Actually, Adam, I’ve been to Bangkok, and I lived in Singapore for three months (four, if you count the time I was a guest of the state… but that’s another story: http://www.t-nation.com/readArticle.do?id=1154027&cr=features )
I dodn’t learn much about the gay scene in either country, because I just wasn’t terribly interested.
HOWEVER, I did do some checking, and it does turn out that yes, you were correct, Singapore law punishes gay sex acts even if they are performed in the privacy of one’s own home, just like the sodomy laws of some US states. Of course, also just like those laws, heterosexual oral and anal sex are also criminalized.
In theory.
In practice, according to my flamboyant ex-colleague Chris, it’s a whole 'nother ball game… if you’ll pardon the pun.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singapore_gay_history:_2000_to_2009_A.D.
Gleaned from Wiki:
[i]On 1 December 2002, the Sunday Times printed an extract of a speech made by Minister of State for Health, Balaji Sadasivan: 'Research has also shown that the brain of homosexuals is structurally different from heterosexuals.
It is likely therefore that the homosexual tendency is imprinted in the brain in utero and homosexuals must live with the tendencies that they inherit as a result of the structural changes in their brain. Within the moral and cultural constraints of our society, we should be tolerant of those who may be different from most of us.’
In 2003, Prime Minister Goh Chok Tong, unprompted and of his own volition, was quoted as saying, ‘So let it evolve, and in time the population will understand that some people are born that way. We are born this way and they are born that way, but they are like you and me.’
He also stated that gays would now be allowed to serve in ‘sensitive positions’ in the Civil Service. The gay community was elated.[/i]
Can you imagine the President of the United States and his Surgeon General making such statements?