Did somebody mention breast feeding??? (That’s an inside joke for those who’ve been here a few years)
That was a well said post, Entheogens.
[quote]entheogens wrote:
dza1978 wrote:
theres something a lil weird about breastfeeding a child until theyre 3 imo
i just about choked on my chicken breast reading that.
What’s weird about it? In traditional cultures, the women breastfeed their children until they are 3,4 or even 5.
I have read studies that suggest their may be an increase in IQ. Also I think that the improvement in immune system of breastfed babies has been verified. Another things is that you don’t have all of those damn messy bottles to clean.
It’s too bad that we in the West think that there is something weird about breastfeeding children more than a couple of months. Unfortunately the trend is changing even in more traditional cultures as people get “HIP” from multinationals beaming commercials into their homes telling them that forumula is HEALTHIER than breast milk. Nestle mounted one such campaign in the Philippines and my understanding is that it wreaked havoc.
THAT IS SAD in my book.
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After teeth is weird. Supplements are superior to food in many ways, and I can see how, because it comes from a breast, milk might be perceived as magical, but there’s nothing untouchable about breast milk. Half the things that make it great, also make it horrible (i.e. there’s no consistency in nutrient content, AT ALL).
I think every kid should get breast milk, but there’s plenty of idiocy on the pro-breast milk side too. At your local drug store, there is space dedicated to EFA supplements for expectant mothers. These are the same EFAs that are put DIRECTLY INTO the formula.
How a one gram pill, diluted in the volume of my wife, is as effective as the two grams that go straight into my baby’s mouth is beyond me.
Agoge: Spartan boys began training at 7 years old.
how old will your son be when he begins his training?
lol
Congrats.
I’m no father, but I watched both my sister and brother have children of their own adn I must admit, I am so glad that I am not going to go through that shit.
All they do in the first 8 months or so is cry, eat, sleep, shit, cry, eat, sleep, shit, cry, scream, cry, eat, shit, scream, sleep, cry…
I thought my sister was going to have a fucking nervous breakdown. She had a screamer, all he did when he was awake was scream and cry. I had to watch him a few times and all I could think to myself is “I’m NEVER having kids. EVER.”
Good luck though. I hear that once you get past the whole not ever sleeping anymore thing that kids can be great. I won’t ever know though.
Congradulations my good man, as disconnected as the internet is… i wish you and yours a very happy child and life together.
I’m not a father, but I am a mother 
I don’t know why you would have to stop training…I(like a lot of other moms out there) was back in the gym two weeks after…
And not all babies cry that much 
The only thing that might change is how much support your wife will need, especially in the beginning…if she doesn’t train/work out, she might get jealous of your leaving to go train…But you have about 6 months left to talk things out!
Congrats!!
There are more long chained omega 3s in breastmilk.
OP: Good luck, man. I’m almost to that stage as well and it sort of terrifies me. I just keep thinking about all the ways I could screw up fatherhood. But I’m sure you don’t share my insecurities. LOL.
[quote]jaybvee wrote:
Hello all:
Just wanted to know if there are any relatively new fathers on T-Nation & wanted to glean any insightful advice from you all in terms of what to expect… I know everyone’s advice is going to be “it’s not the same, every situation is different” but I wanted to still ask how has fatherhood changed has changed your lifting habits/goals, if any…
My wife & I are expecting our first baby this coming July (anxiously waiting to break the 3 month barrier as of next week) & she is already going through the whole morning sickness thing, increased appetite, etc.
I meanwhile am supporting her of course in any/every way I can but wanted to know from other lifters what modifications you made/are making to make sure lifting/a training regimen is still somehow taking place (if possible)
A co-worker said “face it; when the baby comes the last place you’re going to be is the gym for at least 6-9 months” Would you guys say this is a valid statement?
Hope to hear some good advice & suggestions (I’m still working on running more outdoors vs. the gym treadmill & tweaking bodyweight exercises at home vs. going to the gym)
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First off, for the next several month. Think of every possible scenario your child may encounter. What you will do when they occur, and they will occur. From sticking their hand in the diaper to figure out what’s in there. To sticking cooked peas up their nose. Help you with these two. First one is straight to the shower, not hot. Second have them breath in when cover other nostril and mouth.
Mental preparation is at least half the battle. The other half is being on the same page as your partner as to how you will handle things. So let your imaginations run wild, see how many you get and miss.
Responding to your child as quickly as possible. This is to help them develope a feeling of security. Quick responces also help deepen the bond between you.
Spent as much time talking and reading to them as you possible can. If both of these are practised during the first six years. The bond you develope with your child will carry you easily through the teen years.
Remember all the shit you did, it’s pay back. So figure out how to either prevent it or deal with it.
This will be a defining moment in your life. You are about to take on the most important job of your life. Have fun and enjoy every moment it’s an amazing career!
The love you give now. Is the love you get later.
[quote]lucasa wrote:
Became a dad for the first time 18 mo. ago and again three weeks ago.
Dedicated/not dedicated it doesn’t matter, the only certainty with regard to your routine (life, not just lifting) is that it will change. Priorities change, physiology changes, beliefs change. Before the first kid, lifting was synonymous with showering and brushing my teeth. After he was born, I struggled to lift even weekly (my gym is in my basement).
Lifting might and probably should suddenly take a back seat to a more complete education, a better paying job, a bigger house, bigger cars, better schools, etc., etc. I think planning your lifting schedule prior to a baby being born is really naive.
The most surprising aspect of it all for me was labor/delivery. TV/Hollywood has it all wrong.
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Question lucasa: First off congrats on the two kids, & how does TV/Hollywood have it all wrong? 
I’ve heard from co-workers about 45+ hr deliveries than they beg for an epidural…
I know lifting will take a backseat to much of what happens priority wise after the baby comes, I’m just mostly concerned & will focus on the cardio aspect so I don’t blow up worse than I am (current FB due to my self delusion I’m somewhat of a PL lol)
[quote]flightspeed wrote:
Girls are more expensive not because of clothes and stuff, but because of all the guns you have to buy and the moat you must install around your house. [/quote]
This is so true. And wait until the teenage years, when you realize yes, they will talk back.