Sure why not if you reschedule I don’t see why there should be a problem.
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You’re a 36/37 year old adult. You can do whatever you want. There are no ‘rules’ to dating. If you want to rest up, rest up.
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I’m 32 but thanks for rushing me lol
Spocko hears “You’re almost a pensioner…”
Of course you can take a rain check for tonight. I still think you should do the newspaper on fire, knock and run thing though, just in case he does something wrong.
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Then why the confusing 81? I swear I asked you that before in the past … damn my old memory
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Depending what you want to do, you can also call for an early night.
And I hesitate to open the can of worms of your schedule, lol, but why go to bed at 2 if you’ve got yourself trained to wake up at 5? Can you get to bed earlier?
Lastly, I’m pleased about the dinner invitation, whether you go or not!
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I only went to bed at two on the fridays because he is a night owl and that’s when we kept hanging out until, but its killing me.
And yes i went for dinner and it was wonderful 
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When I first signed up to the site I had no intention of having the confidence to be a real poster ,lol.
I planned on playing the part of an older Male.
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You a creep.
In all honesty, I really thought I had asked if you were born in ‘81 and I swear I have a recollection you said yes … this would have happened like 2 or 3 years ago and just illustrated I’'m losing my mind
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Here’s my tip for early relationship stuff (sounds like you’re in one of those now!): begin as you mean to go on. DO NOT fit yourself into a mold that makes him comfortable at your own expense. That’s what makes for shitty relationships. It’s fine to flex, you’ll both have to give some, but don’t set yourself up for later bitterness. Because eventually the bloom WILL be off the rose, and what you’ll be left with is what you created. So create something that’s mutually good.
Also, regarding the anxiety and needing stuff clarified that you mentioned upthread…do you ever do breathing exercises to calm down? Breathe in for a count of three, breathe out for a count of five? If so, try using words when you inhale and exhale…breathe in thinking “relax,” and then breathe slowly out thinking “it will all be okay” or something that soothes you. Like, whatever will talk to that place in you that’s freaking out. It could be anything: “it’s okay/I don’t need to know right now”…“stop worrying/just have fun” and so on.
If you don’t do deep breathing when your anxiety spikes, you should start. Not only does it help you refocus away from the anxiety trigger, but it slows things down physiologically.
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I recently completed ten months of training in breath work, and this is my experience as well. Your emotional state can affect your breathing (fight or flight, sympathetic response), but, you can also affect your emotional state by changing your breathing. In for three and out for five is good, 478 is also well known (in for four, hold for seven, out for eight - beats, not necessarily seconds).
Anxiety is often just enthusiasm mixed with fear. Breathing in the present eliminates the fear.
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Or it could be caused by her untreated thyroid condition 
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Lol maybe you just had a dream !! I’ve dreamt about t nation many times , there is no shame …
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I practice box breathing after every training session and regularly through the normal day. When I take ten minutes after training I have a breathing app I use that does the beats, in for five, hold for five, out for five, hold for five hence 'box breathing. I use the time to check my body all over to see if there are any niggles. Its very relaxing and calming after lifting.
I don’t do it for anxiety or anything but its useful, stops me strangling people.
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That might be if I slept
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I would say that the in-hold-release is not practical in social settings, though. And for Spock’s purposes, the self-talk is probably just as important, if not more so. “Calm down…no need to freak out” or whatever is going to hopefully stop her from acting on the compulsion to seek certainty, which has her stuck in a vicious loop. Has she found another asshole and should dump him, or is her anxiety pushing a reasonable person away - and then up ratchets the anxiety, making everything even more confusing and anxious-making.
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And fear is just False Evidence Appearing Real.
While doubt is just Debate On Understanding Bewildersome Thoughts
But we’re hoping for Romance, which is Relying On Magnificent And Necessary Compatible Energy
And Sober is just “Son Ofa Bitch, Everything’s Real”
For this, and many more, please consult your local Library of Gary Busey, where all books are written in screams.
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Maybe Emily, I was chatting to The Myth though as an aside. Not suggesting Spocko sits at the dinner table in her fancy leggings, earbuds in counting down from 5 repeatedly.
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I know. I was just chiming in because she’s is going to be out there, anxious, so I wanted to narrow it back to the Spock-friendliest option.
I’ve heard this works especially well to relieve stress if you couple it with a joint.
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