth while jelqing w/o lube increases length
[quote]Facepalm_Death wrote:
That’s true. Look, I’m not trying to disseminate misinformation, milk is a necessary component of this type of training, however i thought this was automatically implied
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I thought it automatically implied things like…corks in bottles being popped…busted water mains…explosions…water geysers…
There’s a forum for that
[quote]super saiyan wrote:
[quote]cigano_23 wrote:
[quote]super saiyan wrote:
OP, ignore the trolls.
This is going to sound weird but trust me this works.
Get a condom and sprinkle 1-2 teaspoons of creatine in it. Wear the condom all day. Take it off when you got to sleep and repeat the next morning after your shower.
Do this 14 days in a row and you will see 1/2 - 3/4 inch of growth. Repeat this cycle until you get the desired length. I swear this works. Two of my friends and my cousin did this and all of them saw great results.
Good luck![/quote]
is this true?
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Yes. Look, I know a lot of people throw jokes around in these forums so it’s hard to know what to believe. Try it; you will NOT be disappointed.
Make sure you log your results. Measure every morning before you put the condom on. But make sure the conditions are the same. If you have morning wood on the first measurement, all subsequent measurements must be done with morning wood. Otherwise, the data will be skewed.
Don’t listen to the clowns in here. They will be jealous when you report your results.
Later bro.
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Wtf you can’t just sprinkle the powder in a condom. You CAN use the creatine ethyl ester liquid solutions. Or you have to get a special lube, which I believe can be found on BB.com, designed to dissolve creatine powder. The lubrication on most condoms won’t dissolve the standard creatine monohydrate formulation
[quote]Facepalm_Death wrote:
Wtf you can’t just sprinkle the powder in a condom. You CAN use the creatine ethyl ester liquid solutions. Or you have to get a special lube, which I believe can be found on BB.com, designed to dissolve creatine powder. The lubrication on most condoms won’t dissolve the standard creatine monohydrate formulation
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This is the main reason I don’t use condoms.
The child support can be a hassle…but at least this doesn’t happen.
4 pages and no one called me?
[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
some stuff[/quote]
A TTR sighting…
How’ve you been…
Saw this post several months back on the psychcentral.com forum. The original thread sounded a lot like the ones we used to see every month in SAMA, but this guy’s response was probably most straightforward I’ve ever seen. It’s a long read, but it seems like something that might be relevant here. I haven’t cross-checked his references. Apologies in advance if I missed fixing any of the thousand or so contractions.
This isn’t the kind of thread I normally post in, but how many of them have popped up in the past month or so? I can think of at least three. Typically, they deteriorate into sarcasm-filled troll hunts with the OP’s sincerity immediately called into question…and that’s just not my style even when I’m completely convinced that the thread was started just to get a rise out of other forum members. In this case though, I’m going to give TCB the benefit-of-the-doubt since the situation he’s describing is one that I personally can relate to. At any rate, the usual treatment such threads receive here doesn’t seem to do much to prevent similar ones from popping up, so I’m going to try a different approach - honest advice. If TCB’s intentions are genuine then perhaps what I have to say will be of some value, either to him or someone else.
First some news; some of it good, some of it bad…but all of it from the voice of experience (I’m in my early 50’s). The good news is that even as a male suffering from microphallus, some sympathy sex/curiosity sex/just plain old “being in the right place at the right time” sex will come your way early in your adult life (unless of course, you’re a complete jerk toward women). Accept it and enjoy it (responsibly, of course) if you’re so inclined, but don’t let yourself come to expect it…it certainly isn’t going to last forever (the “bad news” part). Sex - and more specifically, sex with the same woman on a regular basis - is not a right; it’s a privilege granted to those with the ability to provide for…or at the very least facilitate…that woman’s enjoyment of the experience and stimulate in her a reoccurring desire for it. From a practical standpoint, this means that - among other things - guys like TCB and I have to broaden our definition of what constitutes sex…both in what specific activities it might include, and also in which ones it often times might not.
Life isn’t always (or even usually) fair, and there is no “sex welfare” program. I don’t mean to sound cruel or heartless here, but how many paraplegics do you see on the rosters of professional sports teams? No…of course their condition (in most cases anyway) isn’t their fault, but that’s not my point. This however, is: in sex just as in sports, if you can’t perform…for whatever reason…your chances of “staying on the roster” (and sometimes even getting there in the first place) are pretty much nonexistent…unless you’re bringing something else of value to the table.
Right about now, I expect many readers (both male and female) who have never personally had to deal with the issues that male genitalia of truly inadequate proportions can cause in their sex life are beginning to compose their “size doesn’t matter” and “a relationship isn’t all about sex” responses. Hold those thoughts for a few more minutes and read on - you’re right on both counts…up to a point. Regarding male genital size, for physically and emotionally healthy couples whose genital dimensions fall anywhere within the “average” range (for American males, that would be 5.6" to 6.1" in length and 4.4" to 4.8" in circumference at full erection according to the Alfred C. Kinsey Institute for Sex Research at Indiana University), the capacity for mutual (though not necessarily simultaneous) orgasm during intercourse is actually fairly high - current data from several legitimate sexual research organizations place it at around 74%. Evidence in support of this lies in either or both individual’s ability to experience an orgasm in response to manual stimulation. Assuming of course that both such participants desire orgasm as an outcome, a consistently re-occurring failure for either person to achieve orgasm during intercourse points most often to a lack of patience, attraction, preparation, trust, conscientiousness, or skill. Even when the male’s genital proportions fall as much as 30% below the statistical mean for either length or girth, modifications to position, technique, and frequency will normally allow his healthy, well-adjusted partner to achieve orgasm during intercourse often enough to avoid the potential emotional damage to the relationship that can result from long-term sexual frustration. Since - according to the most recent Kinsey study - the erect dimensions of the penises of 90.7% of American adult males fall within that “average - plus or minus 30%” range, it’s understandable that the notion of a man’s penis size not being critically important to his partner’s sex life becomes believable on the surface…to the “average” person. It’s for guys like TCB and myself - whose penises fall well shy of those dimensional parameters - that the real problems emerge. In fact, if he’s being accurate about his length and girth measurements, then TCB and I both fall within the bottom .2% for American males. Put another way - statistically, out of every thousand adult men out there, 998 of them have significantly larger penises than we do. While that fact alone is pretty humbling, understanding the whole picture clearly (which I believe you must do in order to prevent it from ultimately consuming you and running whatever chance you might have for a successful relationship) requires coming to terms with several other facts that will probably seem harsher still. While sex certainly isn’t everything in a healthy relationship, it is an important aspect - one that is affected by, and just importantly, affects many others. In order to get a true understanding of the importance you personally place on sex in your life, consider your first, immediate response to the following question: How attractive does the concept of a sexless marriage sound to you?
While there are no exact values for penis length or girth that defines “too small” in all cases, there is a point with regard to those dimensions that defines “too small” for each individual woman, and those values can for the most part be defined by simple geometry.
For the untold thousands - men and women alike - who (although for very different reasons) just interrupted the anatomy & physiology lesson again by rising up and proclaiming in a single, great voice “Wait! There’s far more to great sex than nerve endings! What about trust? What about emotional attraction? What about romance?” …you folks are absolutely right too; all of those things are important. But for guys these days, those things represent little more than the price of being in the game to begin with - they are the ante that buys us a seat at the table and our first five cards…nothing more. Without those attributes, the question of adequate penis size is mostly moot, since men without them hardly ever find themselves in the position of removing their pants in the presence of their dates anyhow. Alone though, those attributes will not - and in fact cannot - carry the day…er, night in bed long-term; hundreds (if not thousands) of generations of social and psychological evolution, coupled with the effects of natural selection, have seen to that. The male physical characteristics that heterosexual women almost universally find attractive: slightly-to-moderately taller than themselves…solidly (but not overly) muscled with good body symmetry, balance, and posture…lean but not gaunt…healthy skin…and yes ladies, it’s ok to admit it - a penis that when erect, corresponds to their own perception and body-awareness of their maximum comfortable vaginal capacity…have been hard-wired into the female psyche over the passing millennia as indicators of their potential mate’s health, virility, and the ability to provide and protect. Up until roughly the last 200 years, finding a mate with those attributes was of prime importance for most women, since female physiology (particularly reproductive physiology) did not allow for the rigors of continuous, daily physical exertion requirements of hunting, particularly when the prey (or perhaps some other nearby but unseen beast) was likely also sizing them up as “dinner”. Maternally, women are likewise hard-wired to desire those same traits when selecting the father of their children. Why? Aside from the obvious - a desire for healthy children - a big part of it is also because they realize instinctively (even if not consciously), that life will be more difficult and less pleasurable for their male offspring should they not inherit those same traits. Now, back to “A&P 101 - Practical Applications” for a moment…
Regarding her anatomy, a woman’s clitoris has by far the greatest concentration of touch and pressure receptors…with the nipples of her breasts, her anal sphincter, the inguinal creases of her hips, her fingertips, the nape of her neck, etc., following a rather distant second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, and so on. No surprises here; we all learned this in high-school health class, right? Another bit of information oft-cited as fact - that beyond the first couple of inches, the concentration of pressure and touch receptors in a woman’s vaginal tract becomes pretty sparse (the exception being the Grafenberg cluster or “G-Spot” - a slightly raised, dime-sized area on the vagina’s anterior wall) - is also true, but this doesn’t mean that those areas lying deeper within the vagina and sown less densely with nerve endings aren’t important. They absolutely are important…but we’ll come back to that later.
So, if a man’s primary goal is to stimulate the woman’s clitoris during intercourse (and it should be, since nature has pretty much assured that practically anything we guys do in that regard is going to provide us with all the stimulus necessary for our own enjoyment), what determines which men can accomplish this easily, which ones have to work a lot harder and smarter to accomplish the same thing,…and which ones (like me) who - in the end - serve as proof that, despite what nearly every motivational speaker on earth would have you believe, some obstacles in life simply cannot be overcome with determination and a positive attitude? As I said earlier, a LOT of it is simple high-school (probably even middle-school these days) geometry. Quite likely, the ancient Greeks - who were among the first to define geometric relationships - understood it well (and even if their men did not, one can be absolutely certain that most ancient Greek women understood it perfectly). The anatomical features which make up the female genitalia come in a broad range of different shapes, sizes, and positions relative to each other. The relaxed “inside diameter” of a woman’s vagina, the tone of the muscles in her pelvic floor, and most importantly, the prominence of her clitoris and its distance from the anterior (front) wall of her vaginal opening are the key factors that determine just how “hung” her partner must to be in order for her to have a reasonable chance of receiving the clitoral stimulation necessary for her to achieve orgasm during intercourse. Generally speaking, the more penile girth her partner has the less length he needs, simply due to the fact that a fatter penis deforms the anterior wall of a woman’s vagina more extensively in the direction of her clitoris, shortening the distance to it. A thick penis can therefore effectively stimulate the woman’s clitoris with a more direct insertion angle relative to that of her vaginal canal. Assuming the same vagina/clitoris positional relationship, a thinner penis must make up the distance necessary for effective stimulation of the clitoris by way of increasing the relative angle of insertion. But without sufficient penile length to allow the woman’s posterior (rear) vaginal wall to retain his penis securely inside her body during movement at such angles, there will be a tendency for the man’s penis to exert uncomfortable (often very much so) pressure on the woman’s perineum (the proper anatomical term for the area commonly referred to as “taint” in the current slang vernacular), or worse yet, his penis will tend to come out of her vagina all together, breaking the rhythm…and quite often the passion of the moment…as it does so. Refining position and technique (such as the Coital Alignment Technique, which was popularized in the 1970’s and is enjoying something of a resurgence today) will help to lessen or alleviate some of these potential problems so long as the man has some balance of penile length and girth that falls close to whatever minimum that his partner’s anatomy requires. But for the guys (again, like me) who are both “really short” and “really thin”, even those techniques are still ultimately just a frustrating waste of time. We are much better served by putting that effort into developing the skills necessary to please a woman in other ways.
…Which brings us back to the “size doesn’t matter” fallacy. The concept that the size of a man’s erect penis has no real bearing on his ability to facilitate a woman’s orgasm during intercourse is part and parcel of nearly every “how-to” sex therapy book to be found in every library or bookstore. It is practically a foundation principle of every “great sex” seminar presented by every “nationally renowned expert” on the subject. And, it’s a load of crap. Why then do so many people espouse such an illogical and unsupportable position, and why are most efforts to foster objective dialog on the subject met with such resistance? Apart from the profit disruption such clarity and objectivity would cause to the counseling industry, the main reason can be summed up in single (though different for each gender) word. For males, that word is desperation (for women, that word is compassion…but again, more about this later). The vast majority of men for whom it is truly relevant prefer clinging to the myth rather than accepting the facts because the myth supports hope. It’s a false hope, but that rarely matters where hope is concerned.
Yes, a big part of sexual desire and satisfaction is “between the ears”…but this fact actually does far more to validate my point that it does to dispute it. Consider: if size doesn’t matter, how is it that you never hear that position taken whenever and wherever women speak frankly and casually among themselves about the subject? If size doesn’t matter, how is it that you never find considerate, romantic men…with short, thin penises…written as male lead characters in chick-lit romance novels? The reason is a simple one - such a story wouldn’t sell. Women (who make up well over 90% of the audience for such literature) would have no interest whatsoever in reading it, since such a man represents no women’s sexual fantasy. Just as it is with men, a woman’s true primal desires are most evident in her dreams and fantasies. If penis size truly doesn’t matter to women…why then, are there are no three-inch dildos…but an endless number of models for sale measuring 8-plus inches?
I’ll conclude the anatomy-related part of this post by explaining the importance of those touch and pressure sensitive nerve endings located deeper within a woman’s vagina. I apologize in advance for using so many clinical terms, but this would be difficult to explain without get a bit technical. As I mentioned earlier, yes…there are fewer of those nerve endings in the deeper areas of a woman’s vagina compared to her other erogenous zones, but they can play a very significant role in a her sexual response. By now we’re probably all aware that female sexual arousal occurs along a complex curve; more like a rheostat-controlled dimmable overhead light (albeit one that often seems to be operating with an intermittent short somewhere in the circuit) than the simple “on or off nightstand lamp” analogy that serves so well for us males. This isn’t a bad thing (after all, foreplay is FUN!), but it’s important to understand that sexual arousal is most often a progression of stages for females. While they are certainly capable of that same sort of instantaneous “That was SOOOO hot! I’ve got to have you…NOW!” reaction we guys feel so often, it happens a lot more rarely for them. During the final third of a woman’s normal arousal curve when her limbic system senses that vaginal penetration is likely, her uterus ascends up into her abdominal cavity up to 4 inches, effectively doubling the length of her vaginal canal and thereby making room for a penis of average to moderately above average length. Her vaginal walls thicken and begin to secrete the mucous that provides lubrication during intercourse. Also…and most relevant to my point, the neural synapses along the clitoral pudendal nerve - the most important and active of the three neural pathways which carry sensory impulses from her clitoris, Grafenberg cluster (“G-spot”), and vaginal wall to her spinal column and then on to the neural pleasure center located in her hypothalamus - undergo an important biochemical change. Obviously, the efficiency with which this nerve bundle conducts the impulses sent through it has a big effect on the strength and duration of the orgasm a woman experiences. Ok, pay close attention from here on, because things get a bit more technical…
This clitoral pudendal nerve bundle passes directly over and through the vaginal tissue that elongates during the final phase of sexual arousal. Neuroscience has known for some decades now that when impulses are continuously transmitted along a nerve fiber for an extended period of time (in this case, “extended” means any amount of time longer than a few seconds), the chemical neurotransmitter that initially facilitates electrical movement across the nerve synapses, acetylcholine, is gradually replaced by the slightly slower-acting but much more electrically efficient neurotransmitter norepinephrine. Norepinephrine not only transmits the nerve signal across the neural synapse, but also serves to amplify the signal as it does so. This is primarily a sensory nervous system “failsafe safety feature” with regard to pain impulses resulting from tissue damage; for instance, you don’t need your body being able to “ignore” the pain caused by say…walking on a broken ankle (at least not easily). In regard to female orgasmic response, this gradual amplification of the nerve impulses from a woman’s clitoris and G-spot is very important - if not crucial - to her ability to experience the deep, throbbing, extended-duration “whole body” orgasm that most women covet and characterize as a “vaginal” orgasm during intercourse. Without the nerve impulse amplification made possible by direct stimulation of those touch and pressure receptors located deeper in her vagina (by vibrator, dildo…or, more to the point…a penis of sufficient dimensions) reaching such an orgasm becomes difficult if not impossible for most women.
Now, lest someone attempt to argue that the female preference (physical and emotional) for large…or at least adequate…penis size is somehow a recent social phenomenon, let me direct your attention to this verse from the old testament of the Bible, written some 2600 years ago:
There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. Ezekiel 23:20
Some will point out that Ezekiel wrote this as descriptive metaphor for the Israelite’s complaining about living conditions in the desert during their forty year Exodus, but if anything, this fact strengthens my point even further - for such a bitter metaphor to be both generally understood and effective, the female preference for large male penises and copious ejaculate volume had to have been well-settled and long since solidly entrenched in the social mindset of the day.
So then, do knowledge, skill, patience (or occasionally a lustful, passionate lack of it), along with a sincere desire to please a woman count for anything? Of course they do! A callous, disrespectful, selfish jerk isn’t going to get a second chance in the sack with most women regardless of how perfectly proportioned his genitals are…but while her mate having a penis of sufficient size is by no means the only thing required to consistently please a woman during intercourse, any possible logic-guided perspective on the subject leads to the inevitable conclusion that it is a necessary thing. Itâ??s a lot like carpentry - having a Masters in Architectural Engineering from Cal Tech (a terrific AE school, by the way) means nothing if you don’t also have a hammer; without one you personally can’t build even a dog house.
Before proceeding any further, it is important that the reader understand a very important point: Instincts form, develop, reside, and most importantly, influence behavior from a person’s subconscious, and often have few if any conscious associative connections. In other words, a person may display an instinctual response (either emotional or physical), to a situation while being totally unaware of its cause and unable to rationalize or validate that response with their conscious values.
As hollow-sounding (and ultimately destructive) as the idea that a man’s penis size isn’t a factor in her pleasure during intercourse turns out to be when viewed objectively, it actually has its roots in his mate’s compassionate intentions. One of the most obvious ways in which the female psyche differs from that of males is in the strength of its innate drive to nurture and protect the young. This parental instinct permeates almost every aspect of a woman’s behavior in some way or another. It can be temporarily suppressed for a time, only to re-assert itself more strongly later (witness the “ticking biological clock” syndrome that stresses many childless women in their 30’s and early 40s). Once acknowledged and engaged, these instincts create in women a strong desire to protect and guide not only her own offspring, but also other children within the reach of her influence…which in no small part accounts for why over 85% of elementary school educators are female. When a woman attempts to lovingly assure her undersized mate that “size isn’t important”…that his penis is “plenty big enough” for her and that it “felt wonderful” inside her, she is extending to him the same tolerance and emotional shielding that she would likewise extend to a pre-pubescent child who just created a birthday card for her on the bedroom wall…using permanent markers. To those genitally-challenged men still early in their marriages who are beginning to suspect…but are not quite ready to fully accept…this conclusion, I challenge you to learn a bit about the science of body language and human facial and voice patterns in response to stress (the science is conclusive and there are plenty of well-written books available on the subject). Then, objectively observe your mate as she handles some situation similar to the one above, and again when she tells you have “everything she needs”. The similarities will be both clear and unmistakable. Psychologists refer to such instinct-driven variations in how we respond to and interact with other people based on perceived-yet-uncontrollable factors (age or level of maturity, for example) as attributional bias. The same forces are at work whenever we assume that a “baby-faced” adult lacks the necessary skill or experience to handle some complex task.
The simple truth of the matter is that her subconscious - the same part of her mind that is unbounded by and does not acknowledge time…the one that allows her to experience an entire “all day” dream during the five-minute span between snooze-button alarms before getting out of bed in the morning - tells her that shielding you from her disappointment is the proper course of action while she waits on you to “grown up”, i.e., mature sufficiently to be held accountable for your behavior…or in this case, your performance during sex. Remember, on the scale of human history, it was only about 30 seconds ago that the point at which a man “came of age”…and assumed the various rights and responsibilities that it entailed…began to be defined by any criteria other than the outward physical signs - genital maturation prominently among them - of completed puberty, and it was under those earlier social structures that nearly all female instincts developed.
…And almost to a man, we males of “questionable genital stature” want nothing more than to believe our mates when they tell us this, since on the front end it’s less painful than accepting the real truth - that ever being the object of our wives’/girlfriend’s/date’s most primal, instinctual sexual desires…and all the unique experiences that come with that…will forever be beyond our reach. Much like the character Cypher in this clip from the movie The Matrix, most men in our situation prefer blissful self delusion, finding it more comfortable to go on believing the lie that…under the right conditions…1 plus 1 can actually equal the 6 to 7 their mates actually need…if they could only find the right combination of technique, position, and ambiance.
The problem is that in this case, such desperation-spawned self delusion is not only useless and frustrating, it’s also potentially dangerous.
So what are us guys cursed by “unfortunate genetics” in the genital department to do? First, accept and come to terms with the reality of your situation. You got screwed over by Mother Nature, bro; you have to first accept that fact before you can ever learn to deal with it. And learning to deal with it IS very important, since a 2009 study conducted by the Kinsey Institute found that the leading cause of death among men 30 years of age and older who have been clinically diagnosed with microphallus is suicide. Understanding and accepting the situation as it really is rather than wasting a big portion of your life in what is ultimately a futile attempt to convince yourself otherwise goes a long way toward keeping the barrel of the gun out of your mouth and your finger off the trigger.
Some very unfair, but nonetheless iron-clad truths you’re going to have to get used to:
Compared to the better-hung guy next to you, you’re going to have to work a lot harder, be a much better provider, be smarter, funnier, kinder, more considerate, and a lot more polished socially. You’re going to have to keep yourself in a lot better overall physical shape. And, you’ll have to be a lot more creative and willing in the sack. You’re going to have to become a LOT more skilled with your lips, tongue, and fingers than those “other” guys. You have no excuse…not to mention no real option…other than to become competent at the arts of massage, cunnilingus, fingering, and breast play. And, if you happen to be one of those men who’s ego “has a problem” with your lady’s interest in vibrators and other pleasure toys, you have two options: get past that antiquated point-of-view quickly and permanently…or accept the fact you very likely represent the final stem on your particular branch of the ol’ family tree. Granted, a lot of the things I mentioned above can be quite pleasurable for you too and would be well worth doing under any circumstances, but the over-riding point here is that just as a blind person has to pay a lot more attention to details in order to have anything remotely like the quality of life that most sighted people take for granted, holding your woman’s sexual interest long-term is going to require more from you than it would from a man with a more average-sized penis.
This leads to point #2: You must realize that you…or more specifically your sex life if you’re going to have one on any sort of consistent, long-term basis…will always be running to stay ahead of a two-headed predator that you can never kill. You have no way to “play offense” here; a good defense is your only viable option. The predator I’m referring to is - in equal parts - your mate’s own curiosity…and also time itself. If Point #1 was about ‘waking up and smelling the reality’ with regard to your own situation, then this one is about understanding and coming to terms with a couple of hard-edged facts about your mate. Inevitably, some people will mistake what I say next as sexist or critical of women; it’s actually anything but. Despite how some might try to interpret the following data at first glance, women as-a-whole are not pre-disposed to slutty behavior. The inevitable few exceptions not withstanding, the vast majority of women who enter into committed relationships do so fully expecting that they - as well as their mates - will be faithful. How then, to account for the results of a pair of current studies that show almost 17% of married women admitting (anonymously, of course) that they’ve had a sexual encounter outside of their marriage within the past five years? And while it’s not rocket science to predict that the actual percentage might even be a bit higher, even more telling is the next bit of data from those same two studies (one conducted by MSNBC; the other by the University of Maryland’s Department of Psychology). Over one-third (33.5% in one study and 35.2% in the other) of current and previously married women surveyed admitted that they had cheated sexually at some point while married.
While eye-opening on its own, the relevance of these studies to the issue-at-hand only becomes clear when the following additional data from them is considered: Among these women who admitted having cheated sexually during their marriages, nearly 74% listed sexual frustration/dissatisfaction in their marriage as the reason for their infidelity. (For those interested in such data, the next-most-common reason given was revenge against a cheating spouse at 16%, the third-most-common reason was boredom at 4%). One has to wonder then, how many of those women who listed sexual dissatisfaction as their primary reason for cheating in their marriages were married to men of inadequate penile size? Certainly not all; there are plenty of callous, insensitive, egotistical…but well-hung…cads out there (chances are, your mate could name at least one right now), just as there are no-doubt a significant number of “unfortunately-sized” men among the husbands of the roughly 66% of married women who have never been unfaithful…but there is no real need to split hairs here; the preponderance of the evidence makes the relevant point crystal clear: while nearly all women start their marriages with a strong resolve to be faithful to their husbands, over time an unfulfilling sex life is one of the most reliable ways to erode that resolve. Add to this the reality that in today’s world, everything from social expectations to current popular culture as well as her own body’s responses exert some degree of never-ending pressure on her to answer for herself the question of “what would it (‘it’ specifically being sex with that tall, ruggedly handsome guy in her dreams sporting eight thick, hard inches) really feel like?” The cold, hard mathematical fact of the matter is this: as a married-but poorly-endowed male, if you don’t make it a point to care for and reinforce in some way your wife’s resolve to remain faithful to your relationship every single day, the odds that she will at some point stray outside your relationship for an answer to that question are roughly 1 in 2…and perhaps greater. Left unanswered and un-addressed (for whatever reason), that question…that curiosity…that fantasy…will always be there in her mind; whispering. Whispers are easy enough to ignore in the beginning, but a whisper always seems louder when all else is silent…and the power of persistence cannot be overstated here. In the battle between the rock and the stream, given sufficient time…which one always wins?
Point #3 is one that runs contrary to the “wisdom” usually found in most “advice for guys” columns…but one that has been seconded by every woman who has ever voiced her opinion to me on the subject. While it’s absolutely true that nearly every heterosexual woman is drawn to masculine confidence, it is also equally true that such women are likewise turned off when they feel that they’ve been the victim of “bait and switch” tactics. If you’re old enough to be out of high school, youâ??ve got little chance these days of convincing a woman that you don’t have a pretty good idea of how your erect penis measures up against those of most other men. And unless that woman happens to be a virgin, after her first glance at the (your) goods, she’s going to have a pretty good idea about how physically fulfilling the rest of her evening is likely to be should any sexual activities therein be limited to intercourse alone. Even if you have successfully developed those “additional” skills I referred to earlier, her irritation at the idea of having been “played” - if indeed she feels that she is there due to false pretenses - will make it tough for you to succeed with her to the extent that she ever gives you another shot. I’m not saying that you need to wear a big flashing neon “I have a really small cock” sign around your neck; just be certain that you don’t - intentionally or inadvertently - send the opposite message. Plainly put, don’t write checks with your words, attitude, and appearance that your penis can’t cash. Doing so with today’s women is just as bad an idea as passing a real bad check would be - the “penalties and fees” your reputation suffers for such behavior far outweigh tonight’s short-term gain. Leave the overtly Type-A “I should be a model for Ralph Lauren” attitude and behavior to the guys who can actually back it up. As much as it sucks, this is one part of life where the old saying “rank hath its privileges” really does apply.
Among the readers who have made it this far, I’m fairly sure that there are at least a few who are now getting ready to point out the fact that it is possible for a man to have “too much of a good thing”, and you folks are right too. Just as there is no way to define penile dimensions that are “too small” in every case, there are no single universal values for “too big”. Going back one final time to the data compiled in the 2009 Kinsey Institute study, a significant number of American women (just over 40%) reported feeling “some physical discomfort” during sexual intercourse when the penises of their partners exceeded 8.5 inches in length or 7.5 inches in girth. Guys who find themselves pitching that large of a tent under the sheets when they wake up in the morning should take extra care to make sure that their partner is fully aroused, relaxed, and ready for penetration before intercourse. They should also be prepared to use positions and techniques that do not emphasize depth of penetration, and understand that from their mate’s point of view, enjoyable, pain-free sex is a lot like real estate: the three most important words are “lubrication, lubricationâ?¦and lubrication”. If you’re hung like a porn star, then consider these things as simply - to quote William Shakespeare - part of “the weight of the crown that rests heavy on the brow of the king”.
One final, kind-of-related thing:
For the love of God…parents, if you care anything about them at all, keep your children - particularly male children - as far away as possible from foods containing soy-based proteins beginning at least 36 months before, and continuing all the way through, puberty. Soy metabolizes into a form of estrogen which has an even greater affinity for the androgenic tissue growth receptors in the maturing male body than testosterone does. Apart from of the genes you pass on to your son (which are for the most part out of your control), there is no other factor with more potential to short-circuit his genital development than the ingestion of soy-based foods. The safest policy is to avoid feeding your children soy based foods altogether unless there is a specific medical reason to do so and even then only by order of their pediatrician.
Hang in there, TCB. I know your pain; I’ve been where you are now for over 30 years. Nothing you can do will ever completely alleviate the stress you’re going to feel about this over your lifetime, but you can lessen that stress somewhat by accepting the truth about your circumstances earlier than later, and living your life accordingly. I’m in my 50’s, and I wish someone had shared all this with me at your age. Can’t say for certain that I’d have listened back then…but knowing what I know now, it would have been nice to have had the chance.