Depending on how recent it was just try to casually bring up the night or two in question and see what she says she was doing. This has already been mentioned I think. You are in a pretty tough spot right now.
Also if a man and a woman live there, how will you learn very much of anything from knocking on the door at this point. If they have a house phone you could always call the number and ask for the woman and if someone says she doesn’t live there then you might have a problem. Also is it possible that this couple has kids and she is babysitting?
Dude just ask her straight up. Quit being a douche. If she loves you she will be straight with you. If not then you are doomed.
My guess, you are DOOMED!!!
It seems odd that your fiance spent the night somewhere else twice and you didn’t know about it. I mean you guys talk or text every day don’t you? It just seems like something that would have come up during the course of normal conversation.
Threesome.
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Threesome.[/quote]
Yeah there is that. And agreed as to how this overnighter never came up in casual conversation.
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Threesome.[/quote]
Shhhh, don’t say that too loud. Push might hear you.
[quote]super saiyan wrote:
It seems odd that your fiance spent the night somewhere else twice and you didn’t know about it. I mean you guys talk or text every day don’t you? It just seems like something that would have come up during the course of normal conversation.
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I saw her at your house the other night SS. You need to come clean about your affair.
Start dating Taylor Swift.
You’d be perfect for each other.
[quote]dmaddox wrote:
[quote]super saiyan wrote:
It seems odd that your fiance spent the night somewhere else twice and you didn’t know about it. I mean you guys talk or text every day don’t you? It just seems like something that would have come up during the course of normal conversation.
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I saw her at your house the other night SS. You need to come clean about your affair. [/quote]
I’m sorry, it was me. I’m so ashamed!!!
I don’t want to be negative and am actually surprised that some people are coming in and defending you, op. The T-Nation I remember would have seen you flamed for starting a thread like this. Not saying it’s a bad thing, but your peers are being pretty tame compared to what I used to regularly see here. Not what I was expecting.
I’m going to reiterate what others have said and say that if you are doing all this, you probably aren’t ready to be getting married, yet. If you have trust issues, regardless of what the cause is (your own internal issues or her doing things that cause it) it’s not a good idea to enter into a planned-to-be life-long bond in which trust is supposed to be one of the pillars. Just my 2 cents, for what it’s worth, from some random guy on the internet.
I love being 19
[quote]chobbs wrote:
I love being 19[/quote]
enjoy it man, that shit don’t last forever
your missus is probably cheating on you because you’re the kind of weirdo freak who’d use GPS to follow her like the creepiest fucking spy in existence.
[quote]adamhum wrote:
If I knock on the door and it’s her friend, she will tell my fiance and I won’t be able to explain it. I could have someone else do it…but who? haha…
I actually called a private detective and they couldn’t help me because it’s a liability. I just need to know who all lives there. [/quote]
Do you have a buddy that could pose as a Jehova’s witness? It’s not like he has any explaining to do because the door will shut as soon as he introduces himself.
[quote]chobbs wrote:
I love being 19[/quote]
Internet high five bro.
OP, I honestly have no idea how you resolve this at this point. You have painted yourself into a corner and you have done so through some pretty dubious if not outright illegal means. Seems like a measure of poetic justice to me that you should end up with this information that really does nothing for you except drive you crazy (possibly over nothing, possibly not).
I want to ask you, did it seem like a reasonable course of action to you to covertly place a tracking device on your fiance’s car? Serious question. I can tell you if someone was tracking the movements of a woman whom I cared about without her knowledge or consent, I would be seriously considering swinging by this guy’s place to have a little conversation (I actually do mean “conversation” here) about creepy stalker behaviour. The number of red flags this would send up for me is significant.
You may very well be a good dude who just has some trust issues but this would just not sit well with me at all. Just because it’s quasi-legal doesn’t mean it isn’t creepy.
That’s the part which kills me…how come these overnighters never came into the conversations?
So should I straight up ask her and just let the chips fall where they may? I already mentioned a friend neighbor saw her…
I keep thinking “what if the GPS malfunctioned?” and i’m cutting my own throat…but how could the GPS malfunction three times to the exact same address?
How long have you known her? And how long have you been dating? And why don’t you know who her friends are seems to be things you might know of your getting married to her.
This is why the op will not leave her.