How many of us just googled “hot rock climber” ?
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Lol !!!
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I’m at work right now, but I def will when I get home!
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I think you mispelled something. Never trust the google suggestions. That doesn’t look anything like what I found!
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As a persistent serial pitter outer, don’t assume a lack of antiperspirant.
I could bathe in the stuff and will still have rings under my arms within 10 minutes of putting on a shirt.
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You sound quite the catch.
Hey spocko, I’ve found you a new plaything
I’ve learned to wear a lot of black.
But I’ve been married for over a decade, so it also helps that I’ve been long removed from the dating pool.
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I’m the wrong kind of Indian for that. Casino, not dot.
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yep.
This is one of the first things I try to pick out when I meet someone. If they feel like they’re ‘good enough’ for me. My physique makes a lot of girls I’ve been out with feel insecure, and that translates into a whooooole lot of bad shit.
It’s why I generally think girls who are very into lifting should mostly stick to guys who lift. Guys who don’t lift just tend to get so insecure about it. There are of course exceptions.
And to be fair, it happens both directions. I’ve been out with a handful of models who I can tell are trying to feel the same thing out with me. Each one has had stories about starting to date someone who tells them they’re totally ok with the modeling, then a month into the relationship they get paranoid and controlling and insecure.
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Generally, this illustrates a ‘revealed preference’ in that talk is cheap or don’t write a check your ass can’t cash. People try to lie to themselves all the time but, as we see all the time, time reveals someone’s true nature.
We all have insecurities and it takes a looooong time, a lot of effort, some honest self reflection and a mountain of humble pie to overcome them. Good post flip.
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he really doesnt give a shit about you one way or the other.
The main thing he is communicating is that hes fine for you to move on and find other men. This more like a dominance thing or clumsy way of letting you down gently/‘you’re not getting a long long term relationship out of me’
Ruffian totally on the money with this
Didnt realise you were a mother, -second you feel red flags/like guys might be pulling some douchey move, drop them immediately. Plenty of decent guys out there.
I highly recommend you read Why Men Marry Bitches by Argov (actually not that bitchy and full of sensible advice for modern dating). Before everything else men need to know you understand and appreciate the dynamics of respect.
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Yet here we are with no picture. I mean an ass that can climb is definitely picture material
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Spock, my heartfelt thanks to you for starting one of the best (non-lifting) TN threads in a long, looong time.
So many awesome posts in here. @ChickenLittle Holy crap, I think Google algorithms are frantically trying to figure out why “hot rock climber” is trending through the roof LOLLL!!!
Seriously though, EmilyQ nails it. Working on yourself here is the most important long term thing. Definitely think of this dude as a way to hit PRs for yourself; maybe you’ll keep him in the program, maybe you won’t. Pffft, he’s the fat, non-muscle-ly dude lol.
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Getting caught up again, and sorry to see it is not going well. You’re very self critical, but you’re not the one who messed this up.
It isn’t you, it’s him.
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I’ve been half-way doxxed here once. Not going to happen again.
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Does everyone else agree asking me about gym guys is a lame way of telling me to move on ??
I wish he was better at communicating because this is a very round about way of doing it.
It’s very insecure, for sure. It’s also silly to think that women are only into men with similar hobbies, or vice versa, but some people can’t let stuff like that go. Sometimes it’s true. One of the jiu jitsu gals I know posts her disdain for “weak” men who don’t train on social media, which isn’t doing a whole lot for her dating prospects as she approaches 40. Good luck with that one. She’s looking at a pool of maybe two dozen prospective weirdos state-wide.
He sounds very bad at communicating, no doubt about that at this point.
I take it no messages back?
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Yep it’s terrible and also well he is not exactly telling it either…
My last two exes were like that always making allusions or bad jokes to gym girls. Or that i was training for other girls and not myself… That was really annoying
I’ve read the whole thread and I identify to you because I’m also awkward with the opposite sex. But come on this guy annoys me. Why does he have to send the most mixed signals in the world.
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Most guys are pretty simple/direct. He was probably just assuming that based on common interest, which is somewhat reasonable.
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