Yup, this is what I was getting at. There are 2 maybe 3 gay dudes where I work (6k employees) that I know of. No trans people that I’m aware of. I’ve never been anywhere a feminazi has insisted I’m part of the oppressive patriarchy or where a person has insisted I refer to them a Zi. It just doesn’t happen in real life all that often. What percentage of the population is even transgender? <1% I’d guess.
This is only an “issue” here because it’s sensational and grabs viewership from all sides.
Maybe? Unfortunately for who ever is engaged in this struggle, I live in a region that uses and abuses language like its a dirty hooker.
Like if someone gets all uppity about there pronoun, they should honestly expect “Yeah, zhe, whe, whatever the fuck, just give me a fucking cheeseburger, OK?”.
Its not intended to be personally offensive. Its just what happens when you have a whole shit ton of words for the same thing.
It’s because people just want to bitch about things, and with each solving of a past problem we create new ones to bitch about.
“Waaaa, they won’t let me identify as a woman” eventually turns into “all republicans hate gays” turns into “liberals assaulting conventional genders and trying to spread their gayness”
Ya, like @zecarlo said when it becomes a legislative issue that’s one thing, but I can think of, idk, 1,000 other issues more important than if someone wants to be referred to a Zi (or whatever).
I gotta admit, I have seen a very few people I couldn’t tell. No matter how long I stared. Then they spoke and I still couldn’t tell. And I look at the person’s name tag, and it was some very neutral name that could go either way. I was lost.
The one I am thinking of was a cashier at a grocery store. Man I could not tell what the hell he\she\it was…
I didn’t know what to say, so I was polite but overall quiet…
I’ll flush out every gay dude in your entire company with one walk through.
No kidding. My wife and I joke about it sometimes but she forgets. Then I went out to her office to paint. Right before we went in I told her to brace herself. Walked through, then 3,2,1… Her phone exploded.
Well, at least it keeps her on her toes, right?
If you know that will hurt their feelings then you are intentionally hurting their feelings.
Damn, you’re one handsome dude!
Except for a very small minority who are overly militant about it, people who identify differently are happy to politely correct you if you refer to them incorrectly, up to a point. What makes people get overly militant about it, though, is people who insist that they are right and refuse to accept someone else’s perspective, and refuse to respect someone else’s preference, hiding behind biology as a justification for being a jerk.
As someone who has gay friends and family members and transgender friends, I have been witness to far to much of the narrow-minded behavior that drives people to either over-the-top behavior, militant defense of who they are, or simply withdrawing to keep the peace while seething inside. Some are able to take a philosophical approach and let all the BS roll off them, but most people have a limit to what they can tolerate.
I’ve worked with government for 3 years now. In the past 12 months, I have attended 3 what I now fondly refer to as reprogramming sessions.
This is where I get to go and learn about my white male privilege and how I am the root of all evil lol
Nah. I look like a chipped ham sandwich that has been left out in the sun.
No, I am not. You can’t tell me how I feel!
I didn’t tell you how you feel.
You said I am doing it to intentionally hurt them. Which assumes my motivations.
Thank lawsuits for that. The government is just protecting itself when someone is accused of something.
Not me so much, I don’t think. Consider: You encounter an individual on the street. Their dress conforms perfectly with your expectations regarding how a female of their apparent age would dress. Likewise with every other aspect of their social signaling: Makeup, hair, nails, etc. Further, they carry and comport themselves in a way that is consistent with how women do (again, in your experience). Everything about them signals female except…You note certain physical traits–Adam’s apple; jawline; bony brow contour; hand size–that strike you as unmistakably male. Thus, you conclude that this individual’s body developed in a hormonal milieu associated with maleness, and infer their genotype is XY. But you also recognize that they have elected to broadcast, in as unmistakable a way as is possible, that they identify as female.
Then they drop their wallet (an adorable little number by Givenchy–fell right out the matching purse). Question: Are you going to call out ‘Sir,’ or ‘Ma’am’ to get their attention?
Actually I didn’t say that. I said you are intentionally hurting their feelings. Why you would do that, only you can answer.
Intentionally hurting their feelings, that I"m not doing.
Be back in a bit.
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