Gay Divorce 40% More Retarded Than Gay Marriage.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

[quote]lucasa wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

If it helps, as a married heterosexual I support your right to get married and I don’t even think you are going to destroy the souls of my children in the process! [/quote]

In the matter of reforming things, as distinct from deforming them, there is one plain and simple principle; a principle which will probably be called a paradox. There exists in such a case a certain institution or law; let us say, for the sake of simplicity, a fence or gate erected across a road. The more modern type of reformer goes gaily up to it and says, ‘I don’t see the use of this; let us clear it away.’ To which the more intelligent type of reformer will do well to answer: ‘If you don’t see the use of it, I certainly won’t let you clear it away. Go away and think. Then, when you can come back and tell me that you do see the use of it, I may allow you to destroy it.’
This paradox rests on the most elementary common sense. The gate or fence did not grow there. It was not set up by somnambulists who built it in their sleep. It is highly improbable that it was put there by escaped lunatics who were for some reason loose in the street. Some person had some reason for thinking it would be a good thing for somebody. And until we know what the reason was, we really cannot judge whether the reason was reasonable. It is extremely probable that we have overlooked some whole aspect of the question, if something set up by human beings like ourselves seems to be entirely meaningless and mysterious. There are reformers who get over this difficulty by assuming that all their fathers were fools; but if that be so, we can only say that folly appears to be a hereditary disease. But the truth is that nobody has any business to destroy a social institution until he has really seen it as an historical institution. If he knows how it arose, and what purposes it was supposed to serve, he may really be able to say that they were bad purposes, or that they have since become bad purposes, or that they are purposes which are no longer served. But if he simply stares at the thing as a senseless monstrosity that has somehow sprung up in his path, it is he and not the traditionalist who is suffering from an illusion.
– G.K. Chesterton

When I see homosexuals protesting unequal marriage laws (I don’t consider any marriage a right.) I see an overwhelming lack of knowledge of the history, use, and institution of marriage. Instead, I see illogical ‘race to the bottom’ comparisons that is very much meant to convey marriage as a senseless monstrosity, except, even more absurdly, the motive is to erect a second or broaden an already senseless monstrosity. I look, I see people claiming ‘homosexuals aren’t equal’. They don’t seem to realize some inequality has a purpose and some is intrinsic. We discriminate against parents for not tending their children the way we BELIEVE they should all the time. We discriminate against women firefighters who can’t carry equipment up stairs or handle a hose. They don’t seem to grasp that Communism has killed some 50 million people in the quest for absolute social equality. Most exemplary, I hear ‘The Nazis persecuted homosexuals too!’. Some of the Nazis WERE homosexuals and the Nazis persecuted EVERYBODY and WTF relevance does Nazi persecution have on gay marriage? If gay marriage weren’t such a lightening rod for mutated logic AND poor moral (again, not in the religious sense) decision-making, I wouldn’t pay attention.

Personally, homosexuality is a quintessential non-issue. If you look at anyone from Alexander the Great to Alan Turing and pondered their value to society or history, if their homosexuality is near the top of the list, you’ve missed a few things. To me, in 200 years when being human no longer implies actually having a physical human body, lots of this bullshit is going to seem really narrow minded (except the soul part, that will probably be EVEN MORE relevant). If that doesn’t happen, we’re going to have a hard time not discriminating against homosexuals when we want to colonize a planet. I think, pretty clearly, my concern isn’t about forlife destroying my children’s souls.[/quote]

Listen we are on the same page when it comes to getting the government out of the marriage business. I think that is the source of the inequality everyone is so worked up over now.

Discriminating against women firefighters, women in the infantry, old men joining the service, etc. there are at least justifiable reasons for doing so: they cannot perform the required tasks. I see this analogy of discrimination thrown around a lot (ZEB most recently) and it is a very poor one. To have it be analogous or appropriate you would have to show that homosexuals are, barring outlier cases, incapable of being married effectively at least as compared to heterosexuals (who are allowed “in”). This is clearly not the case. It is also a bad analogy because it presumes marriage to be on par with a job or some task with clearly defined necessary requirements, but it is not at all.

I also agree with your final paragraph, which is why I find it interesting you oppose gay marriage in the first place. Homosexuality pretty much is a non-issue. There have been loads of great gay men and women throughout history. There have been more than plenty who weren’t. The Greeks and Romans, cradles of Western civilization, all were more or less fine with homosexuality PARTICULARLY among the elite class. If that doesn’t show us that it basically doesn’t fucking matter if you bone other men or not I am not sure what does.

So why do we really give a shit if gay people get married? If being gay does not preclude you from doing great things, being an admirable person or a society from doing great things just what exactly are we so terrified is going to happen to society if we admit gay people have a right to exist unmolested?[/quote]

An excellent post as it forces the light weight thinkers who come late to the party poke their heads and stupidly say “duh i don’t see nutin rong wid dem dar homosexuals getin hitched” to think beyond the face of the issue. To examine it at a deeper level relative to why change, which they do not understand, may very well effect them much later on in ways that they will not like.

Really great job!

I really don’t cae what any psychologist out for $$$ has to say…but any guys who want to put their penis into another guy’s butt or vice versa is just plain sick. It has to be a mental pathology, to want to do things like that.

A penis is meant to go into a woman for the purpose of having kids. We can do things like wear condoms and prevent that from happening but even the most whacked out gay has to admit that the physical reason why a penis exists is to piss and to send sperm into a woman to make kiddies.

I don’t see any reason for any controversy.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

Discriminating against women firefighters, women in the infantry, old men joining the service, etc. there are at least justifiable reasons for doing so: they cannot perform the required tasks. I see this analogy of discrimination thrown around a lot (ZEB most recently) and it is a very poor one.[/quote]

It’s an excellent comparison and fits quite perfectly. Forliar has said many times do not judge the entire homosexual population by the most of the gay men who live promiscuous lives. Well do not judge all those over 40 too harshly. Just because most of them couldn’t pass a military fitness test does not mean that there are some who could pass with flying colors.

It’s the same thing and once again you are arguing just to argue. You have no point. You like the idea of gay marriage, but you cannot justify it in any way. You’d tried now several times and have fallen flat.

Want to try again?

[quote]So why do we really give a shit if gay people get married?
If being gay does not preclude you from doing great things, being an admirable person or a society from doing great things just what exactly are we so terrified is going to happen to society if we admit gay people have a right to exist unmolested?[/quote]

And why do you give a shit if we allow incestual couples and polygamists to marry? I see you ducked that question when I asked it earlier. Tell me where do we draw the line? Or, is drawing any sort of line discriminatory in your mind? How do you define marriage? Is marriage simply anything that each generation wants it to be?

If you are a human being you are considered married because otherwise you are being discriminated against. Can you hear it now? “Why should I have to get married to get the benefits of someone who is married?”

You have no answers because you are not thinking deeply enough about the topic. What you are doing quite well is following the politically correct, pop culture to the letter!

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

Discriminating against women firefighters, women in the infantry, old men joining the service, etc. there are at least justifiable reasons for doing so: they cannot perform the required tasks. I see this analogy of discrimination thrown around a lot (ZEB most recently) and it is a very poor one.[/quote]

It’s an excellent comparison and fits quite perfectly. Forliar has said many times do not judge the entire homosexual population by the most of the gay men who live promiscuous lives. Well do not judge all those over 40 too harshly. Just because most of them couldn’t pass a military fitness test does not mean that there are some who could pass with flying colors.

It’s the same thing and once again you are arguing just to argue. You have no point. You like the idea of gay marriage, but you cannot justify it in any way. You’d tried now several times and have fallen flat.

Want to try again?

[quote]So why do we really give a shit if gay people get married?
If being gay does not preclude you from doing great things, being an admirable person or a society from doing great things just what exactly are we so terrified is going to happen to society if we admit gay people have a right to exist unmolested?[/quote]

And why do you give a shit if we allow incestual couples and polygamists to marry? I see you ducked that question when I asked it earlier. Tell me where do we draw the line? Or, is drawing any sort of line discriminatory in your mind? How do you define marriage? Is marriage simply anything that each generation wants it to be?

If you are a human being you are considered married because otherwise you are being discriminated against. Can you hear it now? “Why should I have to get married to get the benefits of someone who is married?”

You have no answers because you are not thinking deeply enough about the topic. What you are doing quite well is following the politically correct, pop culture to the letter!
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Cool Zeb I get it- as does everyone here- that analogies are not your strong suit. It is fine. The natural response to someone showing you that you don’t have a grasp on it like you think you do is to fly off the handle, insult them, and then talk about how “they’re too young to know SHIT!”. You just keep on showing the maturity and wisdom you keep claiming to have so much of and the world will come around to your views, I’m just sure of it! Everyone knows name calling and ad hominems are the hallmarks of all the great minds of our time.

As far as incestual marriages go? Should I go by tradition and historical precedent? Because incestual marriage has been practiced by most royalty around the world for hundreds of years and has been condoned by the church and a whole host of other non-pc religious institutions. Or does tradition, precedent and condoning by the largest cultural and religious institutions in the world not matter now that it doesn’t square with your world view or particular time frame?

Personally I find it distasteful (as most naturally do), but I have no issue with incestual marriage if that is what they want to do. It has a naturally low rate of occurrence anyways and I can think of no reason it harms anyone in a way that we should systematically ban it. The world didn’t blow up when basically all the leaders and ‘role models’ of the world were doing it so I don’t see any reason for the world to blow up now.

Should culture define marriage? Absolutely it should as it always has. Call me a traditionalist. The only time we should prohibit a marriage at the governmental level is when it involves coercion or those unable to enter voluntary agreements competently (like children).

And if you would care to put two and two together from any of the statements mentioned, I think the discrimination comes in because the government gives special treatment to married heterosexuals. Outside of the gay marriage issue I think this is wrong and discriminatory. But when you throw in the fact the state won’t let others marry as they see fit, even when there is extraordinary cultural precedent for it (polygamy anyone?), is where it becomes INSTITUTIONALLY discriminatory.

If the government wasn’t picking winners and losers in the marriage game, I would see no discrimination. If you want to denounce gay marriage and not associate with gay people go for it. That is your prerogative. It is only when the government gets into the business of saying “these folks get a tax break for a particular relationship type we just happen to like and these don’t” that I have the issue.

[quote]ZEB wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

Discriminating against women firefighters, women in the infantry, old men joining the service, etc. there are at least justifiable reasons for doing so: they cannot perform the required tasks. I see this analogy of discrimination thrown around a lot (ZEB most recently) and it is a very poor one.[/quote]

It’s an excellent comparison and fits quite perfectly. Forliar has said many times do not judge the entire homosexual population by the most of the gay men who live promiscuous lives. Well do not judge all those over 40 too harshly. Just because most of them couldn’t pass a military fitness test does not mean that there are some who could pass with flying colors.

It’s the same thing and once again you are arguing just to argue. You have no point. You like the idea of gay marriage, but you cannot justify it in any way. You’d tried now several times and have fallen flat.

Want to try again?
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By the by, I personally think if you can pass any and all physical and psychological tests you should be permitted to serve or work regardless of age. Just because the US military is currently preventing you doesn’t mean it is necessarily right. That is pretty much the definition of discrimination at that point.

Just so I can cut off what will surely be your reply, this is why your military-service-exclusion-same as gay marriage analogy is a poor one, particularly given our current laws.

If you have a job that has clear physical or mental requirements to perform it, it makes sense to NOT hire or allow someone to get that job, particularly if them failing to do the job would endanger others. Quite simply they cannot do the job and not doing the job hurts someone (the employer or other employees). If your job requires you to lift 100lb. bags, or occasionally grown human bodies, and carry them large distances you need to be able to do that consistently. If you can show that, as an overwhelming rule, a class of people cannot perform this job (like women for example) it is reasonable to exclude them from this line of work. This is why women and older folks are legally disallowed from joining the military.

Now, how does the institution of marriage (or more specifically the banning of gay marriage) even remotely begin to compare to the above situation? In order to do this you would need to provide the following:

  • First off, and most importantly, show that marriage can be evaluated like any job
  • Prove and show that there are definite physical and mental requirements for marriage
  • Prove that homosexuals, polygamists, et al. are incapable, as an overwhelming general rule, of meeting these requirements BY VIRTUE OF THEIR ORIENTATION in a way heterosexuals are able to
  • And then prove that to allow someone to marry without meeting the above are harming or disadvantaging others.

Since there is no employer-employee relationship in a marriage arrangement, no “job” that must be done, no easily definable list of requirements to marry, and no evidence that anyone is tangibly harmed by two (or more) people voluntarily marrying even if they fail to achieve a certain outcome, it is pretty difficult to conceive how this is some breathtakingly, iron clad analogy.

So I guess my point is, you’re justification for disallowing gay marriage in this instance is flat out wrong. Want to try again?

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

Listen we are on the same page when it comes to getting the government out of the marriage business. I think that is the source of the inequality everyone is so worked up over now.[/quote]

Men do not differ much about what things they will call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable. – same.

If you want the government out of the marriage business, why are you supporting a Federally-recognized marital privilege for homosexuals (and presumably, a divorce privilege as well)?

You picked the low hanging apple and a couple more up off the ground and left the coconut at the top of the tree. We discriminate against people for all kinds of things. We arrest and jail people for being in the vicinity of property they don’t own that has illicit drug residue. What task aren’t they performing? We’ll find parents negligent and break up a family for spanking a child, exposing a child to even modestly improper behavior, or bringing a sharp object to school. Is the case that they aren’t performing a task or that they’re performing a task in a manner that some of us find unacceptable?

Crack open your history book (I don’t care which book you use or if you even choose to use a book) and tell me 10 absolutely essential (If you don’t have X, Y, and Z, you don’t even have a marriage.) reasons why marriage was created. I bet you don’t find 10. If you find 5 I bet strictly monogamous homosexual relationships violate at least two and at least two others have been entirely obsoleted by more ‘progressive’ legislation that’s at least 20-30 yrs. old if not older.

At least in my case, it’s only poor if wrongly considered, don’t even think a great number of heterosexuals should be in the ‘in’. Why should it be expanded to homosexuals? Again, if you’re in favor of “getting the government out of the marriage business”, why do you favor more marriage, not less?

Moreover, the same poor logic that you guard against in your statement is practically the basis for the arguments in favor of homosexual marriage. If marriage is centered around rewarding reproduction (or the intent), pro-homosexuals will point to the outliers who knowingly cannot reproduce and who are still allowed to marry as justification of homosexual marriage. If marriage is about fidelity or monogamy, pro-homosexuals will point to the 10% of couples who cheat as justification for homosexual marriage. If marriage is about stable cohabitation, pro-homosexuals will point to the 55% of marriages that end in divorce ignoring the fact that these numbers are derived from 5-10% of people who can’t manage to stay married for 1-2 yrs. I (obviously, I hope) don’t mean to paint all the argument against Federal marriage as completely bunk, but at least some of these arguments should support more marriage. Most of the arguments I’ve seen in favor of gay marriage show questionable benefits of monogamous marriage (especially wrt to the people who don’t get married) with little evidence that of same benefits being derived from gay marriage.

Untrue. Marriage was instituted (multiple times over and still exists today) as a duty to the throne with some pretty clear requirements. At least one of those being a duty that two monogamous homosexuals cannot perform. I agree the direct analogy is a bad analogy (it was intended indirectly), a woman can ‘gain the ability’ to carry a fire hose and maintain the essential characteristics of a woman. Depending on how you define marriage, homosexuals cannot.

You have very much misread your history books. Bisexuality was much more accepted and only in niche corners of the world was homosexuality held in the same regard as heterosexuality. Homosexuality wasn’t necessarily hated (I don’t think it’s hated today), but there are certainly cases where it was frowned upon. (Re)Read your Greek and Roman (and your Hindu and Buddhist while your at it) philosophers and mentalists, many frowned upon pretty much any unnecessary focus on the flesh. Some rather explicitly, regard pederasty as a good practice so long as it is non-sexual.

Just as a quick test to show what I’m talking about; the woman who marries an Greek or Roman (or Chinese, etc.) Emperor is an Empress, what is the man who marries an Emperor called?

You’re right, It doesn’t make any sense why this rickety old gate was put up. We should just build another one… poorly.

No joke, this paragraph makes me nauseous and my nausea has nothing to do with gay marriage.

It’s the first effect of not believing in God that you lose your common sense. – same.

[quote]lucasa wrote:

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

Listen we are on the same page when it comes to getting the government out of the marriage business. I think that is the source of the inequality everyone is so worked up over now.[/quote]

Men do not differ much about what things they will call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable. – same.

If you want the government out of the marriage business, why are you supporting a Federally-recognized marital privilege for homosexuals (and presumably, a divorce privilege as well)?

You picked the low hanging apple and a couple more up off the ground and left the coconut at the top of the tree. We discriminate against people for all kinds of things. We arrest and jail people for being in the vicinity of property they don’t own that has illicit drug residue. What task aren’t they performing? We’ll find parents negligent and break up a family for spanking a child, exposing a child to even modestly improper behavior, or bringing a sharp object to school. Is the case that they aren’t performing a task or that they’re performing a task in a manner that some of us find unacceptable?

Crack open your history book (I don’t care which book you use or if you even choose to use a book) and tell me 10 absolutely essential (If you don’t have X, Y, and Z, you don’t even have a marriage.) reasons why marriage was created. I bet you don’t find 10. If you find 5 I bet strictly monogamous homosexual relationships violate at least two and at least two others have been entirely obsoleted by more ‘progressive’ legislation that’s at least 20-30 yrs. old if not older.

At least in my case, it’s only poor if wrongly considered, don’t even think a great number of heterosexuals should be in the ‘in’. Why should it be expanded to homosexuals? Again, if you’re in favor of “getting the government out of the marriage business”, why do you favor more marriage, not less?

Moreover, the same poor logic that you guard against in your statement is practically the basis for the arguments in favor of homosexual marriage. If marriage is centered around rewarding reproduction (or the intent), pro-homosexuals will point to the outliers who knowingly cannot reproduce and who are still allowed to marry as justification of homosexual marriage. If marriage is about fidelity or monogamy, pro-homosexuals will point to the 10% of couples who cheat as justification for homosexual marriage. If marriage is about stable cohabitation, pro-homosexuals will point to the 55% of marriages that end in divorce ignoring the fact that these numbers are derived from 5-10% of people who can’t manage to stay married for 1-2 yrs. I (obviously, I hope) don’t mean to paint all the argument against Federal marriage as completely bunk, but at least some of these arguments should support more marriage. Most of the arguments I’ve seen in favor of gay marriage show questionable benefits of monogamous marriage (especially wrt to the people who don’t get married) with little evidence that of same benefits being derived from gay marriage.

Untrue. Marriage was instituted (multiple times over and still exists today) as a duty to the throne with some pretty clear requirements. At least one of those being a duty that two monogamous homosexuals cannot perform. I agree the direct analogy is a bad analogy (it was intended indirectly), a woman can ‘gain the ability’ to carry a fire hose and maintain the essential characteristics of a woman. Depending on how you define marriage, homosexuals cannot.

You have very much misread your history books. Bisexuality was much more accepted and only in niche corners of the world was homosexuality held in the same regard as heterosexuality. Homosexuality wasn’t necessarily hated (I don’t think it’s hated today), but there are certainly cases where it was frowned upon. (Re)Read your Greek and Roman (and your Hindu and Buddhist while your at it) philosophers and mentalists, many frowned upon pretty much any unnecessary focus on the flesh. Some rather explicitly, regard pederasty as a good practice so long as it is non-sexual.

Just as a quick test to show what I’m talking about; the woman who marries an Greek or Roman (or Chinese, etc.) Emperor is an Empress, what is the man who marries an Emperor called?

You’re right, It doesn’t make any sense why this rickety old gate was put up. We should just build another one… poorly.

No joke, this paragraph makes me nauseous and my nausea has nothing to do with gay marriage.

It’s the first effect of not believing in God that you lose your common sense. – same.
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Great post Lucasa.

[quote]Headhunter wrote:
I really don’t cae what any psychologist out for $$$ has to say…but any guys who want to put their penis into another guy’s butt or vice versa is just plain sick. It has to be a mental pathology, to want to do things like that.

A penis is meant to go into a woman for the purpose of having kids. We can do things like wear condoms and prevent that from happening but even the most whacked out gay has to admit that the physical reason why a penis exists is to piss and to send sperm into a woman to make kiddies.

I don’t see any reason for any controversy. [/quote]

Ah, I see.

You never had a blowjob in your life because it is “unnatural”.

Carry on.

Perhaps we could just declare women’s mouth to be made for swallowing men’s seed?

Just to be sure, let’s declare an ass to be made only to shit, fart, sit upon and recieve suppositories.

But beware: a suppository that feels good when inserted is totally unnatural!

[quote]Schwarzfahrer wrote:
Perhaps we could just declare women’s mouth to be made for swallowing men’s seed?

Just to be sure, let’s declare an ass to be made only to shit, fart, sit upon and recieve suppositories.

But beware: a suppository that feels good when inserted is totally unnatural![/quote]

If it is warm, and/or vibrates it is practically an abomination.

St Paul said so, in his letter titled: “Things that are fun and that the son of God totally failed to mention in his 33 years among us so I am telling you now”.

[quote]kilpaba wrote:

Forlife […] If it helps, as a married heterosexual I support your right to get married and I don’t even think you are going to destroy the souls of my children in the process! [/quote]

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