Got Dumped

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

Don’t get into the habit of being shit at school either.[/quote]

You can be shit at school.

However, you cannot be shit at life.

So, if you forever forgo the option of sliming your way into a corporate job, you have kind of let go of the rock.

Your mileage may vary. [/quote]
I just said that because the OP is in school.[/quote]

Does it matter why you said it?

A degree is a valuable thing, no doubt, but there are a lot of people out there who carved their niche out of nothing without one.

However those never stopped learning, degrees be dammed. [/quote]
Yeah it indicates the kind of conversation I want to have.

Most definitely.[/quote]

Does that mean that it matters to you because you want to know why to stay in school?[/quote]
What? No.

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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Gf of 2.5 years just recently left me. I was an avid lifter before I met her. I was only 17 at the time but I was in love with lifting weights. Anyways eventually once college came I had to choose between her or lifting. I chose her like an idiot and she left me about a month ago. I’m in the worst shape of my life but began lifting about a couple of weeks ago.

I’ve never been so motivated in my life to get into the BEST possible shape I can be. Anyone else have similar stories?[/quote]

What have you learned from your experience and how do you plan to change your level of self respect?

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[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Gf of 2.5 years just recently left me. I was an avid lifter before I met her. I was only 17 at the time but I was in love with lifting weights. Anyways eventually once college came I had to choose between her or lifting. I chose her like an idiot and she left me about a month ago. I’m in the worst shape of my life but began lifting about a couple of weeks ago.

I’ve never been so motivated in my life to get into the BEST possible shape I can be. Anyone else have similar stories?[/quote]

What have you learned from your experience and how do you plan to change your level of self respect?
[/quote]

Man where do I begin haha. This girl was basically my life and I didn’t even know how vulnerable I really was. I blame this due to the lack of experience. When she left I was so shocked that I began having blurred vision. Instead of becoming a depressed pu*sy I have decided to become a stronger version of myself. I’ll be attending medical school in two years so I have a lot to motivated for. I can’t wait to post on this forum 8 momths from now with before and after pics.

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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Gf of 2.5 years just recently left me. I was an avid lifter before I met her. I was only 17 at the time but I was in love with lifting weights. Anyways eventually once college came I had to choose between her or lifting. I chose her like an idiot and she left me about a month ago. I’m in the worst shape of my life but began lifting about a couple of weeks ago.

I’ve never been so motivated in my life to get into the BEST possible shape I can be. Anyone else have similar stories?[/quote]

What have you learned from your experience and how do you plan to change your level of self respect?
[/quote]

Man where do I begin haha. This girl was basically my life and I didn’t even know how vulnerable I really was. I blame this due to the lack of experience. When she left I was so shocked that I began having blurred vision. Instead of becoming a depressed pu*sy I have decided to become a stronger version of myself. I’ll be attending medical school in two years so I have a lot to motivated for. I can’t wait to post on this forum 8 momths from now with before and after pics. [/quote]
Nice.

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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:

[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
FIRST!!

Uhh no but why would you need to stop lifting becuase you got a girlfriend? My advice is 1) Eat 1-2g per lb of protien 2) Go to the gym 3 ) Go to the strip club 4) Next time you get a GF dont be a turd[/quote]

Well I was terrible at time management. I would go to class, work, study, and the remaining time I would hang out with her. Never
Felt as much pain in my life as I experienced when she left me.

As you can see I really let myself go

That pic doesn’t look that bad…hit the gym and try not to be such a bitch… @ 23 you should partying & having fun not suckin on a shoty cuz of some chick u won’t remember in 10yrs

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[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:

[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:

[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
FIRST!!

Uhh no but why would you need to stop lifting becuase you got a girlfriend? My advice is 1) Eat 1-2g per lb of protien 2) Go to the gym 3 ) Go to the strip club 4) Next time you get a GF dont be a turd[/quote]

Well I was terrible at time management. I would go to class, work, study, and the remaining time I would hang out with her. Never
Felt as much pain in my life as I experienced when she left me.

As you can see I really let myself go

That pic doesn’t look that bad…hit the gym and try not to be such a bitch… @ 23 you should partying & having fun not suckin on a shoty cuz of some chick u won’t remember in 10yrs
[/quote]

I’m 162lbs 5’10 right now. Pretty much a stick hahaha

Found an old pic of myself before I met my ex of when I was 193lbs. This pic was taken right before I went on my cut.

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Your ‘‘intense sadness’’ is normal…and there is one sure cure, the only cure,
and that is TIME.

Sorry man, there are no shortcuts…Love doesn’t hurt when it’s gone, it hurts
because it’s still there…you’ll come out stronger on the other end.
And don’t ask me any more questions, what am I, Dear Fuckin’ Abby?
:wink:

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TIME, find a more interesting hotter chick that works out 2. Problem solved. Makes you a stronger man and also not 2 put poonanay on the pedestal.Rule numero uno.

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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Thanks for the advice. How do i move on from this break up? I keep having moments of intense sadness.
[/quote]

We’ve all been through it, if that helps. (Well, maybe not all but most of us.) It is part of life. It is okay to mope for a while, but also try to have goals (such as getting in shape).

Just take it a day at a time.

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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Man where do I begin haha. This girl was basically my life and I didn’t even know how vulnerable I really was. I blame this due to the lack of experience. When she left I was so shocked that I began having blurred vision. Instead of becoming a depressed pu*sy I have decided to become a stronger version of myself. I’ll be attending medical school in two years so I have a lot to motivated for. I can’t wait to post on this forum 8 momths from now with before and after pics. [/quote]

Your answer should be: I realized I am a man and that my passions are more important than a woman who’s gonna try to take them away. Only when I focus on my passions can I find a woman who loves me for who I am. I will focus on bettering myself and not worrying about what someone else wants me to do.

You’re on the right track though.

Hey man listen, I was in the same position you’re in (me and basically everyone else) and I can tell you that NOW, a few years later, I am SOOOOOO happy that me and my ex broke up. Now I have a hot black chick who cooks me steaks, gives me massages, shakes her ass for me randomly, etc. etc. Haha.

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I believe this is the first time that the old SAMA advice “grow a pair,eat a stake and deadlift” is 100% spot on.

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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:

[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:

[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Gf of 2.5 years just recently left me. I was an avid lifter before I met her. I was only 17 at the time but I was in love with lifting weights. Anyways eventually once college came I had to choose between her or lifting. I chose her like an idiot and she left me about a month ago. I’m in the worst shape of my life but began lifting about a couple of weeks ago.

I’ve never been so motivated in my life to get into the BEST possible shape I can be. Anyone else have similar stories?[/quote]

What have you learned from your experience and how do you plan to change your level of self respect?
[/quote]

Man where do I begin haha. This girl was basically my life and I didn’t even know how vulnerable I really was. I blame this due to the lack of experience. When she left I was so shocked that I began having blurred vision. Instead of becoming a depressed pu*sy I have decided to become a stronger version of myself. I’ll be attending medical school in two years so I have a lot to motivated for. I can’t wait to post on this forum 8 momths from now with before and after pics. [/quote]

Do it!

I have a similar story for you. A serious relationship ended awhile ago (mutual breakup). She actually liked me training, but after the breakup, I really found I started to love training and threw myself into it. Right now, a couple of years later, I think that breakup was the best thing that could ever have happened to me.

I’m still single, but happier than ever. In that time, I’ve gone from being a young single dad with a substance problem who dropped out of school to work to support the fam, to someone completely different. Powerlifting helped me overcome my substance issues like nothing else, and it’s something I’m very passionate about. I’m well down the road to achieving my goal of getting into one of the most competitive med schools in the country (I’ve actually received offers from a few places, but I have my heart set on a specific one). I’ve built some really great friendships in that time. I’ve cleaned up my diet tremendously. I just competed in my first powerlifting meet and took first in my weight class. I’m currently in the process of planning 3 different vacations. I still haven’t met that special someone, but you don’t need to be with someone to be happy. Life is REALLY fucking good right now. And it’s even sweeter because I worked to make it happen.

BTW, right now the girl hasn’t accomplished much, but I honestly wish her the best. Mostly because I want a good future for our kid.

Moral of the story: If I can do it, so can you! Keep your chin up and your eye on the goal, and don’t be afraid to work for your dreams because you can accomplish it. And keep lifting! It’s a great hobby that’s all about self-improvement. If a girl doesn’t like you lifting, she’s not interested in you being the best version of yourself. Dump that bitch :slight_smile:

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The title of this thread shouldn’t be “Got Dumped”, the title should be “Been Liberated”.

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[quote]niksamaras wrote:
I believe this is the first time that the old SAMA advice “grow a pair,eat a stake and deadlift” is 100% spot on.[/quote]

ahh the old deadlift my second favorite exercise right next to the king of gains the squat

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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
The title of this thread shouldn’t be “Got Dumped”, the title should be “Been Liberated”.[/quote]

I’ll say… she did him a huge favor. One thing you can do without is a clingy woman. My 1st wife was a psychopath. I felt totally reborn when I got that monkey off my back. Not a shred of remorse or regret.

Rob

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Just got diagnosed with a herniated disk and to top it all off my ex filed a frivolous restraining order against me. Does anyone know how long it can take to recover from a herniated disk as a lifter? I know the doctor told me it will prob take about 4-6 weeks for the pain to go away doing regular activities but didn’t give me any time table to for lifting.

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[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
FIRST!!

Uhh no but why would you need to stop lifting becuase you got a girlfriend? My advice is 1) Eat 1-2g per lb of protien 2) Go to the gym 3 ) Go to the strip club 4) Next time you get a GF dont be a turd[/quote]

  1. First! Is gay
  2. you’re second
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[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
my ex filed a frivolous restraining order against me
[/quote]

Oh?

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tell us about this “frivolous” restraining order you stalker you.

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[quote]StevenF wrote:
tell us about this “frivolous” restraining order you stalker you. [/quote]

Stalker? hahaha
I lent her money a few months prior to pay her rent. I worked very hard for that money and had to skip meals just so she can have a roof over her head. Once all the sadness passed I began to feel a bit angry and resentful. I mean how could she take my money and not pay me back like she promised? Nevertheless I had all the evidence I need to take her ass to court.

Anyways once I threatened to take her to court some how her life felt threatened. Any female can file an emergency protective order without any evidence but in order for it to be permanent she must have evidence to support her claim after the initial emergency period. It got thrown out today because it was “frivolous”. And a small courts claim was filed. After all this i’m glad she’ll be out of my life soon.